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The owl is beautiful! I hear them at night calling to each other on the farm. I always wonder what they are saying. Hoooot, hoot, hoooot,hoot! I think i'm lonely
Michelle we raise our children to be who they become. Your son knows how much you love him. We will never stop loving our children, we're moms. My Michael will live in my heart and the hearts of those who knew him for the rest of our lives.
Marilyn I have days just like yours. Struggling to face the reality. I look at the calendar yet it feels like no time at all has passed. I'm functioning but am I living? My heart is still pumping but am I really breathing?
I was feeling ok the other day until I had to go pick someone up at the airport. Last year right at this time I took a trip to London with my Michael. As I looked around I could see him walking through the airport. I could hear him and how excited he was. My eyes started to swell up and I couldn't refocus. Just then a lady came up to me all excited and asked me if I was waiting for my son to arrive from a graduation trip. I broke. Couldn't stop the tears.
Thank you Mary,
Will try and get hold of both the books,hopefully can get them online.
"every little thing is going to be all right"...powerful and affirmative a statement. Thank you, will hang on to it.. Tk care all.
Mary, I want to share what someone very close to me asked me to do in a different context but it works nevertheless. Just breathe deeply for a little time, forget and drop the thoughts for just a while and feel the tension ease-- all is well , pls believe that and sleep..love to u and all here.
The pain and exhaustion will gradually subside. Your body along with your heart has been through a traumatic experience, and the exhaustion is your body trying to heal itself. When your grieving, especially for your child the body breaks down also. Sometimes it can make you very physically ill. It will take a while for your body to start to function normal again.
Marilyn, since my son Chris died, I have seen 2 seagulls fly over the backyard, one fly over a place I call my sanctuary (á small stream near a walking path in my subdivision), one fly past my car at Walmart (that one after asking Chris to let me see another one); I saw a turtle stopped on the path near my sanctuary. At home I heard flute music (no radio or tv was on) and the Notre Dame fight song (he graduated from ND); a clock play music weeks after I set it to NOT play music, and some other unusual and unexplained occurrences. I don't think these things are coincidences.
Mary we all want to be angry at someone. Before my sons death I had no contact with my ex-husband and wanted none. Funny thing is.. now I am his support. Knowing the pain I feel I know his is greater. He didn't have the relationship I had with my Michael, and now he has to live with that. While this may have been an opportunity to throw it all in his face....I couldn't. Instead I figured his pain has to be much greater than what I feel. I know he loved his son and as mad as Michael got with him on occasions I know he loved his dad. I've decided to let all that past pain go because in reality I have no room in my body for any other pain then what I'm feeling over losing my Michael.
Rosemary - I am so so sorry for your loss. We know that horredous pain and gulit. As much as we want to always protect our children, we just can't. They have their own lives and destinies. I still think that I made wrong choices and should have done things differently so my Daniel wouldn't have been here to get into his friends car and die 20 minutes later. But I don't know that it would have changed things and it will drive you crazy beating yourself up. It sounds like you loved and helped your son alot but he made his own choices which you had no control over. For me, having faith in Spirit and reading books like Mary suggested helps me get through the days somehow. God bless you and keep you strong.
Hello everyone, I have struggled with the thoughts of me some how being punished by our creator, I have felt like what pain and suffering could possibly be worse than this!? If I had a choice, surely I would have opted for a different punishment. I guess I feel this way because in a 'perfect' world....at least in mine's, no one should ever suffer like this, no one should come to know this pain, no parent would ever bury their child. I don't get it, I guess I never will. I don't get the purpose or the reason, maybe that's why I feel like I'm being punished.
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