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Happy birthday to Randy in heaven.
Connie, You're right. I can't believe how angry I was. I felt like a tearful pressure cooker that just kept exploding. The only good thing I can say about the anger is that it was exhausting. Once I calmed down I went to bed and actually slept for more than 3 hours. That's the most sleep I've had at one time in weeks. I hope your day got calmer. I'm so sorry to hear about your car accident and son's dog. I can only imagine what it was like to lose that living reminder of your son. I am so very thankful for my granddaughter. It's bittersweet to look at her because she looks so much like her mommy.
sorry RJ and Connie.. what awful days for you too... and poor Metta.. there's nothing I can say except sorry...
sounds like a lovely day all way around....
Damnit. I just had a car accident where I was at a stop sign and turned right onto a busy road. Ther is a gas station right at the corner with a big old bush there. When I turned, a lady was stopped trying to enter the gas station as there was another car in front of her. I couldn't see her car behind the bush and i rear ended her. It was not that big of a deal because everyone WAS OKAY. But the impact through me into a tailspin about my son's accident. Why couldn't HE have been okay. The other 2 boys were fine. Oh God. And as I am cleaning out my car to be towed, they delivered my sweet Daniel's doggie, Axle who had to be out down on Mother's Day. I just feel so alone right now. This world is so hard to be in some days.
Metta - life is too short. It's good you said what you felt. Unfortunately those who have not experienced this loss cannot grasp the depth of it. I hope your letter will enlighten her and she will understand better how your daughter is feeling. Hugs.
I just posted this on the facebook page of my daughter's mother in law. I should feel sorry, but I don't. I just wish I had posted it at the beginning of their "visit"
Dear Nancy,
Did you know there are a number of life altering events that are considered the most stressful a person can go through? One is a pregnancy, another is moving (especially when you don't know where you and your family will live) and another is the death of a loved one. Sadly, Lindsay experience all three in a matter of weeks. She is also under a year sober and making every effort to build a healthy and sane life without alcohol.
It's hard for me to express just how shocked, angry, and disappointed I am with your behavior. When someone you profess to care about flat out tells you more than once that this is NOT a good time for a visit...you should be pay attention. It is not only thoughtless but cruel to put your wishes above the needs my daughter. How dare you.
Think about how YOU would feel if someone had planned a vacation to visit you....and then one of your children died. I'll say it again...if one of your children DIED. They decide they are still going to come, even though you asked them not to, even though you have no desire to entertain, even though what they want to do is not what you need to do. Even though you need to be in nature and you want to stay in hotels. Even though you need to take care of your health, the health of your unborn child, your sobriety, and your sanity. Even though you need time to cry and grieve the loss of your only sister, they decide to come for a visit anyway. What thoughtful and caring guests.
I raised my daughters to honor and value family. She didn't say don't come at all, just don't come right now. Lindsay loves her husband and chose to not push the issue when you decided to put YOUR wants above her needs. She will likely be angry with me for even telling you this. I don't care.
Would YOU sit by and say nothing to the person who is being a bully to your only surviving child? I think not. You owe my daughter more than a heartfelt apology. You should beg her forgiveness for putting your desires above her needs.
this month sucks!
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