for loved ones who have lost someone to suicide

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Comment by Dani Moses on July 6, 2010 at 10:05am

The one year anniversary of my mom's death is coming up this Sunday and it's really hitting me hard. I have so many regrets. I try not to play the what-if game but it's so easy to get sucked into at times. I joined the group hoping to find some comfort. No one can truly understand how bad it hurts and leaves you confused, angry, guilty, and so many other emotions when you've lost someone to suicide unless you've been there. No one around me understands and I really hate feeling so alone.

Comment by Lilly pizer on April 27, 2010 at 7:01pm

i'm very sorry for your loss, Dana, its the most difficult thing I have ever had to deal with myself. Even though its been many years it still hurts deeply. We are here for you, its great having people to sound off too! I wish I had joined sooner.

Comment by Dana Allen on April 26, 2010 at 5:40pm

My husband committed suicide on 09/24/09 and I'm just looking for somewhere to sound off and get others views. How they coped with the loss? I'm a strong Christian and God is carrying me, but there are so many unanswered questions with suicide.

Comment by krr on April 24, 2010 at 10:15am

Lilly,
Everything you say is correct, and I feel the same way right now we are lost and in a lonely house. What helps me take my mind off of it is to focus on raising my daughter. She graduates HS in 2-months. Sometimes we can only deal with this a minute at a time. We also find ourselves referring to mom, and the way she did things.

Comment by Lilly pizer on April 24, 2010 at 6:43am

kevin...I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel better, there really are no words that can uplift your soul. At least thats how I felt when my husband died 11 years ago but I hope it helps to know that people care. Hang on to your daughter, I'm glad you have each other, my daughter basically saved my life, she gave me a purpose, a reason to get up every day. I dont know what would have happened if i didn't have her. When my husband died, I had a fear that I would forget things about him, at first I tried to write them down in a jounal, but then I decided I would just talk about him whenever a thought came up I would just say it out loud, "Oh you dad's favorite vegetable was corn", "When you sit like that you remind me so much of your dad", it probably made other people wonder when is she going to stop talking about him, but I wanted my daughter to know who he was and what he was like and I didn't want to forget. I don't know when the time is right, I don't know if the pain is too unbearable now or if now would be a good time to start, but that really helped me keep him alive in my heart and mind. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

Comment by krr on April 23, 2010 at 9:16pm

2 weeks ago, my wife chose to take her own life while I was at work and my 18-year old daughter was at school, 1-week after my daughter's birthday. We had been married 19 good and loving years. We are crushed and miss mom so much the agony of her being gone is almost unbearable.
Kevin

Comment by Lilly pizer on April 21, 2010 at 6:32am

My husband was terminally ill with cancer and sufferred for a year, then one day he asked me to go to the grocery store to buy him some tangerines and when I came home, I found him, he had shot himself in the head. I didn't even know he had bought a gun. When I think back even though all the signs were there, I didn't see them. I was sure he was going to get better, he was only 30 years old, our dtr was 8 months old, now she is 11. Eventhough I know its true, it still seems unbelievable after 11 years. I still have questions about it I hope one day will be answered.

Comment by Richard Lewis on March 11, 2010 at 5:18pm

Rachel, I have had two suicides, the first was in 2006 my youngest son shot himself, Then in Feb of 2010 my Grandson Hung himself. So this very fresh in my mind. To answer your question. To support your friend Just be there for her and Listen but don'tjoin in to a What if party..... I have come to realize that The person who takes their own lives are not Thinking of anything more than the pain that they have, and seldom do it to hurt someone else....... Just be her friend.... God bless you for being there.

Comment by donna henderson on February 10, 2010 at 1:29pm

rachel be there for her that is all you can do, hanging is perhaps one of the most violent and painful ways to die, a part of me still does not believe that my cousin hung himself. But what helps is having friends and family. I too have been down that road and I realize that suicide is not the answer. Life is a gift a very precious gift not meant to be squandered.

Comment by donna henderson on November 4, 2009 at 9:02pm

i think my cousin had many problems including addiction, he also lost his best friend two years ago in a motorcycle accident, they are buried together in the cemetery in an double plot.

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