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Comment by Connie K on April 22, 2016 at 1:58pm

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A Medium's Message of Hope:

 It’s become typical – yet still always surprising – to hear from souls during a session who were themselves bereaved parents on the earth, that not only was the struggle of their lifetime here necessary, but “worth it”. That’s a rather spectacular statement to make, considering how we already know how difficult the path of a bereaved parent is. Let’s face it – things have to be pretty darn good in the hereafter, for (formerly) bereaved parents to tell us here that every minute of the struggle here to continue after a devastating loss is not only worth the immense cost to us, but it was necessary to their spiritual growth and reward in their new world of joy.

The souls tell me that reunion with the children they longed so much to see again is breathtaking, and one of the most curious things they encounter is that with regard to appearances, not a second seemed to have passed since they last saw their children. It seems literally as if we pick up exactly where we left off, and that only once we are comfortable, we get to see the progression of the souls of our children almost exactly as it would have happened on the earth. It’s one of the joys the souls are most happy about – not having lost a minute of their child’s growth and maturity.

What is so encouraging about sessions like these, where bereaved parents “talk” to parents here, is that they don’t try to minimize the entire spiritual journey of a parent here by tossing out phrases like “it all gets better” or “you do get rewarded, so relax” – they take the journey both they and we have gone through with a seriousness that is unlike any other time in sessions. The experience of having lost a child on the earth and having struggled through the most difficult challenge of this lifetime (their words) has not at all been forgotten by the souls – but it has been forgiven, since they now see the arc of their lives, and the lives of their children, and how necessary it all was as a means to a magnificent end.

I can’t make you feel better when your heart is broken by just telling you that as a bereaved parent, it will get better one day –that is part of the spiritual lesson each of us will learn here. But I can remind you that when life seems at its most cruel and hopeless, parents just like you survived it. They not only survived, but they found everything they had lost, and much, much more. I hope the example of these brave souls and their incredible words can at least help us understand that there is Light ahead, and no matter how hard it is, we have to keep walking toward that Light, where everything we love and have lost is waiting for us in a world where no harm will ever come to our loved ones or us again. From your sisters and brothers who walked the same path as you, and came out the other side in joy, you know they can be trusted to tell you the truth. And it’s pretty spectacular.            

                                                               ~ Psychic Medium George Anderson

 

 

Comment by Jill E on April 22, 2016 at 1:34pm

I find comfort here. Thank you.

Comment by Jill E on April 22, 2016 at 1:33pm

Connie-I am so sorry about your arm. I feel like physical pain and emotional pain feed off each other making them Eve more intense, if that makes sense. Derek is doing ok. The journalism job he got in San Antonio area just drained him 8:00 a.m. To 8:00 p.m. Many days. They "let him go" after 3 months. His boss did not follow the state guidelines so he received unemployment. He couldn't live on what he was making. Found another job in a Call Center. Not his cup of tea but it is a job. With his learning disability and his brother he must be having a hard time and he doesn't talk about it to me. I hate to bring it up if I am not physically with him to comfort each other.

Oh boy do I have a "mask" and it never gets dusty as I wear it every day. It makes it easier. Easier for others around me and me too because I don't have to explain my grief, my pain. No one understands like we do. There is this pain that is just barely under our skin, it is constantly there. It comes out sometimes for no apparent reasons and more time that not with me the tears come. There is no answer only pain. My life is filled with pain. It is always there just waiting. It hurts. Nothing absolutely nothing will take it away.
I pray everyday that I will get to see my Joshie someday, I am so afraid I won't. I wish I had done so many things differently. Too late. WYWH My Joshie, my son.

Comment by Patty on April 22, 2016 at 12:58pm

When I told my friend I was living to see my daughter again he said he was afraid God was going to be angry because I wasted my life grieving.  I had no idea how to respond to this.  Would God not understand that I can't help how I feel? When an impaired driver took her life he took my whole future.  He took my daughter, any grandchildren I could have had, everything.  Connie, I agree about feeling bad about everything all the time. It's so exhausting. Toni, your remark about letting your mask down really hit me because that's my way of dealing with the outside world.  I have my mask on all the time.  I learned a long time ago that people didn't REALLY want to know how I was feeling when they asked.

Comment by Connie K on April 22, 2016 at 11:22am

Toni - I feel the same. Nice to hear from yo. Jill - How is Derek doing in his new job?

I started walking my dog with my good hand (duh) and 2 days ago as we approached two other dogs I should have crossed the street but the guy said they are friendly - not so much. one started sort of snapping and lunging and I instinctively grabbed the leash with my right hand. Damn! Well guess it moved the bone and plate. May have to have another surgery. Going crazy..... Makes me feel ike i always make wrong chpices. I thought I had moved past a lot of my guilt surrounding Daniel's passing, but it just all came back. I know I was a good mom but I could have done so many things better and differently that may have changed events. I guess we all do that. It gets you nowhere I know. So tired of feeling bad about everything all the time...

Comment by Jill E on April 21, 2016 at 9:34pm

Thank goodness. My birthday number 58 is almost over. I keep thinking about the phone calls from my Joshie. I never wanted him to spend money on me. All I needed was him. My Derek did call me from San Antonio. I am so thankful for him but he does carry a big load. He lost his brother, he has to put up with my paranoia, my worries, my constant calls. My fears. WYWH My Joshie I love you.

Comment by toni m dicarlo on April 21, 2016 at 3:52pm

After Gabriel died almost every one went back to their happy lives and happy children and now 5 years as of May 26th they sometimes ask are you ok because you look sad today and I realize I let my i'm ok mask down. Time has helped me to be able to smile again and sometimes laugh but when I'm alone I feel the heavy weight in my chest and the sad thoughts that if God calls me home today then I will celebrate, I keep these thoughts to myself but the thought of seeing Lolly again makes me feel like I can breath a little easier. This cannot be my life or any moms life because it is a half life at best and some days it is no life with no future if you have lost you only child lost your heart.  

Comment by Ammy on April 21, 2016 at 1:27pm

Hi to all my sister Mommas.  I almost wrote the other day, but decided not to as it was a really hard day for me and I usually just keep those days to myself and my God anymore.  I feel so much pain here that you all are expressing and I wish there was an answer, a solution, but sadly there isn't.  Maybe time helps some and others nothing does.  I feel time or something has helped me.  I now accept most of the time that this is now my life and I must do whatever I need to do to get through today.  Every day is a today and that is where I am.  I only have to get through today and I know that I am one day closer to being with my son.  

The season changes are still agonizing and bring so many memories and tears.  

Take care of yourselves and try to ignore the fortunate ones that are not living this life because in reality they really don't have a clue what it's all about and they say what they think they should not realizing that their words are not comforting.  I, myself, would just love to hear others say his name.  That is what I miss from others.  I really don't care anymore what else they say because they don't know.  They just don't know.

Connie, I hope you heal quickly and I'm sorry that having a broken arm has brought up sadness for you in remembering Daniel and his broken arm incidents.

Teresa, you go right ahead and cry.  You are right saying that it helps release the pain.  It does.  We all need to cry.  It isn't our weakness showing; it's our love.  

Blessings and hugs to each of you.  May you have gentler and kinder days. 

Comment by Connie K on April 21, 2016 at 3:09am

All so hurtful and it's such a tough path we all walk....

Comment by Patty on April 20, 2016 at 8:08pm

Jill, I agree.  Wholeness is not an option.  How can it be when half your heart and soul is gone.  I found it terribly upsetting when multiple people asked me right after my daughter's accident why we hadn't had more children.  Did they truly think more children would have been "spares" for us?  Why would anyone say such a thing?  And multiple people?  It seems like the height of insensitivity.

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