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Comment by Jill E on June 3, 2015 at 7:00pm

Connie K you made my day a bit brighter. I talked to Derek right away to tell him what you said. His boss never said anything about his writing both at his review and on this notice. It was all about his InDesign. Derek went and gave his 30 day notice because he could not handle the just waiting and wondering and worrying. So now the search is on. He also thought it would look better for him to quit than be fired. Like I said I am just so tired. When is it enough already. Growing up with alcoholic parents, losing my Dad in my early 20s, surviving an abusive relationship with Josh's father, my mother battling a long intense case of Alzheimer's which finally took her life, fighting for Derek's rights all through his school career due to his learning disabilities, our home burning down 4 + years ago, my husband having a heart attack on the job, and the most devastating occurrence in my life and of my family's life losing my precious son, Josh. I sound like I am just belly aching and saying "poor me" but I am just tired like I can't take one more thing. My drive is gone. Nothing makes me happy, I have no joy in my life. It has all stopped. Just stopped my whole life, my whole being, my reason for existing. WYWH My Joshie, I love you. I still can't believe he is gone. 6 months on the 7th

Comment by Connie K on June 3, 2015 at 1:35pm

My heart also breaks for Joe Biden. :(

Comment by Connie K on June 3, 2015 at 12:05pm

Oh yes and don't forget Walt Disney was fired a bunch and of course STEVE JOBS was exiled from Apple before returning years later to develop the ipad, iphone, ipod etc etc etc

Comment by Connie K on June 3, 2015 at 12:01pm

Jill, it is much harder for us when the world is unfair and unkind to our kids. When my son was hospitalized for 3 weeks with pancreatitis caused by a medication he was given for his Crohn's disease. he missed the auditions for the high school jazz band. He had been dreaming of being in that for 3 years , ever since 7th grade. He was very talented, dedicated musician and the music teacher could have made an exception because of his health to gibe him a late audition or even hold a spot for him.  But he didn't and Daniel was heartbroken. His next year  went downhill for many reasons and I still to this day believe that if he had been in that prestigious jazz band, his life would have somehow turned out differently, that MAYBE he would still be here. Why can't just go the way we want them to? I don't know. But Daniel then began making different music and learned other skills. Your son Derek has overcome many things to earn his degree. And I know he was excited about this new job but just because he can't excel at InDesign DOES NOT diminish any of his talents, determination and skills that he does have. Sometimes jobs don't work out for many reasons. As much of a set back as this seems (as God knows your family has been through setbacks and hell this year) you know that you have already weathered the worst. With your love and support , Derek will find something better suited to him and one that will make him happier. these are the normal things that happen in life that can now seem insurmountable, everything is just harder. Take a deep breath and have faith that your Derek has a guardian angel watching over him who will guide and protect him. Just believe it.

As far as whether to quit or be fired, I would find out what the compensation if he is fired. If he is fired I believe he is then entitled to unemployment but not if he quits. Check that for your state. also know this – I am a graphic designer by trade and InDesign is a professional program for graphic designers. It is not a simple program and if you've never had any experience with these more sophisticated page layout programs, it ca be overwhelming. He shouldn't HAVE to learn that program to be a writer for Peet's sake! I am sorry they are putting this pressure on him to improve immediately. The fact that he has put so much time and money into trying to get up to speed shows his work ethic and I would just let them fire me because I would have the proof that I had tried my best. Anyway, I sure hope it resolves one way other the other so you all can regroup. Remind Derek if he does get fired that lots of famous and successful people were fired too!! Remember on American Idol when Simon Cowl said that Jennifer Hudson wasn't going to make it in the music business and she was voted off? RK Rowlings was fired as a secretary from Amnesty International before hitting it big with Harry Potter. If she hadn't been fired, she may have never had the time to write that! Oprah Winfrey was fired as a news reporter from her tv station in Baltimore. So she moved to Chicago, she got a segment on a local news show called "AM Chicago" (I happened to sing on that jingle- lol) Well the rest is history.... She like the richest women in entertainment. Don't feel defeated and don't let Derek feel defeated. This is just a stepping stone - maybe you will have to jump a little but I am so glad he has you there to support him. Hang in there. we are all here for you. Sending lots of love

Comment by Rj on June 3, 2015 at 5:23am

Derek needs and will need you more than ever now Jill. You have someone to stay strong for, to live for. Xoxo

Comment by Jill E on June 2, 2015 at 9:42pm

I meant the letter said "immediate" improvement

Comment by Jill E on June 2, 2015 at 9:41pm

Derek has learning disabilities and has trouble with spacial things. Math is also very hard for him. He has been there almost a year and a few weeks ago he was told him he needed to improve Adobe InDesign which is page layout. We signed him up for private tutoring in Phoenix so for the last 6 weeks he has been going down there for this very expensive tutoring. Well today he got a letter that says immediately. Now what to do. He is s Sports Reporter graduated from U of A with his learning disabilities with s c+ almost s B average. Does he wait to get fired or does he quit before he gets fired. His writing is very good it is just this one facet he is having trouble with. This will totally blow up his self esteem which has always been shaky unlike his brother Josh. Derek is so meek and mild Josh was more boisterous and knowledgeable about the world. Derek has to try so hard. Josh never had to, everything was easier for Josh. Derek worked so hard. So one way or another he needs to start looking for another job. A newspaper somewhere needs a hard working sports reporter that would be more than willing to report about anything. Then of course there is the financial worries. He will have to move into our small house. Put all of his stuff in the garage. Find somewhere to park his truck because our stupid HOA says you can't park on the street and his truck will not fit in the garage. So many issues. I am having real trouble holding it together. WYWH LOVE YOU Joshie. Josh would know what to do and Drtek would have someone to talk yo

Comment by Rj on June 2, 2015 at 7:18pm

Cant they offer training for him Jill? Im sorry

Comment by Jill E on June 2, 2015 at 7:14pm

I am also coming up on the 6 month anniversary. I am so scared. My life is falling apart more and more everyday. I feel hopeless and helpless.
I am sick of all the heartless, mean, uncaring people out there that don't care if they ruin a life. They are a**holes. They hurt people without thinking of the ramifications. The pain they inflict is immeasurable. They have no conscious, they just don't care. Derek and our whole little family are victims to this cruelty that has once again upended our family.
Josh I can hear you telling off these spineless people. Giving Derek your advice and wisdom and most of all you would be here for us. You always were here for us.
I miss you. If you were here everything would be ok. Please help your little bro, please.
WYWH

Comment by Connie K on June 2, 2015 at 5:02pm

Oh Jill I'm so sorry to hear about you son's job. It's not fair. I know how you feel. Just want it all to stop. Even for a moment. Your boy needs you so though.  You are here to remind him that he wonderful just the way he is and I believe another job will come for him. Sending you lots of love and prayers

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