Brett Bowman
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Are We Alone?
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Ever since the loss of my mom (12/242015) I have felt very much alone. It didn't start out that way. After mom died, as sad as I was, I had friends and family calling me each day to see if I was…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Robin H Oct 28, 2018.

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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Amen, Avi."
Aug 17
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"That's wonderful, Avi. Congratulations. And I wish you another 100 years with her."
Aug 16
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Theresa, sitting in adoration is wonderful. It's easy to lose faith when life is kicking you in the gut. You are keeping a light burning."
Aug 9
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"We lost more than half of our class. Sometimes what a person needs is specific, and one size does not fit all. The homework just made me miserable. The first week we had to write a letter to our loved one and tell them what we miss about them. The…"
Aug 8
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"One of the issues that I have with almost any kind of counselor is that they are being paid. They are not emotionally invested. I guess if you find the right one you can still get some great advice, but there is something discouraging about having…"
Aug 8
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Sue, I went through grief counseling and I cleaned out the books on grief at my local library. None of it helped. I'm not knocking it. Those classes and books help a lot of people. Didn't help me though. I will tell you what especially…"
Aug 7
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Yep. It's like we had the same mom. In a way we did. They both loved their children the same."
Aug 6
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I often times pray that I will have a dream about my mom. Hasn't happened yet. Not a good dream anyway. I've had some bad ones. Dreams often reflect what you are feeling. I have so much anxiety in regards to my mom that it only makes sense…"
Aug 6
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Everyone needs a light at the end of the tunnel."
Aug 6
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Avi, what you just wrote to Theresa is so true. People will allow you a short time for grief. If it goes on pass that time they will think you are over dramatic, or that you have mental problems.  I wish your little girl a wonderful birthday.…"
Aug 6
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"That's the hard part. When I started my new job in February I had to list an emergency contact. I don't really have one now. Friday night we had a lot of flooding on our area. I didn't realize how bad it was until I tried to drive…"
Aug 5
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Forgiving is one thing. I would like to forgive everyone. I think I can in time, but that doesn't mean that those people need a place in my life. Sometimes you are better staying away from certain people, even if those people are family…"
Aug 3
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I wouldn't feel to bad about that Theresa. I have silently said goodbye to a lot of friends. People are insulated. As long as things are going fine in their world, whatever happens to you just isn't that big of a deal. It's eye…"
Aug 3
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Thank you, Sue."
Aug 3
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"She's 13. Today I took her for a real long walk before I left. She wasn't crying when I came home tonight. That doesn't mean she didn't cry. I don't know. Walking her that far seems like a good idea but she is really old and…"
Aug 2
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Yeah, I am having a problem as well. All of a sudden my dog has started to cry from the time I leave to work until the time I come home. She sounds like a coyote. She bays. My neighbors have been telling me about it. I live in an apartment. This…"
Aug 2

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About Me:
I am an average guy who misses his mother greatly.
About my Loss:
I loss my mom on 12/24/2015. I was her caretaker.

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Anonymous

I have only been on this site for a few days. And I realize that I am an anonymous person to all of you. You are to me as well. Over time I hope to get to know many of you better, to find out your stories, who you lost, and why you loved them so much.

I don't want to be just a random name, or that kid who misses his mama. I want you to know who I am. The first and most important thing to know is that no one calls me Brett. My nickname is "Oatmeal." I have been called Oatmeal…

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Posted on August 1, 2017 at 12:18pm — 5 Comments

How Far is Heaven?

I'm a mamas boy. There was a time when I was embarrassed to say that. Not anymore. I would scream it from the mountain tops, especially if I thought that my mom could hear me. I was her caretaker. I couldn't stand the idea of my mom spending her last days (years) in assisted living. I wanted her to die in her own home, and I wanted to give something back to the woman who not only gave me life, but also loved me unconditionally until her last day on earth. She died on Christmas Eve, 2015. And…

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Posted on July 27, 2017 at 10:30am — 12 Comments

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At 1:23pm on March 7, 2018, DeeDee said…

Thanks so much for your kind email. I was just reading your Blog. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved mom. She sure sounds like she was one very strong and loving woman. God bless her. Cool nickname "Oatmeal" that's certainly unique! :-) I know in time things will get a little easier, but right now, they are so raw. Thanks again for taking the time to share and write Oatmeal. I truly appreciate it. ~Dee-Dee 

At 8:26am on November 23, 2017, BLUEBELL said…

The holidays are coming up and the anniversary of your sweet Mother's death. How are you?

Bluebell

At 10:46pm on October 10, 2017, M Adams said…
So sorry about Little Boo -- this kind of loss on loss is really hard. Hope the other little dog is doing okay and that you can give each other some comfort.
 
 
 

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