"Hi everyone. Just now I had a chance to read through recent posts. I want to tell everyone how grateful I am that this group is here. Over the past 15 months since my Mom passed I feel that the world has moved on from her death while it feels like…"
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Luisa Salter
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Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Greetings to all. It’s been a long time since I last posted something. on August 30th 2018 it was one year since I lost my Mom. She died of COPD and I was there with her. I am realizing how denial had a strong grip on me during the first year…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone. It’s been 6 months or so since I posted. I lost my Mom a year ago today, to lung disease. It doesn’t seem like it’s been a year. It’s hard to get used to not having her here. I want to call her and tell her…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Good morning all, just wanted to say that I was thinking of this group yesterday, hoping everyone was ok. It was rough for sure but we did it - hugs to all, Luisa"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Kate I understand your sadness. We all do. I lost my Mom August 30th of this year and it has been very hard. I long to hear my Mom’s voice also, and to see her and hug her one more time also. I know that my Mom is no longer suffering and that…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thanks very much Brett. You are always so kind and welcoming to everyone on this site. I managed to take a couple of steps in the right direction today as far as addressing the stolen bag. It’s a tough time of year as it is, and my job has…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone - I know that I have not posted in here for awhile, but I want you all to know that I have been reading your posts and you have all been in my thoughts as we are in this together.
I am having a terrible time today. Sunday night my car…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thank you to everyone for listening and your kind words.
I wouldn't do Christmas decorations either, if it weren't for my daughter. Earlier a friend suggested that I try and think of something new and different to do this year, to take my…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell I know that she has. And she would have recovered if she could have. Thank you for the reminder though that people leave this earth in God’s time. It was my Mom’s time too. She did not want to leave me either, but her poor…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I appreciate the memories that are being shared about the final days and hours each of us had with our Moms. Each of us loved our Moms so dearly and had to be brave then to let her go. The memories are so painful but I pray that sharing them helps…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell your mother had the sweetest most genuine smile. Thank you for sharing that adorable picture.
This last week since Thanksgiving has been a whirlwind. I drove to my Mom's sister's in Bellingham WA for the holiday with my 11-year…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell big hugs and prayers sent your way!
Big Hugs and prayers to all.
I have been really irritable and emotional all week. Dealing with a lot of stress at work right now and somewhat dreading Thanksgiving. So we’re here, and Teresa’s…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone,
I just wanted to say, I appreciate hearing people's thoughts on the holidays. It's been helpful hearing the ways in which some group members have honored their Mom's in the past, or plan to honor their Moms this year. I…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Brett I really appreciated what you said about our Mom's loving us above any of their things. It is comforting to remember that they do live on through us, through our bodies, minds and spirits. The great love that we shared lives on. I…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Sherri, I know how you feel going back to the place where she lived and I understand thank feeling of not wanting to trigger memories by looking at your Mom's things. It is indescribably heart wrenching. I had to empty my Mom's place out…"
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- About Me:
- I am 39, a single Mom in Oregon. I work as an oncology nurse. I love cats, books and movies.
- About my Loss:
- I lost my Mom on August 30 2017. I moved her from her home town to mine one year ago, after multiple hospitalizations due to end-stage COPD. Mom retired from the hospital in 2014, and did not want to die there. We opted for Hospice. She lived longer than anyone expected her too, and I try to stay grateful for the time that we had. I learned how deep my love for her is, told her often and tried my best to show her also. I dont think that anything went unsaid. Still, I feel devastated by this loss. I've never lost anyone close before, and my Mom and my daughter mean the world to me. I do t have much other family. I am trying to stay present in each day, but the pain is overwhelming at times.
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Comment Wall (2 comments)
- At 5:51pm on October 9, 2017,
Joy said… Luisa, you are not alone in how you feel. Losing a mom is traumatic. So know that I am very sorry that you lost her as I have lost mine. You're feelings are very understandable. The first few weeks were horrible. I would not ever want to relive those very early days. Yet, my mom has been gone almost five months and I'm feeling the full impact of my loss. There are days when I can manage and then a flood of memories will assail me including the pain she endured when she was sick and dying and I feel overwhelmed by sorrow. I realize that I'll never eat dinner with her or call her on the phone to talk about some random thing that happened. It's too much at times.
So I completely understand how you're not as productive as you used to be. Coupled with the responsibilities you have as a single mom, I know you're probably feeling at your wit's end at times. But I'm glad you're finding some solace in the site. I'm actually attending a Grief Share support group being offered by my church staring this week, so I'm looking forward to that. It helps to talk to others who know what you're experiencing.
- At 9:31pm on September 23, 2017, Karen bentl said…
- I'm so very sorry for your loss. {{{{hugs}}}}}}
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Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Joe,
Thank You so much for sharing you OBE. I have read a lot of books on it and saw the movie Heaven is for Real. The one book I like is Hello from Heave by Bill & Judy Guggenheim.
Two days after my Husband died I had 1 message on my…"
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Joe,
Thank You so much for sharing you OBE. I have read a lot of books on it and saw the movie Heaven is for Real. The one book I like is Hello from Heave by Bill & Judy Guggenheim.
Two days after my Husband died I had 1 message on my…"
Daylight commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Brett, praying is all we have now. I hope it can helps us cope better. I've always loved Christmas but this year I don't feel like celebrating it. I haven't decorated my house, and I haven't got a Christmas tree. I just…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Yes, it's true that I was blessed to take care of my mom, but that only makes saying goodbye harder. Losing our moms is never easy for anyone, but for some of us who find our way here, our moms may have been the center of our lives. That's…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thanks, SelV. I wish there was something I could say something to make you feel better. I wish there was something you could say to make me feel better."
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."I feel compelled to share my feelings, beliefs and philosophical thoughts with all of you not only because we share the same bond of sufferings, wants, and hopes, but most of all we share the experience of true love for the one we lost here on…"
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Our world is governed by science and most scientists say if you can't see it, it doesn't exist. Yet most agree that there are many other dimensions we can't see or detect. Huh? I had great respect for Steven Hawkins at one time. He…"
Denise Lavoie commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."You are right people dont get it.The sadness never goes away.I am gratiful the support is here."
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Hi Denise,
I learned a lot of things on this forum. The important one is everyone found their true SOULMATE and lost them. The world just doesn't understand why we don't want to carry on without them. THEY WILL NEVER GET IT.
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Denise Lavoie commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."The story about the whales is amazing.There are so many things about death I dont understand.I do know each day with out my husband is too hard to bear.I am very busy and active but l have a deep yearing to be with him.This will be the 3rd holiday…"
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Joe,
Thank you for your post. I like Morgan gave me a lift. I have often thought about suicide but have no intention of doing away with myself because of my religion. I will not take the chance of never seeing Julian again
I too do not go to the…"
Aimee Hall Fuszard joined Karen's group
I miss my Mom!
If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Thank you Joe for your posts. In a weird way it gives me a lift. How? Because I know that I am not making up how hard this suffering is.
My closest friend and sibling also know how I feel about dying and I know I would not have to…"
Monty commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."joe that is incredible.
thanks for the time and energy sharing.
i think ill look at some of your suggestions and see what will work for me.
for me this week has been hard.
1 week until first anniversary of her death, i don't know what to…"
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Read second post first Morgan. Had to break it up into two parts and did it backwards."
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...""As the years are passing I feel the need more and more."
When I read some of you guys suffering so long, it gives me great fear that despite my health neglect, and legal preparations, I don't know when it will actually come to…"
joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Joe,
"I read your words and it brings me to my knees."
I keep asking God to let me go many times a day. I tell Him/Her/It that I will never relent until my prayer is answered. I ask my love to keep asking too and have…"
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Thanks Bluebird for nice comment about my Julian. He was so caring and was my rock. Being with him for 24/7 for 13 years of our retirement was bliss, I thank God for this time together.
Morgan & Joe I keep believing there is eternal love…"
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