"Hi everyone. It’s been 6 months or so since I posted. I lost my Mom a year ago today, to lung disease. It doesn’t seem like it’s been a year. It’s hard to get used to not having her here. I want to call her and tell her…"
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Luisa Salter
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Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Good morning all, just wanted to say that I was thinking of this group yesterday, hoping everyone was ok. It was rough for sure but we did it - hugs to all, Luisa"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Kate I understand your sadness. We all do. I lost my Mom August 30th of this year and it has been very hard. I long to hear my Mom’s voice also, and to see her and hug her one more time also. I know that my Mom is no longer suffering and that…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thanks very much Brett. You are always so kind and welcoming to everyone on this site. I managed to take a couple of steps in the right direction today as far as addressing the stolen bag. It’s a tough time of year as it is, and my job has…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone - I know that I have not posted in here for awhile, but I want you all to know that I have been reading your posts and you have all been in my thoughts as we are in this together.
I am having a terrible time today. Sunday night my car…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thank you to everyone for listening and your kind words.
I wouldn't do Christmas decorations either, if it weren't for my daughter. Earlier a friend suggested that I try and think of something new and different to do this year, to take my…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell I know that she has. And she would have recovered if she could have. Thank you for the reminder though that people leave this earth in God’s time. It was my Mom’s time too. She did not want to leave me either, but her poor…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I appreciate the memories that are being shared about the final days and hours each of us had with our Moms. Each of us loved our Moms so dearly and had to be brave then to let her go. The memories are so painful but I pray that sharing them helps…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell your mother had the sweetest most genuine smile. Thank you for sharing that adorable picture.
This last week since Thanksgiving has been a whirlwind. I drove to my Mom's sister's in Bellingham WA for the holiday with my 11-year…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell big hugs and prayers sent your way!
Big Hugs and prayers to all.
I have been really irritable and emotional all week. Dealing with a lot of stress at work right now and somewhat dreading Thanksgiving. So we’re here, and Teresa’s…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone,
I just wanted to say, I appreciate hearing people's thoughts on the holidays. It's been helpful hearing the ways in which some group members have honored their Mom's in the past, or plan to honor their Moms this year. I…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Brett I really appreciated what you said about our Mom's loving us above any of their things. It is comforting to remember that they do live on through us, through our bodies, minds and spirits. The great love that we shared lives on. I…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Sherri, I know how you feel going back to the place where she lived and I understand thank feeling of not wanting to trigger memories by looking at your Mom's things. It is indescribably heart wrenching. I had to empty my Mom's place out…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi Bluebell, Brett, Theresa and Sherri...everyone, just checking in...had a such a tough weekend emotionally. Reality is setting in more as time goes on. It's only been 10 weeks since Mom passed but sometimes it feels like much longer. My sense…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Sherri I am so sad to hear your story and very sorry for your loss. You are in good company here, we are all struggling with this pain of losing our mothers. I believe that it in many cases it is the biggest loss that one experiences in their…"
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- About Me:
- I am 39, a single Mom in Oregon. I work as an oncology nurse. I love cats, books and movies.
- About my Loss:
- I lost my Mom on August 30 2017. I moved her from her home town to mine one year ago, after multiple hospitalizations due to end-stage COPD. Mom retired from the hospital in 2014, and did not want to die there. We opted for Hospice. She lived longer than anyone expected her too, and I try to stay grateful for the time that we had. I learned how deep my love for her is, told her often and tried my best to show her also. I dont think that anything went unsaid. Still, I feel devastated by this loss. I've never lost anyone close before, and my Mom and my daughter mean the world to me. I do t have much other family. I am trying to stay present in each day, but the pain is overwhelming at times.
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Comment Wall (2 comments)
- At 5:51pm on October 9, 2017,
Joy said… Luisa, you are not alone in how you feel. Losing a mom is traumatic. So know that I am very sorry that you lost her as I have lost mine. You're feelings are very understandable. The first few weeks were horrible. I would not ever want to relive those very early days. Yet, my mom has been gone almost five months and I'm feeling the full impact of my loss. There are days when I can manage and then a flood of memories will assail me including the pain she endured when she was sick and dying and I feel overwhelmed by sorrow. I realize that I'll never eat dinner with her or call her on the phone to talk about some random thing that happened. It's too much at times.
So I completely understand how you're not as productive as you used to be. Coupled with the responsibilities you have as a single mom, I know you're probably feeling at your wit's end at times. But I'm glad you're finding some solace in the site. I'm actually attending a Grief Share support group being offered by my church staring this week, so I'm looking forward to that. It helps to talk to others who know what you're experiencing.
- At 9:31pm on September 23, 2017, Karen bentl said…
- I'm so very sorry for your loss. {{{{hugs}}}}}}
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If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
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This group is for anyone who lost their parents at a young age. I lost my dad to cancer a week before the start of my senior year. It's been difficult. Quite frankly it sucks. Lets join together and get through this crappy time.
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Lia, losing your mom is hard enough. When you also lived with her that takes it to a whole different level because you didn't experience the natural separation that other adults do. That's sure what happened to me. I lived with my mom and…"
Lia Lynch commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thank you everyone. My mom had refused to see doctors for seven years; she feel ill, finally went, was diagnosed with Stage IV metastasized cancer in her throat, lung, and liver, went directly to hospice, and died less than 4 weeks from the initial…"
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi Lia,
So sorry for your loss.
Similar to others, I can understand your pain. I wish comfort to you but I know it is not easy. Please take your time.
All people, I was travelling so could not post for long. This is to tell that I…"
Geri commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Hi Everyone,
This Friday 21st September will be our 27th wedding anniversary. It is my first without my husband and I've noticed my anxiety peaking and I'm back to waking every hour. Has anyone got any advice of how to cope with all the…"
Ofir Rifo replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him."Thank you Layla Richards. I was very religious before my husband died, Then after his death I started searching why we have to go thru such pains and was looking into everything. Then after reading the Bible, the Torah, the Koran and more religious…"
Linda Engberg commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Hi Pamela,
So sorry about the lost of your Husband, it has been 5 years and to be truthful things are not any better. We were very close, he was my rock, now I am nothing."
Suzy Tatz commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"I am new to this. I lost my dad June 7 2018 to lung cancer and my fiancé on Aug. 6. 2018 to colon cancer. I was caretaker to both and now I can’t stand being in my own skin. I have the panic feelings when I am alone. So I have been self…"
Suzy Tatz joined Katherine Ellis's group
Losing Someone to Cancer
This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.See More
Layla Richards replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him."That is some great advice Ofir Rifo. Also, bluebird, something that helped me a lot was reading through the thousands of stories contributed by individuals who had a near-death experience or received an after death communication from a passed loved…"
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