"Hi everyone. Just now I had a chance to read through recent posts. I want to tell everyone how grateful I am that this group is here. Over the past 15 months since my Mom passed I feel that the world has moved on from her death while it feels like…"
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Luisa Salter
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Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Greetings to all. It’s been a long time since I last posted something. on August 30th 2018 it was one year since I lost my Mom. She died of COPD and I was there with her. I am realizing how denial had a strong grip on me during the first year…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone. It’s been 6 months or so since I posted. I lost my Mom a year ago today, to lung disease. It doesn’t seem like it’s been a year. It’s hard to get used to not having her here. I want to call her and tell her…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Good morning all, just wanted to say that I was thinking of this group yesterday, hoping everyone was ok. It was rough for sure but we did it - hugs to all, Luisa"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Kate I understand your sadness. We all do. I lost my Mom August 30th of this year and it has been very hard. I long to hear my Mom’s voice also, and to see her and hug her one more time also. I know that my Mom is no longer suffering and that…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thanks very much Brett. You are always so kind and welcoming to everyone on this site. I managed to take a couple of steps in the right direction today as far as addressing the stolen bag. It’s a tough time of year as it is, and my job has…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone - I know that I have not posted in here for awhile, but I want you all to know that I have been reading your posts and you have all been in my thoughts as we are in this together.
I am having a terrible time today. Sunday night my car…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thank you to everyone for listening and your kind words.
I wouldn't do Christmas decorations either, if it weren't for my daughter. Earlier a friend suggested that I try and think of something new and different to do this year, to take my…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell I know that she has. And she would have recovered if she could have. Thank you for the reminder though that people leave this earth in God’s time. It was my Mom’s time too. She did not want to leave me either, but her poor…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I appreciate the memories that are being shared about the final days and hours each of us had with our Moms. Each of us loved our Moms so dearly and had to be brave then to let her go. The memories are so painful but I pray that sharing them helps…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell your mother had the sweetest most genuine smile. Thank you for sharing that adorable picture.
This last week since Thanksgiving has been a whirlwind. I drove to my Mom's sister's in Bellingham WA for the holiday with my 11-year…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell big hugs and prayers sent your way!
Big Hugs and prayers to all.
I have been really irritable and emotional all week. Dealing with a lot of stress at work right now and somewhat dreading Thanksgiving. So we’re here, and Teresa’s…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone,
I just wanted to say, I appreciate hearing people's thoughts on the holidays. It's been helpful hearing the ways in which some group members have honored their Mom's in the past, or plan to honor their Moms this year. I…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Brett I really appreciated what you said about our Mom's loving us above any of their things. It is comforting to remember that they do live on through us, through our bodies, minds and spirits. The great love that we shared lives on. I…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Sherri, I know how you feel going back to the place where she lived and I understand thank feeling of not wanting to trigger memories by looking at your Mom's things. It is indescribably heart wrenching. I had to empty my Mom's place out…"
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- About Me:
- I am 39, a single Mom in Oregon. I work as an oncology nurse. I love cats, books and movies.
- About my Loss:
- I lost my Mom on August 30 2017. I moved her from her home town to mine one year ago, after multiple hospitalizations due to end-stage COPD. Mom retired from the hospital in 2014, and did not want to die there. We opted for Hospice. She lived longer than anyone expected her too, and I try to stay grateful for the time that we had. I learned how deep my love for her is, told her often and tried my best to show her also. I dont think that anything went unsaid. Still, I feel devastated by this loss. I've never lost anyone close before, and my Mom and my daughter mean the world to me. I do t have much other family. I am trying to stay present in each day, but the pain is overwhelming at times.
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Comment Wall (2 comments)
- At 5:51pm on October 9, 2017,
Joy said… Luisa, you are not alone in how you feel. Losing a mom is traumatic. So know that I am very sorry that you lost her as I have lost mine. You're feelings are very understandable. The first few weeks were horrible. I would not ever want to relive those very early days. Yet, my mom has been gone almost five months and I'm feeling the full impact of my loss. There are days when I can manage and then a flood of memories will assail me including the pain she endured when she was sick and dying and I feel overwhelmed by sorrow. I realize that I'll never eat dinner with her or call her on the phone to talk about some random thing that happened. It's too much at times.
So I completely understand how you're not as productive as you used to be. Coupled with the responsibilities you have as a single mom, I know you're probably feeling at your wit's end at times. But I'm glad you're finding some solace in the site. I'm actually attending a Grief Share support group being offered by my church staring this week, so I'm looking forward to that. It helps to talk to others who know what you're experiencing.
- At 9:31pm on September 23, 2017, Karen bentl said…
- I'm so very sorry for your loss. {{{{hugs}}}}}}
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"Hi Dream Moon,
I hate the big C also."
Georgette Benson added a discussion to the group "Till death do us part", a letter to my husband
Widow as a newlywed
When i got married March 25th 2019 was one of the Best days of my life i was marrying the man of my Dreams,My best friend,My soul mate. Even though it was one of the happiest day of my life but it was also a sad day.Because i was marrying the man of my Dreams knowing that i only had a little time left with him. He was diagnosed in December of 2018 of stage 4 lung and kidney cancer that day was one of the worst days of our lives. I thought but when the time came and he took his last breath that…See More
Georgette Benson replied to heathert's discussion a letter to my king in the group "Till death do us part", a letter to my husband"My condolences i know your pain all so well. I just lost my husband 7/9/2019 to cancer an im exactly where you are with my grief."
Georgette Benson joined Debbie's group"Till death do us part", a letter to my husband
How do I begin to thank you for the life you have given me. A life that included 4 loving children, 4 beautiful grandchildren and memories that will last forever.We had more then the romantic love we had when we first met almost 40 years ago. That fades with time. Through the ups and downs, fights and reconciliations, laughter and tears we had something more. We had true love, commitment, trust, and most importantly we had friendship. Since 1975 we have been together to celebrate every…See More
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Lisa posted a status"I lost my brother in-law who really was my brother for 39 years 9 weeks ago tragically and suddenly on his holidays while kite surfing"
"Morgan
Thanks for sharing how you cope without your Husband.
You put into words what I cannot express. "
"Do we ever stop having those days that seem just like the day it all happened? when nothing else seems real and all we feel is the pain again? does it ever just not happen any more? "
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Part 2Linda, yes and yes, I "laugh on the outside and cry on the inside". And the laugh (or just plain conversation) is just part of how I cope for when I have to be around others. But it means nothing. It’s like we…"
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Part 1 Bless you and thanks to each one of you who keep writing about how you feel and how you cope. I always feel support knowing I am not alone. What I don't get (and not that any one of us can give it) is the answer to how I can…"
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