"Hi everyone. Just now I had a chance to read through recent posts. I want to tell everyone how grateful I am that this group is here. Over the past 15 months since my Mom passed I feel that the world has moved on from her death while it feels like…"
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Luisa Salter
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Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Greetings to all. It’s been a long time since I last posted something. on August 30th 2018 it was one year since I lost my Mom. She died of COPD and I was there with her. I am realizing how denial had a strong grip on me during the first year…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone. It’s been 6 months or so since I posted. I lost my Mom a year ago today, to lung disease. It doesn’t seem like it’s been a year. It’s hard to get used to not having her here. I want to call her and tell her…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Good morning all, just wanted to say that I was thinking of this group yesterday, hoping everyone was ok. It was rough for sure but we did it - hugs to all, Luisa"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Kate I understand your sadness. We all do. I lost my Mom August 30th of this year and it has been very hard. I long to hear my Mom’s voice also, and to see her and hug her one more time also. I know that my Mom is no longer suffering and that…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thanks very much Brett. You are always so kind and welcoming to everyone on this site. I managed to take a couple of steps in the right direction today as far as addressing the stolen bag. It’s a tough time of year as it is, and my job has…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone - I know that I have not posted in here for awhile, but I want you all to know that I have been reading your posts and you have all been in my thoughts as we are in this together.
I am having a terrible time today. Sunday night my car…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Thank you to everyone for listening and your kind words.
I wouldn't do Christmas decorations either, if it weren't for my daughter. Earlier a friend suggested that I try and think of something new and different to do this year, to take my…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell I know that she has. And she would have recovered if she could have. Thank you for the reminder though that people leave this earth in God’s time. It was my Mom’s time too. She did not want to leave me either, but her poor…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I appreciate the memories that are being shared about the final days and hours each of us had with our Moms. Each of us loved our Moms so dearly and had to be brave then to let her go. The memories are so painful but I pray that sharing them helps…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell your mother had the sweetest most genuine smile. Thank you for sharing that adorable picture.
This last week since Thanksgiving has been a whirlwind. I drove to my Mom's sister's in Bellingham WA for the holiday with my 11-year…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Bluebell big hugs and prayers sent your way!
Big Hugs and prayers to all.
I have been really irritable and emotional all week. Dealing with a lot of stress at work right now and somewhat dreading Thanksgiving. So we’re here, and Teresa’s…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi everyone,
I just wanted to say, I appreciate hearing people's thoughts on the holidays. It's been helpful hearing the ways in which some group members have honored their Mom's in the past, or plan to honor their Moms this year. I…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Brett I really appreciated what you said about our Mom's loving us above any of their things. It is comforting to remember that they do live on through us, through our bodies, minds and spirits. The great love that we shared lives on. I…"
Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Sherri, I know how you feel going back to the place where she lived and I understand thank feeling of not wanting to trigger memories by looking at your Mom's things. It is indescribably heart wrenching. I had to empty my Mom's place out…"
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- About Me:
- I am 39, a single Mom in Oregon. I work as an oncology nurse. I love cats, books and movies.
- About my Loss:
- I lost my Mom on August 30 2017. I moved her from her home town to mine one year ago, after multiple hospitalizations due to end-stage COPD. Mom retired from the hospital in 2014, and did not want to die there. We opted for Hospice. She lived longer than anyone expected her too, and I try to stay grateful for the time that we had. I learned how deep my love for her is, told her often and tried my best to show her also. I dont think that anything went unsaid. Still, I feel devastated by this loss. I've never lost anyone close before, and my Mom and my daughter mean the world to me. I do t have much other family. I am trying to stay present in each day, but the pain is overwhelming at times.
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Comment Wall (2 comments)
- At 5:51pm on October 9, 2017,
Joy said… Luisa, you are not alone in how you feel. Losing a mom is traumatic. So know that I am very sorry that you lost her as I have lost mine. You're feelings are very understandable. The first few weeks were horrible. I would not ever want to relive those very early days. Yet, my mom has been gone almost five months and I'm feeling the full impact of my loss. There are days when I can manage and then a flood of memories will assail me including the pain she endured when she was sick and dying and I feel overwhelmed by sorrow. I realize that I'll never eat dinner with her or call her on the phone to talk about some random thing that happened. It's too much at times.
So I completely understand how you're not as productive as you used to be. Coupled with the responsibilities you have as a single mom, I know you're probably feeling at your wit's end at times. But I'm glad you're finding some solace in the site. I'm actually attending a Grief Share support group being offered by my church staring this week, so I'm looking forward to that. It helps to talk to others who know what you're experiencing.
- At 9:31pm on September 23, 2017, Karen bentl said…
- I'm so very sorry for your loss. {{{{hugs}}}}}}
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Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I dream about my Mom & Dad & thankfully they are always good dreams that are comforting. An Aunt that I was close to is in a lot of the dreams with my parents. I have one sibling. He is never in the dreams of my parents. I…"
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"I rarely dream about my mom. When I do dream about her it is almost always bad. I had a horrible dream last night. It was very short. I was standing near the front door of my mom's house. I looked down to greet my dog. There was a little puppy…"
"Thanks Nancy, I am sure everyone in our group can relate."
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Yes we have no choice but to live without our mothers. Grief and guilt will be there through out and some days will be really hard than others. Yesterday was pathetic for me as my father said something that really hit me. I hope to see my mother…"
"Love this Linda. Thanks for posting it. "
"I relate to you all who have posted lately. 2 years for me. 2nd year was worse than the first as reality set in and shock lessened. I am still in a trauma state of mind. Forgetful, irritable, less patient. I isolate…"
Nothing feels real
My husband was brutly murdered 6 day ago and nothing feels real to me I'm still waiting to wake up or him to call me the pain is unbearable I don't know if I can go on anymore
"6 days ago my husband and soulmate was brutly murdered and everyday gets a little harder I haven't seen him yet he's held up at the corners and I'm terrified to see him but I need to see him to convince my mind that this is real and…"
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Robin, thank you. Bluebird was the honesty that i discovered on this site that made it possible for me to express what I go through. Several others who write let me know too. I tend to reach out here, particularly when I am…"
Robin commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."Hi Morgan - I lost my husband John, 9 years ago, when he was 46. I come to this website every now & then, but have only commented a few times. I relate most to you and Bluebird. I can't believe it's been 9 years, and…"
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse..."I really don't know what to say to all the newer people who come here looking for help and comfort because I have struggled for years. I did find an article written by a psychotherapist just the other day that made some sense to me about the…"
Sharon batten posted a discussionMissing my true love
My partner died 14 weeks ago and I am struggling big time without her, we been together for 10 years and now I have nothing left,
Sharon batten left a comment for Sharon batten"I hate my life without her now I miss her so much, we been together for 10 years and now I have nothing left"
"Even though dream moon can't do grammar, I agree. It doesn't stop...it will hit at moments out of the clear blue....4 years, 9 years or 20. It is a loss, and it's real."
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