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Missing my Son  or  Daughter

For all of us that are suffering the loss a son or daughter.

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Comment by Teresa D. on August 4, 2017 at 7:29am

Missing my Michael. No new stories to tell, no new pictures to post.  Just simply missing him so bad my insides hurt.  I'd give anything to hear his voice or see his face. 

I try to keep Connie's song words in my mind "Momma don't cry for me for I'm living in eternity." but it's hard.

Winsor That was a real hard thing for me to do as well.  I locked myself in the bathroom to read it.  HUGS!

Eva that is beautiful.  You speak for so many of us.

Love you all!

Comment by Dolly on July 11, 2017 at 11:31pm

wow Eva that was just beautiful... and very fitting to my own feelings today... well yesterday now... both me and my son Bo had a birthday on Tuesday just past... and we were missing our Brandon too... so we were missing him but trying to celebrate each other still... its never really much of a celebration any more.. but we try because we do so love each other .. all of us that are left all love each other and mean so much to each other... but that hole is always still there and it hurts so much .. always... I remember the very first birthday of mine after Brandon died.. I couldn't sleep and was sitting at the computer probably playing solitaire.. and feeling lost and full of grief.. and suddenly from behind me.. in Brandon's room...there sounded one single strum of one of his toy guitars... just one... but loud and ringing... I about fell out of my chair .. I rushed into the room and checked all over... I recognized that chord... but there was NO toy guitar in that room anywhere that made that sound... and there was no more sounds... it was as if I got a 'happy birthday' from heaven somehow.... it never happened on my birthdays since... oh how I wish it would...

Comment by Patty on July 10, 2017 at 2:11pm

Wow.  That is so beautiful, Eva.  Thank you for sharing.  It will be 7 years for me next month.

Comment by Eva Van on July 10, 2017 at 1:55pm

It has been 4 years since the loss of my daughter...and I write a poem for her birthday every year...but I needed, my surviving daughter needed, to know I loved her...

Comment by Eva Van on July 10, 2017 at 1:53pm

Comment by B.Windsor on June 22, 2017 at 8:30pm

Since i hadn't received the autopsy report from the medical examiners' office, and i felt like i was really missing something, regarding Shelby, i called to check.  Apparently, they'd sent it, once before--i never saw it--so, she resent it.  i spent an hour or more just reading over it and looking up details....  Almost feels as if she died, all over again.  *sigh  Just one of those things, i guess.  

Comment by Dolly on June 19, 2017 at 6:47am

we've nearly stopped 'celebrating' anything except those things that are important to our son Bo.. Christmas, Thanksgiving and his birthday.. its easy really because nobody else remembers us on any other holidays except my oldest son and we only see him on Thanksgiving .. he calls on other holidays usually but we're too far away for family 'celebrations' on them.. it just hurts too much .. we just sort of treat them like any other day.. but this father's day I did send my husband a post on eBay to remind him of our kids... and how wonderful he's always been to them all.. and we spent the day just watching old seasons of a show he likes.. House of Cards [much too close to reality for me.. but he likes it]..and playing music... but my music is not working for me lately even... we don't do gifts much at all except for my son Bo and grandkids... and even those are always a struggle to think about and find ... because it makes us think.. I wish I could feel the joy again.. maybe someday.

Comment by Jesse's Mom on June 18, 2017 at 11:04pm

Comment by Jesse's Mom on June 18, 2017 at 10:55pm

David, I am sorry for the loss of your Carli. It is a hard day to get through. 

This is a good group of people here. I come sometimes to read and hear my own words in some of the posts. Knowing there are others who know how bereavement truly is. 

Teresa, your post from June 12 -- it is the same for me here. Many people, even those who truly care for us, just don't understand child bereavement and the continued impact it has on our daily life. 

Comment by David Blanco on June 18, 2017 at 10:27pm
My 1st Father's Day with out my Carli. It was a hard day but my wife and daughter made it special. I got a card and gift from Katie and Carli - with my wife's help. It made smile and made me cry for my Baby. How I miss my Carli.
 

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Janie m Snitko commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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Diane commented on Angela's blog post I lost My Mom
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