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Missing my Son  or  Daughter

For all of us that are suffering the loss a son or daughter.

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Comment by Sue M 15 hours ago

im sorry Shirelle, the computer changed your name to Shirley. 

Comment by Sue M 15 hours ago

Hello Shirley,

im so sorry for you and your family. I know how deep, sharp, and unimaginable this pain is. I know too how it breaks you up and your world too. It was like looking through a broken kaleidoscope for me. Nothing seemed whole, I trusted no one or anything. 

I send you what you need the most right now, and that's a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on as long as you need and the understanding only a mother can know. 

People would say to me it gets better, I didn't believe them or I didn't want it to. That meant to me I was forgetting him and every precious second of his life I wanted to recall and never forget. That seemed the worst to me. But the pain does become less sharp over time, it does allow you to breathe and to function, one day. You need this, nobody can sustain that level of pain over such a long time. You need the breaks from it and the lessening sharpness of it.

your other children will also be suffering, seeing you in pain and also their own. I hope you can be strong so that they can feel they can come to you.

i was alone in a foreign country, a new home and I didn't know anyone. My other children all adults were coping their own way. It was a terrible time but I came through. Some days the grief takes over again and that's ok, 

i am here and you can talk to me.

big hug

sue

Comment by Shirelle 20 hours ago
My son came home for 3 month then died
Comment by Shirelle 21 hours ago
My son pass away Nov 25 at 936am my life has not been the same I really feel lost , empty nothing to live for but I have 3 other kids I love them more than anything I just don't know what to do please can someone help me
Comment by Sue M on January 14, 2020 at 11:30am

Hello to all of you who are here for the same unimaginable reason as I am. I found this website last night after another night of going to bed where instead of sleep, pain sets in that I was able to escape from all day by being busy. Jess's mom, your post really resonated with me. Its been three years, nearly four since I lost my second son Corey. I to walk in a sort of slumber half here and half there, brain operating just enough to get me by. But am I? It seems not. I have moved to my eldest sons town to be nearby for the birth of my first grand baby. I started working again within a job with other staff, I am here but not. Work goes well when I a man having short interactions with the patrons, I'm cheerful and helpful, but I am having difficulties with some of thr staff, I don't feel I'm a part of them. The birth of my grandchild coinciding with the move to a new place where I know no one opened up huge grief for me. I was happy for my son, but hurt so much for the son who would never meet this child or hold his own. Corey was the son who was closest to me and who wanted a family, while my eldest son was more focused on his own passions. Oh god how complicated it all is. Each day I bury my feelings, I am happy grandma, cheerful coworker, helpful mother in law, but no one ever wants to hear how it is for me or see the real me. The half brain, half heart, half finished me. Thankful to have this forum to express this. Thank you to anyone who shares here. 

Comment by Teresa D. on November 30, 2019 at 9:43pm
Julie, my deepest condolences. My heart is with you. Hugs
Comment by Dolly on August 19, 2019 at 9:19pm

Do we ever stop having those days that seem just like the day it all happened? when nothing else seems real and all we feel is the pain again? does it ever just not happen any more? 

Comment by Teresa D. on August 19, 2019 at 10:07am

Connie I'm sorry but just know your words do stay in my head.

Keven's mom...I'm so sorry that phone came.  There's nothing I can say or do to make this easier on you.  Just know we know exactly how you feel.  Your son will live on forever through you. 

Comment by Connie K on August 9, 2019 at 6:32pm

Teresa D.

the line is "Mama  don't you cry for me, I'm sailing in eternity..."

Makes me feel emotional and happy that it resonates with you and that you remember it. <3

Comment by Connie K on August 9, 2019 at 6:28pm

Kevin's mom I am so terribly sorry for your devastating loss. I lost my only child as well - Daniel - at age 17. That was 6 and a half years ago. I can't tell you how i made it through, but I have, one day at a time sometimes one minute at a time. We are not alone and I hope you can find support and help here in this group. Hugs and prayers to you and your family. xtra Prayers for his children .

Jesse's mom thanks for sharing your friends poems. When I use something i will let you know! Sorry for the late reply . Hugs and love  Connie

 

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"Hello Shirley, im so sorry for you and your family. I know how deep, sharp, and unimaginable this pain is. I know too how it breaks you up and your world too. It was like looking through a broken kaleidoscope for me. Nothing seemed whole, I trusted…"
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"My son pass away Nov 25 at 936am my life has not been the same I really feel lost , empty nothing to live for but I have 3 other kids I love them more than anything I just don't know what to do please can someone help me"
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