Missing my Son or Daughter


Missing my Son  or  Daughter

For all of us that are suffering the loss a son or daughter.

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Please share your Story = the Loss of your Son or Daughter 463 Replies

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Started by Karen. Last reply by Kellie Hull Nov 9.

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Comment by Britt on December 2, 2017 at 12:25pm
Tomorrow will be 4 miserable years since my son Joey died. My life is empty and so very lonely. Absolutely everything has gone down hill! I don't know who I am and I feel stuck. I've always been able to deal with my problems never ask for help, but now when I need help no one is around. I'm not sure if anyone will really read this post, but I'm trying to find ways to get my pain out my grief/depression has taken hold of me not sure how much more I can endure.My son was the one of many people I've lost in my life, but losing him was most devastating. Yes I'm pitting myself, I have no one to comfort me so I guess I'm venting. Truthfully my pain it's greater than your pain, and I feel bad for all parents that have lost their child, I know how you feel so I do empathize. I suppose I best end my post because I'm rambling. Thank you to those who read my post.
Comment by Dennis C. on November 17, 2017 at 5:53am
I know that there is nothing that can take your pain away.

But I have found great encouragement from the Bible’s Account in Mark 5

Mark 5:42 — And immediately the girl rose and began walking. (She was 12 years old.) And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.

This describes a reunion. Parents had lost their dear precious daughter in death. You really can’t put that pain into words.

The account also tells us that when they were reunited by resurrection they were “With GREAT ecstasy.”

I believe that we will experience that same thing when we are reunited with our loved ones.

I know it doesn’t take our pain away right now...but it gives us HOPE and a future to look forward to.
Comment by Kellie Hull on November 14, 2017 at 9:25pm
I'm in so much pain. I miss my daughter. I just want to hear her voice. I want a hug. I want hear her say mommy I love you. I don't understand why God would take my sweet baby girl. I barely sleep, I don't eat, and I have headaches all the time.
Comment by Kellie Hull on November 9, 2017 at 4:19pm
I have good and bad days. Some days are unbearable. I'm grateful to have somewhere to express how I'm feeling. Thank yall.
Comment by Lynn Williams on November 9, 2017 at 3:44pm
Dear Teresa, I will say a prayer for your daughter and for her healing. I too have been in a bad way for a few months. Just before the anniversary of Kyra’s birthday and the 4th anniversary of her death I feel into a deep depression and went into the hospital for a week. They finally found an antidepressant which seems to be working. The grief and pain we continue to suffer will ebb and flow for the rest of our lives. I think of you all often and how we helped each other so much. Love to you all. Kellie I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet daughter, your grief is still so raw an unrelenting.
Comment by Connie K on November 9, 2017 at 2:37pm


 I am praying for your daughter. This must be incredibly hard for you. There are so many new treatments on the horizon now for cancer.  I am a 12 year cancer survivor this week. She will be okay. Love and hugs to you <3

Comment by Connie K on November 9, 2017 at 10:26am

Well it's been a very long while since I've been on this site. I feel like you Karen that I don't have much to say or share that will help. Karen - you have helped so many so much by creating this group. Dec.1 will be 5 years for me and I too cannot believe it's been that long. And yet it feels like I've been drowning in sorrow for so long.

Kellie Hull I am so very sorry for your loss and to have to welcome you to the club nobody wants to be in. I lost my Daniel at age 17 in a car accident. The suddenness of it it so traumatic.  And I miss my sweet boy more every day. He was my only and I feel my life has remained stuck in the time when he was here.

Teresa, I think of you and how strong you've been. I hope you are still doing the soccer tournament. I try to do things in Daniel's remembrance but not with the same passion I have at first. It almost hurts too much now. But I will tell you my faith never wavers. He is with me so much. I feel his presence and he sends me love and strength. I do believe that "he just in the other room" and this life is buts one stop along the way. That doesn't make this stop easier except that I know he is ok, he's not in pain any longer, he is doing amazing things that we can not really comprehend. And he showed me the greatest joy there is in life -the love of our child. Thank you Daniel for being my son. The pain is so great but I would never trade it for not having had you. God I miss him and I struggle every day. My perspective on life is so different and I don't really make too many plans. I still have a lot of anxiety. I am editor of out local Compassionate Friends newsletter and I feel that way I am giving a service. I lean on my spiritual family at my Ashrama for support and to keep my spiritual life in practice. I want to be close to where he is.

Eva your poem is quite beautiful. It is so hard for the surviving siblings to deal with their loss and the loss of the parent they knew because we are never the same. But you can share together the great love you all shared with the daughter you lost.

Dolly - always nice to be reminded of Brandon's messages to you. I always get them and recently we had a devastating fire here in the Foothills of Glendale. The canyon where my son was killed was on fire for 4 days. Afterwards, it was all burned, north, south, east and west of the crash site for miles - 7000 acres. I thought to myself that I hoped that damn wall the car crashed into was burned to the ground.Now the city will. have to fix it! I thought. for 5 years I have kept flowers at that site. When we were finally allowed to go down there, I expected to see it all gone but miraculously the only thing left - were the flowers and the end of that wall. To me it was another wonderful message of hope. His spirit is so strong and I could just see him saying,"Not my flowers". I thank the brave firefighters. I know they left them there and removed other debris that was always dumped behind the wall. IBut still, the fir jumped the road and burned everything in it's path - a mile to the freeway, jumped the freeway and burned up to the house. Fortunately no one was killed and only one home was lost.  So on my darkest day I think of those flowers - the only color amidst a backdrop of blackened ash. He was and will always be my greatest joy. I am sharing the picture of this.

NO one else knows the heartbreak we live with and I hold all of you here in my heart and prayers especially during these very difficult holidays. I can't wait for them to be over. Hugs to everyone.

Comment by Kellie Hull on November 9, 2017 at 9:23am
On September 30th of this my only daughter Aaliyah was in a motorcycle accident. She had just turned 20 on September 12th. I had to take her off life support on October 1st. I was 14 when I had her. She was my best friend. I have this big whole in my chest that I don't know how to help. I try to stay strong for my boys but I feel like I'm breaking on the inside. There is just so much pain.i miss her smile and her laugh. I miss her hugs I just miss her.
Comment by Dolly on October 1, 2017 at 5:33pm

oh Teresa... I am SO sorry.. I will pray so hard for her... and for you... I don't really want to be in this world anymore EXCEPT for those I love that are still here... if not for them there would be NO reason to be here at all.. so much pain and so much craziness in this world.. I just find myself hiding most of the time..  people are just too mean these days.. we have actually been 'uninvited' from attending a Senior Center informal band group because we played a hymn for an elderly gentleman.. ONE hymn among all sorts of jazz and blues and rock and roll and stuff that he had no interest in... I know its nothing.. but its just that every time I turn around it seems something or somebody is clobbering me... I will be thinking of you and your daughter Teresa... nothing we ever face is a horrible as our kid's problems when we have no power of our own to help them.. how well all of us in here know THAT... I will ask my praying friends to pray too.. anonymously

.. just ask for prayers for a friend fighting cancer.. if its ok.. I won't say who or how I know of her or anything... please try to hold on tight to hope... its all we ever have.. I love you.

Comment by Teresa D. on September 25, 2017 at 1:41pm

Karen, you saying your not helpful is very untrue.  I hate to say it but those ahead of me let me know I'm okay.  Those ahead keep me from feeling disappointed or like something is wrong with me because I'm not "moving on".  So please know you help someone like me. 

I needed to come here today. I don't care if anyone comes to the room and reads it or not I just need to something......

My daughter just received news she has ovarian cancer.  She has suffered with an extreme case of Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome since she was a child.  I have come to accept I'll never be a grandmother.  (Michael didn't have kids when he passed and her PCOS)

People I couldn't live this again.  God just couldn't be that cruel to me. 


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