Missing my Son or Daughter

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Comment by Katherine Ellis on February 5, 2010 at 12:20am

Trudy, as you should know by now, time may soften the pain but it will always be there and at times it feels like those days just happened. You have dealt with some unbeleiveable losses. You are a strong person even when you don't feel like one. Before I found my grief groups I felt like I was the only one to lose a child. Now I have all of you to help me get through the bad days and you have us. We are alway here to listen, just write. Like Gail said we are looking forward to getting to know you and your family. Hang in there. ((((hugs)))) Katherine

Comment by Gail Richardson on January 29, 2010 at 2:18pm

Trudy, so glad this has helped you some - I was so lucky to find a wonderful bereavement group shortly after Meshael died and they've helped me get this far. I do think that we gain strength and understanding in trying to help others go through this journey - certainly for me, the confirmations that I wasn't alone in my thoughts was a tremendous help. Looking forward to getting to know you and your loved ones. Hugs Gail x

Comment by Trudy F. Evans on January 28, 2010 at 6:00pm

You can't imagine how good this makes me feel Gail. All I can say is "Just so glad to be here". Where have you guys been all my griefing life. Right now I'm in pain but I also want to be there for everyone else when they go through they're pain. Maybe by helping someone else I'll understand my own grief. Thank you and everyone else.

Comment by Gail Richardson on January 28, 2010 at 5:28pm

Hi Trudy and welcome to the group no-one wants to belong to. Firstly let me say how sorry I am for your losses - I cannot imagine the pain of losing two children, life deals us some cruel blows. I'm also sorry for the loss of your husband and your pet - I know that animals are sometimes a very strong link to those we have lost and that their loss can bring back so much of the pain we thought was dealt with. Don't feel selfish for feeling sorry for yourself - my goodness, if we didn't.. who would?? We've been through hell and back and we entitled to feel bad sometimes. Time eases the pain but very now and again it all comes rushing back doesn't it. Katherine is right in saying what a nice group this is - so please feel comfortable to write in and have a rant and rave whenever you need to. We understand your pain and there are no fingers pointed here, February is going to be such a hard month for you - please know that we'll keep you in our hearts and prayers - you're not alone. Take care xx

Comment by Trudy F. Evans on January 28, 2010 at 3:48pm

Thank you so much Katherine. Your kind words are appreciated. It has been 21 yrs. since my son committed suicide and 10 since my other son was murdered and 9 since my husband died. I lost our beloved pet in December and am now totally alone. She was 14-1/2 yrs. old and like the end of having anyone with me. Feel so selfish for feeling sorry for myself but I do. I've had counseling of several years and have tried everything. It just seems to get harder. Feb. 2nd my younger son was found murdered that morning. Feb. 8th my eldest son commited suicide and his birthday is Feb. 6th. This is a big load for anyone to handle so there haven't been many conversations with friends. I like your cowboy hat Katherine.

Comment by Katherine Ellis on January 27, 2010 at 11:43pm

Trudy I am so sorry to hear that you have so many losses to deal with. What pain you must be feeling. How long ago did your sons die? Your husband? With so much grief to deal with, I doubt you will ever be able to tell who your heart is breaking for. I'm glad you found this group, it's a wonderful place to just let your feelings out. You have an awful hard week or so ahead of you. Know that there are many of us out here that are grieving with you and know a little of what your going through. I'll keep you in my prayers and thoughts. (((((((hugs))))))))

Comment by Trudy F. Evans on January 27, 2010 at 10:32pm

Just joined your group and am feeling much pain right now. Have lost two sons - one from a suicide and the other a murder. The anniversary is coming up for both of their deaths the first week of Feb. and I start feeling the anxiety. They were both adults when they died. Also lost my husband as well and do sometimes wonder who I miss more and who am I grieving for. I'm here to support all of you but right now it hurts. Thank you so much.

Comment by Gail Richardson on January 27, 2010 at 5:51pm

Karen - oh I'm so sorry, I had no idea and wish there was some way of posting those dates so we could make an effort to be there for you!
When you are struggling is the best time to be here - share some of the pain with others that know what you're dealing with.
Sending belated birthday wishes for your wonderful son and a cyber hug or three for you. Please don't feel that you can't post at times like this. Message me off group anytime Karen - please!
Hugs xxx

Comment by Karen on January 27, 2010 at 4:16pm

Checking in-----
Brad would have been 19 yesterday----
Thinking of you all....... I have been really struggling & haven't felt as though I would be much good to anyone here- but- My heart breaks for you all as we suffer the loss of our children.
Love & Strength to you all !!!!!!!
((( HUGS )))

Comment by sherry reed on January 26, 2010 at 12:43pm

hi group,It has been awhile since my last entry. I have been dealing with alot. me n my brother got n an argument as did me and my husband and both always wanna say something about my angle. why do people do that? I miss my katelyne everyday. I got her a teddybear n chocklates ND little more stuff for valintines day i miss her so much its unreal. Never in a million years did i ever imagen something like this whould ever happen. i am careful we make sure seat belts are on. There is just so much i do not understand. now my X is trying to sue me and he was never in her life becouse he use to hit me so i left. he thought if i wasnt with him he didnt have a kid either. No all of the sudden hes running around saying i killed my baby i wasnt driving and no charges we brought on my mom not even a ticket. i pray for forgivness for the hate i feal tords him

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