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Comment by Martha on August 9, 2013 at 12:08pm

When we feel particularly down, I found the following helpful:

Take a pen and pad, or use the computer; start writing the things you are grateful for, it can either be in general, or related to your loss.

Ex. 

1. I am grateful for God allowed me to have (the person you are grieving for) for (number of years) in my life.

2. I am grateful because my loved one is now with God, and not suffering as many people are for years.

Keep going until you are filled with gratitude...

Remember, there are people who has never known love, there are people that can not even move, we have a lot to be thankful for in spite of it all. Remember Helen Keller?

P.S. Kindly feel free to write your own Tips. We are here to help each other.

Comment by Martha on August 9, 2013 at 12:00pm

Wow, Jo. what a great Tip. Thank you!

Comment by dream moon JO B on August 6, 2013 at 3:08pm

if u look up to a sky u can seathngs it can realy tk our mnd off thngs

Comment by Martha on August 5, 2013 at 3:25pm

"Do not resist the pain. Allow it to be there. Surrender to the grief, despair, fear, loneliness, or whatever form the suffering takes. Witness it without labeling it mentally. Embrace it. Then see how the miracle of surrender transmutes deep suffering into deep peace. This is your crucifixion. Let it become your resurrection and ascension."

~ Eckhart Tolle's PRACTICING THE POWER OF NOW

Comment by Martha on August 1, 2013 at 5:33pm

When a painful memory of those last days, of those last hours come to mind try to replace it with a happy time when you, and your loved one were together. By doing that we shift our focus to a time when all was well. And, for just that moment we feel a little comfort. Now, this is an ongoing practice, as sometimes I forget, and generate more suffering for myself. Try to remember the good memories, it might help.

Comment by Martha on July 31, 2013 at 5:05pm

When one loves deeply, it is the very best. Specially when it is  unconditional love like a mother, or a father. The other side of the coin on this earthly plane (there are always two sides) is when we lose our loved one, then we feel deep grief. We can not have one without the other. It is just the way it is. And, the greater the love, the greater the loss. May God give us strength for just one more day.

Comment by Martha on July 30, 2013 at 2:24pm

For those of you that have lost your loved ones recently, my heart goes out to you. You will always miss them. You will always love them, but with time the grief finds a place in your heart that deepens the love you will forever feel. Trust that the key is to know that with time God will help you live with the loss in a way that makes it bearable. How long will that take? The time it takes is different for everyone. Know this will happen.

Comment by Martha on July 29, 2013 at 2:10pm

When we lose a loved one, our minds attach itself to negative emotions which is only human. And, deep suffering commences.

Let's try to visualize our suffering as hands, if we clenched them, and even try to blame oneself, or others, or even fate we are blocking the spiritual healing that comes from acceptance. That does not mean that we do not miss our dear ones, it merely says that we are trusting in a Higher Power to help us get through it, to open ourselves to make space for the Peace that is beyond all understanding.

Comment by Martha on July 28, 2013 at 4:46pm

While we grieve for a loved one/s, sometimes we ask ourselves why this, why that. It is human nature. Spiritually however, we are on this Earth now and our understanding is limited. We will know all things in due time when we get to Heaven. And, if you are here in the forum, that is a certainty that you will get there. Meantime, trust in God that everything is as it is supposed to be. Our loved ones had their mission on this earth, and it was their time to go for reasons we so not understand now. Give thanks to God for the time shared for that was, and is the blessing. Most people never know that kind of love. And, that is the piece of the puzzle that we do know.

Comment by Martha on July 27, 2013 at 1:25pm

Let us be attentive to the gifts sent from Heaven. For one, after losing loved family members our capacity for compassion for others increases.The knowing that we will be there with them when our time comes is another gift. Look for them, they are there.

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