Hello....just wanted to check in on you. I apologize for not responding to your friend request sooner. I hardly ever access this site from my computer, just from my phone. I couldn't figure out why I couldn't "chat". Apparently, I can't from my phone just from the computer. I hope to hear from you.
I hope that this picture and the message give you comfort. Grief is a journey and each person travels the road differently. You make very valid points about breakups and how people seem to understand the long term agony they can cause but come so short in their understanding of the compelling grief experienced when we loose someone in death. The reality is that even though they have no understanding of what you are experiencing, there will be the day that they will come to "know" what you are going through. They will loose someone so close that they will remember every time they have told someone to "get over it". That will be when everything you have learned can lead you to empathize with them and help them through - even forgive...
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to cancer in December and understand your pain. I agree that it feels like it gets harder before it gets easier. I am in the Bay Area; was your mother enrolled in hospice? I was able to find free support in SF through Sutter Care and Home hospice. Pathways Hospice also offers free counseling and support groups to the community (regardless of whether your family had used their hospice services). Feel free to message me anytime. Sending you hugs.
"Abbie, I am truly sorry for your loss. They told me my Mom died of a heart attack. It was sudden. This website has been such a blessing. The kindness & compassion from the members is wonderful. You are not alone…"
"Abbie, I am so sorry. This is a good place to talk because everyone here knows what it's like to lose their mom. We know how much it hurts. Every circumstance is different. I don't know what it's like to have lost my mom at 16. I…"
"I started to compose a blow by blow sequence of events of my loves illness and passing but it became too painful and couldn't continue. Here we share how we are feeling grieving our lost Loves. In reality, most of my underlying…"
I totally understand; I detest being around happy families, and especially happy couples. It's not that I want anything bad to happen to them, I definitely do not. It's just that they have what my beloved and I should still have,…"
"usually I find your comments really clear, Linda, so I don’t think it’s not being good with words, more that it’s hard to express these things in words. Actually I couldn’t follow what Joe said either, but it’s…"
"Hello M Adams
Joe explained in his post of how I feel. I am not good with words on explaining things but Joe you said it perfectly. I just want to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts, as we are all in the same boat together."
"Speaking for myself, I identify with Linda. My Love left our world and I know it, and accept that she crossed over into another realm of existence and can't come back. I want her back and I live in HELL every day without her. …"
"Linda, not sure what you mean here when you say you can accept the loss of your husband but not being able to change it is your whole problem — do you mean not being able to change the fact of the loss, or not being able to change the way it…"
Like you mentioned in your post, there is no normal in my life. I just take each day as it comes and just wait for death. I can accept that Julian is gone but not being able to change it is my whole problem."
"Hi Haven't been writing recently as have had so much to organize in my life I just haven't had a moment and when I do I am so tired. So grateful to everyone else who continues to write though. I look here daily to read.…"
"They told me that Mom had a heart attack. It happened on the weekend. I had made her breakfast & she seemed fine. I am thankful she was at home & that I was with her, but it hurts so much knowing she is gone. I just…"