Hello....just wanted to check in on you. I apologize for not responding to your friend request sooner. I hardly ever access this site from my computer, just from my phone. I couldn't figure out why I couldn't "chat". Apparently, I can't from my phone just from the computer. I hope to hear from you.
I hope that this picture and the message give you comfort. Grief is a journey and each person travels the road differently. You make very valid points about breakups and how people seem to understand the long term agony they can cause but come so short in their understanding of the compelling grief experienced when we loose someone in death. The reality is that even though they have no understanding of what you are experiencing, there will be the day that they will come to "know" what you are going through. They will loose someone so close that they will remember every time they have told someone to "get over it". That will be when everything you have learned can lead you to empathize with them and help them through - even forgive...
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to cancer in December and understand your pain. I agree that it feels like it gets harder before it gets easier. I am in the Bay Area; was your mother enrolled in hospice? I was able to find free support in SF through Sutter Care and Home hospice. Pathways Hospice also offers free counseling and support groups to the community (regardless of whether your family had used their hospice services). Feel free to message me anytime. Sending you hugs.
"I had a relationship with someone for 5 years. I am married, and wasn't ready to leave my husband. So this man and I met infrequently (every month or 2) and talked a lot through text, but I felt like we had a very close bond. He finally told me…"
This is for anyone who has lost their lover to death and you were the other woman/other man in their life. We have to grieve in silence. I can't find any support groups and feel like I'm the only one going through this situationSee More
Your wife, the love of your life, is BEAUTIFUL! And it does seem like it was destiny that brought the two of you together. Beautiful story of the two of you meeting for the first time.
Like Linda says, we have to be grateful that God sent us…"
Thanks for the cudos. I know every one of us is trying to cope with the loss of our Beloved Spouses. I too cannot do the things we shared and that's just about everything. Our likes were the same, so the only thing I did…"
Mary and Leane joined Online Grief Support - A Social Community
"I am so grateful that each of you share what you are doing and how you are dealing with your loss at whatever stage in months or years. In the past I never had to worry about looking for company for misery. I wasn't miserable.…"
What you say here about your day sounds like my miserable daily schedule:
"My schedule is pretty much go to the bedroom between 1 to 4am and most often I sleep until 11 or noon. And if I have to get up quickly I find I end up…"
I can relate to what you are saying: the activities that Joseph and I loved to do together are now very painful to do on my own. But it seems that you have started taking baby steps in the right direction by starting to run again.…"
That is quite an accomplishment! My husband was my running partner and we did a lot of charity runs together. My last run was 2 months after he died and dedicated the run to him. Since then I have tried running alone but it was too…"
"I am finding it so hard to keep motivated. I have tons I need to do to keep afloat and try to honor the legacy of my husband and yet all I seem able to do is push myself, force myself.......constantly. Its the putting on the mask and…"
"When your ‘life force’ is taken away from you there is no will to go on. It will be 5 years for me soon and many people think my grief has subsided as I seem to be functioning better, but as I said earlier we just become more adept…"
"do not no wen dad died i loss my way for long tim u cud say i did im f i am'thn loss folerd evn my cat i had for 16 yrs in 2016 wish she got me thru few dark tims she did
thn i gon to spirtaslt churchh fond upliftmtn i di did…"