Hi Jill, i dont know my way around on here yet so i hope this was the place to send you a message. I would be greatful for any help. I am seeing a grief counselor from hospice, but i need to get into a support group. I am reading a message below what i am writing, Nancy not having a good experience with hospice, i can relate to that but right now, i am seeing the counselor who seems to care about me, but i need to be around people who are experiencing the same thing as me. Thank so much for the friend add.
Thank you so much for your kind words of understanding, Jill. I have entered individual counseling but have not tried group counseling yet. I am going to ask my doctor if she knows where I might find something like that. My mom was in a Hospice center the last 11 days of her life. They told us they'd be there to support the family after my mom passed. I've called them for help but they have no programs in place. Literally the worst Hospice ever. My mom received terrible nursing care there and their chaplain was absolutely worthless in assisting dying patients and their families. I wish I never signed the paperwork for Mom to go there. The decision will always haunt me.
Hi Jill , how are you doing? My name is Juliana, I really want to have a good friendship with you. I have something very very important I really want to discuss with you alone okay. Please my dear, I want you to write me back through this my email address okay: firstname.lastname@example.org
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