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to many deaths
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I don't know how to go on anymore.i lost my mother in 2011 and my sister oct 2012 and my dad in dec 2012 all left is me and my brother and we don't speak. i feel so alone

Started this discussion. Last reply by dream moon JO B Jul 26, 2013.

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Jan 19, 2014
bobbie commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"sometimes i wonder why but i have been told that god has a plan for our death date but that dont help much.i lost my sister and father last year and i am having a hard time keeping the faith."
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"Dear Bobbie, First, I am so sorry you have suffered the loss of your family members and that they have happened so close together. The death of someone we love is devastating, but three deaths of fast . . . Well I wish I could give you a real hug.…"
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"I lost my sister almost a year ago this week.and i still keep thinking i need to call and tell her what's going on with my husbands cancer.we used to talk all the time."
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nightmares

Since i lost my sister which i am having trouble getting over.I have been having nightmares .I don't remember them but my husband says i talk in my sleep and it sounds like I'm fighting with someone .Last night he said i started tossing and turning and hit him in the jaw.Now he has a loose tooth.I was wondering if anyone else has had nightmares after the death of a loved one.
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How To Deal With Loss Over Time

I am having a very hard time accepting the loss of my mother....I want to start this group to discuss how we can best cope with the loss of our loved ones as time goes on....it would be good to get ideas and to talk about
Aug 16, 2013
bobbie commented on Julie Dolsey-Weiss's group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"I just found this forum.i lost my sister in oct of last year.She had a heart attack.I talked to her on the phone one night.And 3 hours later my nephew called and told me she had a heart attack. i am lost without her.She was my support in dealing…"
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dream moon JO B left a comment for bobbie
"im sorrry to hear yore husband has th c i cnt evn say ths word coz it maks me feal lik its chokng me  on my dads sid iv lost so amny to ths dese frm pel in th 30s to 80s  i wont evn get tested coz wot i dnt no wont hrt me  all i no…"
Jul 26, 2013
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"Sounds like you have had your share of deaths to. Sounds like cancer runs everywhere that's another thing I'm dealing with my husband had cancer"
Jul 26, 2013
dream moon JO B replied to bobbie's discussion to many deaths
"i no tht fealing bobbie sisne my dad died so amny deaths has hpnd in family evn frinds of famly seam to be dyng 2 today i fogot all abot a grt grt cuzen he died stil brn lst yr on th 26th july 2012 fogot all abot till i saw som 1 in th famly it told…"
Jul 26, 2013

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I love to be outside in the yard working in my garden or walking my two dogs
About my Loss:
My sister died suddenly from heart attack about 4 months ago she was always there for
me during my husband cancer I still miss her deeply then my father passed away suddenly from heart trouble about 5 months ago

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At 10:38pm on January 19, 2014, Lisa Westgate said…
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At 5:08am on October 8, 2013, Brenda Ann said…
Dear Bobbie,

First, I am so sorry you have suffered the loss of your family members and that they have happened so close together. The death of someone we love is devastating, but three deaths of fast . . . Well I wish I could give you a real hug. (((((HUGS)))))

From your posts let me reassure you that you are perfectly normal. It is funny but that is exactly what I was asking when my father in law passed away. I got sick, like a stomach virus, it was so bad that I couldn't eat and the drive to his home town took a really long time since I had to keep stoping the car to find a restroom. I found a brochure WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE DIES extremely helpful as it reassured me that I was "normal" and so are you. Each of us travel this horrible grief highway in our own way and at our own pace. It is as unique as a fingerprint.

One thing the brochure mentioned was that talking is very helpful and you have found a great group here that will listen anytime you need. The following is a quote from the brochure:


"Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break."

There is so much more and if you like you can read it on-line at http://m.wol.jw.org/en/wol/lv/r1/lp-e/0/19530

Please accept my friend request, I look forward to talking. I will listen anytime . . .

Brenda
Mawmaw1591@gmail.com
At 4:19pm on July 26, 2013, dream moon JO B said…

im sorrry to hear yore husband has th c i cnt evn say ths word coz it maks me feal lik its chokng me 

on my dads sid iv lost so amny to ths dese frm pel in th 30s to 80s 

i wont evn get tested coz wot i dnt no wont hrt me 

all i no sorry for yore loss

At 3:01pm on July 26, 2013, Martha said…

Dear Bobbie:

Thank you for your message. The fact that you are here is a good sign.

Please join on Chat in the evenings, there are good people there to share our grief.

May God give you strength this day.

Martha

 
 
 

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