Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?

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Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?

This group was started because many are hurting so bad that their faith has been effected.  This is a place you can vent or even ask questions that brother you. Can the Bible or God help you through your grief?  Who is the cause of death? 

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The following list of brochures can be read on line at the links providedWhen Someone You Love Dies - My suggestion is to pay particular attention to the chapter, How Can I Live With My Grief?Lasting PeaceGOOD NEWS From GODContinue

Started by Brenda Ann. Last reply by Brenda Ann Jan 3.

The Death Of Jesus and Our Faith 1 Reply

The most important death to ever occur can have a huge impact on our faith.When we lose someone we can reflect on the promises made in the Bible and that can give us a wonderful hope for the future.Follow the link below to watch a video about the Death of JesusRemember Jesus’ DeathContinue

Started by Dennis C.. Last reply by Dennis C. Mar 18, 2017.

WAVERING FAITH 3 Replies

I will say my faith has waivered a little recently because i have been in bad health and I keep asking God why?  I do think its a test of faith, but honestly my faith will always be strong and is a part of me, I still grieve about my parents, but I'm ok and they would want me to live richly and happily....I'm doing ok, but yes it is a test of faith when your going thru illness with no light at the end of the tunnel, but I'm getting better now and thats all that matters....we see the reason for it later onContinue

Started by Rachel Lynn Schuler. Last reply by Brenda Ann Nov 11, 2016.

WAVERING FAITH

I will say my faith has waivered a little recently because i have been in bad health and I keep asking God why?  I do think its a test of faith, but honestly my faith will always be strong and is a part of me, I still grieve about my parents, but I'm ok and they would want me to live richly and happily....I'm doing ok, but yes it is a test of faith when your going thru illness with no light at the end of the tunnel, but I'm getting better now and thats all that matters....we see the reason for it later onContinue

Started by Rachel Lynn Schuler Nov 9, 2016.

Are you having trouble facing the loss of your mate? Even if your faith has been shaken, a close examination of what the Bible really says, may help.

APPEARED INFacing the Loss of Your MateTHE Bible is clear: A husband is to “love his wife as he does himself.” A wife likewise should “have deep respect for her husband.” Both are to carry out their roles as “one flesh.” (Eph. 5:33; Gen. 2:23, 24) Over time, the attachment a couple have to each other gains strength, as does their love for each other. You might compare it to the roots of two trees growing side by side. The feelings of a happily married husband and wife knit and intertwine.But what if the husband or the wife dies? Then that bond, unbreakable in life, is broken. The surviving widow or widower is often left with a blend of heartache, loneliness, and maybe even some anger or guilt. During her marriage of 58 years, Daniella knew many who lost their mates. * But after her husband died, she said: “I never understood this experience before. There is no way to comprehend it until you go through it.”PAIN THAT SEEMS UNENDINGSome researchers hold that no stress is more severe than that resulting from the death of a beloved mate. Many bereaved ones agree with that. Millie’s husband died many years ago. In describing her life as a widow, she says, “I feel I am a cripple.” She was referring to her emotional state, caused by the loss of her mate of 25 years.Susan used to feel that widows who for years mourned the loss of their husband expressed excessive grief. Then her husband of 38 years died. Over 20 years have passed, yet she says, “I think of him every day.” Tears often flow because she misses him so much.The Bible confirms that the pain of losing a mate is both cruel and long lasting. When Sarah passed away, Abraham, her husband, “came in to bewail Sarah and to weep over her.” (Gen. 23:1, 2) Despite having faith in the resurrection, Abraham felt intense grief when his loved one died. (Heb. 11:17-19) After his dear wife Rachel died, Jacob did not soon forget her. He spoke tenderly about her to his sons.—Gen. 44:27; 48:7.What lesson should we learn from these…Continue

Started by Brenda Ann Mar 10, 2014.

Having a very hard time dealing with the death of a loved one?

Has someone you loved fallen asleep in death?Are you still grieving?Do you need help in dealing with your grief?Is there hope for the dead?If so, what is it?How can we be sure?Can we turn to the Bible for answers?  Is it possible to trust God?Continue

Started by Brenda Ann Jun 18, 2012.

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Comment by Dennis C. on February 17, 2017 at 6:45am

Brenda Ann

What a beautiful explanation of the Bibles teaching.

The REAL hope that we get from reading the Bible is what gives me comfort. We have had a lot of loss lately. I had a dear friend that went into the hospital for emergency surgery to remove his gall bladder. He ended up dying from septic shock. I gave the funeral discourse which was very emotional.

I volunteer at the Cleveland Clinic, visiting the very sick. I met a young man who at 35 had been struggling with Leukemia. I got to know him well and we had some very nice visits. He and his wife were very faithful people. Fulltime ministers. He died from his disease. What a painful loss.

To me...I could never understand why people believe that God is responsible for all of this. The Bible clearly tells us that there is an enemy of God that is ruling over the world right now. That spirit rebelled against God and Adam and Eve joined that rebellion....cursing us to sin and death. THAT IS WHY WE DIE. 

I take so much comfort in the promises of the Bible.

Revelation 21:4  No More Death or Suffering or Pain

This is what God will do.

 

Comment by Brenda Ann on February 16, 2017 at 4:15pm

I lost my father January 14 2017. How terrible death is…  No wonder the Bible calls death an enemy. Yet, we are not left in complete despair …  God promises that death will we done away with forever - (1 Corinthians 15:26) 26 And the last enemy, death, is to be brought to nothing.” The following helps me, hope you will find comfort too.

The Bible’s answer to “Why Do People Die”

It’s natural to wonder why people die, especially when we lose someone close to us. The Bible says: “The sting producing death is sin.”—1 Corinthians 15:56.

Why do all people sin and die?

The first humans, Adam and Eve, lost their lives because they sinned against God. (Genesis 3:17-19) Death was the only possible outcome of their rebellion against God, for with him is “the source of life.”—Psalm 36:9; Genesis 2:17.

Adam passed on the defect of sin to all his descendants. The Bible says: “Through one man sin entered into the world and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men because they had all sinned.” (Romans 5:12) All people die because they all sin.—Romans 3:23.

How death will be eliminated

God promises a time when “he will actually swallow up death forever.” (Isaiah 25:8) To remove death, he must eliminate its root cause, which is sin. God will do this through Jesus Christ, who “takes away the sin of the world.”—John 1:29; 1 John 1:7.

Comment by Dennis C. on January 27, 2017 at 5:52pm
The Bible has 8 resurrections recorded for our comfort.

8 people who died.
8 people reunited with their families.

God didn't "take" them and then return them.

In explaining one reunion the Bible gives us this account:

Mark 5:42 — And immediately the girl rose and began walking. (She was 12 years old.) And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.

Can we imagine being reunited with our loved one?

That's what gives me a strong hope and complete trust in God and what he will do for us in the future.
Comment by Elynn m on January 15, 2017 at 9:02pm

Sometimes God takes our loved ones away, to heal them.   Angela, I can't imagine losing two of the people I love within such a short time.   God must know that you are a very strong person .   I lost both my son and husband,  but our son passed in 2009 and Joe passed away in 2015.   As ruthie mentioned, Isaiah 57:1 was a comfort to me.   ("The rigneous man is ta Ken away from evil")   another scripture that helped when our son passed away is psalm 116:15.  "Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His godly ones..".    

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Comment by dream moon JO B on January 15, 2017 at 2:19am

i no thes aftr lif i no thngs hapen for a reson still dnt stopp it frm hirtin i no we can get mad at god 

http://vimeo.com/100543154?

Comment by Angela renteria on January 15, 2017 at 2:04am

I still believe that God exists and I also believe in heaven and hell. I was raised Pentecostal. I use to believe that if I had unwavering Faith God would answer my prayer most especially if it were a life or death situation. I believed if God saw how hard my husband tried to turn his life around and was suffering, that he would show him mercy and use his illness as a teaching moment but give him another chance. I believed that in my heart for the five weeks my husband fought to live while on life support. I believed in that even when the shock trauma doctors said he wouldn't a make it and was slowly declining. I love God , but I no longer believe he will always help if you have faith . I know that's not true because my husband died and 2 and half months later my dad died . Each time I begged him to spare there lives and when my dad died just after loosing my love , it felt like a slap in the face and like God just didn't care about them , me , or my children. I hate to feel that way but God knows are hearts and weather it came out of my mouth he knows it's the way I feel. I feel like what's left of my life and my kids will just be struggle. At least they are very young do they have a future. But one without father and the only grandfather they had. I look ahead to the future and I see nothing but a black empty whole . I am not at peace with it being that it was just there time and God called them home. When God took my husband he took my future away ,happiness away. I don't understand why . The worst thing is that death is permanent. If I am lucky , hopefully we will be together in the next life but then I have heard conflicting information on that. Some say we won't be husband and wife , we will be like brother and sister and love each other all the same . To me that is gut wrenching and it's like a second death .

Comment by Patricia HELEN on January 14, 2017 at 9:58am

The question is which of these two answers do we believe? They seem quite opposite.Although obviously biased, I cannot think of any one who was a better man in life than my husband. He was loved by everyone he knew for his humanity and good heart... as someone said after he had died " he has shown us what goodness in a man looks like". It is hard to understand why God would not have wanted him to stay a while...

Comment by Dennis C. on January 14, 2017 at 6:57am
The Bible really has the answers...

The Bible tells us that death is an "enemy"
It tells us that we die because we "sin" not because God takes us.
It tells us that those that die "fall asleep" in death
It tells us that our "thoughts perish" when we die.
It tells us that we "go back to the dust"

But it also tells us that the dead will be resurrected and come back to life. It tells us of reunions and the joy that will come from it.

We have such a wonderful hope for the future. Knowing the truth about why we die, what happens to us when we die, and the REAL hope we have for the future can help us in our faith.

Instead of feeling that God is part of the problem, we can see that he is indeed THE SOLUTION.

This gives us comfort instead of confusion.

If there is anything I can do to help please let me know.
It also tells us that one day there will be "no more death" and that obedient ones will live forever, not in heaven, but on a paradise earth.
Comment by Patricia HELEN on January 13, 2017 at 10:21pm

I have the same problem. I prayed every night in the hospital together with my husband that God would spare him. My husband was a good man and still had much to give to this world. My faith has been shaken and I am now very skeptical of anything beyond what is here now. The only thing I can suggest is that we keep on praying and find ways of believing there is an afterlife and that our loved ones can see and hear us......I do this in spite of my own doubts and feel that there is much more than we know and understand...

Comment by Pamela philipp on January 13, 2017 at 7:59pm
I don't know if I have actually lost faith in God I just don't understand before the loss of my mother and the loss of my husband a week apart I would say I was extremely faithful in God I remember sitting with my husband reading passages out of the Bible talking about them every night before we went to sleep so I guess I'm just a little confused I feel like a child that's been lied to by a parent disappointed is the word I would use extremely disappointed I don't know if those feelings will ever change because when they were both in The hospital at the same time I prayed for God to give me the strength I prayed for him not to take them both and he took them anyway so that's why I'm a little confused and disappointed I don't understand Because now I'm alone and everything is just upside down my world is ended as I know it and I don't know that I believe in the power of prayer anymore does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this
 

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