Compounded grief with existing anxiety and depression.

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Compounded grief with existing anxiety and depression.

During the tragic loss of a loved one or having gone through several tragedies , be it death of a loved one, divorce , personal health issues, or getting older , ect. Sometimes the stress and depression compounded by grief can be debilitating and it may have us feel as if we are mourning our own deaths while we are grieving the loss of our loved ones , We feel as if our own lives are over , Being in this mode can make recovery a longer more confusing process for some. It can be uncomfortable to talk about however with all the postings I have read.. it seems to be a common thread for quite a few, myself included . My wish for everyone to find peace if you are in this catagory . And my hope is that there are not too many who fall under this catagory... However if you do , You are not alone. ((( HUGS))) to all !

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This is the first time, since my dads death in March of 2012, that I have been on any type of site like this. My dad was 56 when he passed away from A liver disease. I came on this site because my…Continue

Started by Kristi. Last reply by Niecy Mar 25, 2016.

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Comment by annjulie on February 20, 2017 at 7:18pm

April 2016 I lost someone very dear to me. My first love as a teenager who lived down the street from me. He passed away from a drug overdose. I thought his funeral was the worst day of my life. Wrong. 7 months later I got the news that my Mom has committed suicide. 5 days later my boyfriend got into an altercation with police and he was tasered to death. It seems as though it may have been suicide by police. Its been about 3.5 months and for the first two months was very hard. I try to continue with normal life dispite how I'm feeling. I have to work to support myself I just build my schedule back up to 4 days a week. I have not suffered much depression since I was a teenager. Now I suffer from depression anxiety PTSD and extreme sadness. It exhausting holding in my tears all day and having panic attacks nightly. I try to think positive thoughts but all I can think of all day is these deaths. How could this happen? It doesn't seem real. I want to go to councilling soon but i've been avoiding it because I don't want to bring out more pain than I am already feeling. 

Comment by JO B on July 29, 2016 at 10:59pm

so sory niecy 

i am dnt no wot i or we wud of dun if we had not got on ogs u cud say not ean on mush coz im a rec u cud say mums demsa she got dun it 2 me u cud say

im ok 1 min thn nervs rec nxt had few mre famly loss as welll in lst fw moth u cud say

sorry abot loss on top uv had 

Comment by Niecy on July 28, 2016 at 2:50pm

OK so I am sad I have to be here again but glad i have this place to go

My latest losses, I had to put my female dog to sleep , her companion is in the dying process now as well. I thought i had enough to get through when Yesterday i got a call telling me that my dad had been found dead in his home . I am devastated .. I don't know how I can keep going through all this alone . My anxiety and depression are high right now so much so I feel it hard to just catch a breath . 

Comment by Niecy on March 7, 2016 at 12:28am

Hello Everyone , It's been quite a while since I have come in and posted.

For those of you that are new to the group I welcome you as well as offer my condolences. Its not a pace we wish to be but it's a place you know if have to then you don't have to be alone.

Since my last postings , I have tried my best to heal from my past losses and have done okay to a certain extent however just when there starts to be a positive outlook on a new day a dark cloud will come along and take my sunshine away.

Since my aunt , cat , and mom have passed I have had to deal with separation from my ex, living alone with anxiety and depression , Now last month my brother passed away ,my BF moved out of state ,this month my dog is ill and I will probably have to put her to sleep and just about an hour ago I received news that another aunt has died. ...I just can't seem to catch a break.  

Comment by JO B on October 7, 2014 at 3:57pm

so sorry jo i no hw u feal iv had multi loss 2 

2 mush multi los in lst 3 yr or so

sorry for u 2 jennefer

lst loss i ad wz in july ths yr my dear anti only blood 1 lft has nw gon 

i got ths pic off imge web s i did

Comment by jennifer on October 7, 2014 at 10:42am
I can relate to what is written in here. I lost my dad 5 years ago. My mom and niece 3 weeks apart . Right before Xmas. I also feel like a lost child. My guides in the world are gone. I put on a social mask to get thru work. Even for my husband's sake. I feel sad and alone. I miss seeing my mom going out and just the great conversations we could have. Hell I even miss her nagging.
Comment by Joe H on October 6, 2014 at 9:10pm

If the name of this board is accurate I am in the right place. But I really don't know what to say at the moment. I have lost 4 siblings to cancer and one to a heart attack. My dad passed from a massive stroke when I was 26 and my mom died 3 months ago. My anxiety has been a roller coaster and hidden from most family and friends as best I can but with three deaths in short span I find I'm not coping with many things in life very well right now. I never showed grief to my wife and kids for years and now I'm showing everything all at once and I think it's now put my wife under a lot of stress too because of how hard I've leaned on her and how weak I've been for the first time in 21 years of marriage. Since mom passed I feel like a child at times and I have way too much sadness eating me up.

Comment by Niecy on May 11, 2014 at 3:34pm

Hi everyone it has been a while since I have been in here and a lot has gone on in the past few months...  I went through some major depression and stress over losing mom last November that I ended up being hospitalized , I did make it through and I now can actually get through days without crying without such extreme sadness. It did take time and the will to push through but i made it to the other side. I hope everyone is doing OK and on the road to healing . xoxo

Comment by Niecy on December 26, 2013 at 1:47am

Well ... Its over... Christmas 2013 is in the past . I had so much anxiety ,depression and just flat out collapsing into cry spells the past few days honestly how I made it through alive is beyond me . I do know from reading all the posts in all the groups so many of you can relate. I just hope and pray that now we can take our breaths a little easier as we continue to heal without all the added pressure.  god bless everyone

Comment by Niecy on December 19, 2013 at 7:02pm

((hugs)) for everyone who are suffering and anticipating the holiday ahead ... I am one like you, I have been off of here for a few days because it has been really hard for me. Losing my mom less than a month ago and having so many other issues going on in my life has pushed my grief to the limits . The anxiety and depression is at an all time high as I search for a slight glimmer of light at the end of that tunnel . The holidays with all the ads, and seeing all the happy family's together can really hurt. This is all really hard for me because I am having to deal with so much loss all at once alone. The nights of hardly any sleep , the morning filled with anxiety... the dread and sadness that lingers all. day . Sometimes I wonder if it will ever end. 

I pray for a miracle daily ... I am wishing peace , love and comfort to all who are in this terrible pain . 

 

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