During the tragic loss of a loved one or having gone through several tragedies , be it death of a loved one, divorce , personal health issues, or getting older , ect. Sometimes the stress and depression compounded by grief can be debilitating and it may have us feel as if we are mourning our own deaths while we are grieving the loss of our loved ones , We feel as if our own lives are over , Being in this mode can make recovery a longer more confusing process for some. It can be uncomfortable to…See More
"You're right, no one can tell you to stop. It's NEVER right to downplay someone's loss, but it happens. Until you go through it, no one can understand the pain. I'm sorry you had to have so much happen to you. It never seems like…"
"I found the 1st year after dad dies, or for that matter anyone does, is the hardest. You're having to get used to him not being "there" for you & around your life. How do you cope? You can't call him & chat anymore like…"
"It's going to be 4 years without my father this June. He died at 67-2 days before his birthday. I felt like I had to put up a front cuz I was deemed "the responsible one". I absolutely could not cry to save my soul, especially when I…"
"Let's put it this way, when he got really sick & had a stroke, i coordinated his care & became his -Power of Attorney. Not a mean feat from North Carolina to Wisconsin by phone & computer i tell you! anyway, it was tough keeping…"
"My dad died what will be 4 years ago now. Like you, he was hard as he has good & strong. I had a rough teenage years with him too-i went to live with him my senior year of high school & long story short, it was mostly a disaster. Needless to…"
"Hi Dreama! My name is Crystal. I originally came to this site cuz of my Dad, but it's grown into many more father figures passing in the last 2 years. Im coping, sometimes barely. I hope I can help others by telling my experiences. Thanks for…"
This group is an extension of my Yahoo group with the same name. I started it soon after my dad passed away. Sharing our experiences lets us know that we are not alone. Grief is a process and we go through it in our own way and in our own time. The motto of HUGS is "We don't have to get OVER it, but sometimes we need help getting ON with it." There are lots of groups on the Internet and even on this site but it's my hope that you will find this one to be both a healing and a growing experience.…See More
"I know what you mean. Shortly after my dad died, I had an ADE dream. Long story short, he essentially told me he was fine & happy again. I still have moments where I pick up his cell phone & remember he's gone. Or I want to tell him…"
A lot of people seem to think that just because a person is older, the loss of them is more easily accepted. I, for one, would like to deeply disagree. Love is love, and loss is loss, no matter the age.See More
"No the hurt never goes away, you just feel it differently. Yes, what you feel is normal & you're ok. It may seem cliche, but it seems to be normal for the first year or two is the hardest-it truly is. Loss is loss-no one can take that from…"
I'm a homemaker,no kids, just husband, 2 cats, a pit bull/boxer mix. I try to volunteer at the local animal shelter when my health is good enough to do so. I enjoy Knitting, Cross-stitch, Pro & College Football, etc.
About my Loss:
I & my little sister (who's an adult but 4yrs younger than me) lost our father on June 28, 2011. I was his POA during his final days & executor/personal assistant after his death. He had no will, so I've been taking care (however slowly)of his affairs. My sister just can't handle it (long story). I lost my Step-dad last year (2014), I feel I lost & so alone now. We also lost my father in law at roughly the same time as my Step-dad, so there's no older male role model for me.
"Theresa, it's hard for me to be positive about anything. I always feel like something bad is right around the corner. That's because every time I thought mom was safe and had cleared another hurdle, something else would go wrong. It's…"
"It's been a little bit since I shared but it seems like I'm just stuck, out of sync with everything included myself in a way. It's been like one long endless day. I don't know how to explain it even. I'm…"
"Brett you are right that is the "dark" side, it scares me too
That is so great about the phone call from the directors at the center, that must have made you feel like a million bucks.
You are making a positive impact, I know…"
"Avi, I actually looked up the EquoVox. I couldn't find an English link for it. I'll keep looking. I'm just really curious how it works. And I want you to make your own decisions. I just want you to be happy."
"M, I'm half Catholic, and Theresa is 100% Catholic. This is a huge part of Catholicism. Ouiji boards just scare the crap out of me. I listened to a lecture series from a Vatican exorcists. There was a question and answer period. Someone asked…"
"Brett, it gives me such a lift to hear about your new gig — sounds perfect! Lucky kids too, great when they can connect with an adult who also makes them laugh.
Your comment re the spirit world app that Avi came across brought back a…"
"Avi, things like that scare the crap out of me. I mean, how do you know that you are actually communicating with your mom, and not something bad? I believe that you may open yourself to something that may attach itself to you. That's just…"
I send you my heartfelt condolences as well as a welcome to our website. It is a safe place to come and talk or vent about your loss. Talking is very helpful in sorting out how to move forward. I would like to share a paragraph from what…"
"No we should not, God is the only communicator Avi, you are right.
We should not disturb the deceased, they are in peace, it is us who are not in peace.
I still struggle everyday, I just have come to recognize that this is my new life. "
I m sure everyone on our forum had a very bad day. I just kept myself very busy all. Since I live in Florida and it is in the 70's I worked outside all day long. I feel Julian is with when I am outside. He knew I just loved the outdoors…"
Few days back I came to know an app EquoVox which can help you communicate with your loved ones who are deceased. It seems be fake to me but have seen some videos on you tube people claiming its real. Did anybody on this group…"
"Linda, thank you for the post. The words ring very true.
Today is Valentine’s Day, but fortunately for me, Joseph and I didn’t always celebrate on this day. We didn’t feel that we had to show our love and devotion on a specific day…"