During the tragic loss of a loved one or having gone through several tragedies , be it death of a loved one, divorce , personal health issues, or getting older , ect. Sometimes the stress and depression compounded by grief can be debilitating and it may have us feel as if we are mourning our own deaths while we are grieving the loss of our loved ones , We feel as if our own lives are over , Being in this mode can make recovery a longer more confusing process for some. It can be uncomfortable to…See More
"You're right, no one can tell you to stop. It's NEVER right to downplay someone's loss, but it happens. Until you go through it, no one can understand the pain. I'm sorry you had to have so much happen to you. It never seems like…"
"I found the 1st year after dad dies, or for that matter anyone does, is the hardest. You're having to get used to him not being "there" for you & around your life. How do you cope? You can't call him & chat anymore like…"
"It's going to be 4 years without my father this June. He died at 67-2 days before his birthday. I felt like I had to put up a front cuz I was deemed "the responsible one". I absolutely could not cry to save my soul, especially when I…"
"Let's put it this way, when he got really sick & had a stroke, i coordinated his care & became his -Power of Attorney. Not a mean feat from North Carolina to Wisconsin by phone & computer i tell you! anyway, it was tough keeping…"
"My dad died what will be 4 years ago now. Like you, he was hard as he has good & strong. I had a rough teenage years with him too-i went to live with him my senior year of high school & long story short, it was mostly a disaster. Needless to…"
"Hi Dreama! My name is Crystal. I originally came to this site cuz of my Dad, but it's grown into many more father figures passing in the last 2 years. Im coping, sometimes barely. I hope I can help others by telling my experiences. Thanks for…"
This group is an extension of my Yahoo group with the same name. I started it soon after my dad passed away. Sharing our experiences lets us know that we are not alone. Grief is a process and we go through it in our own way and in our own time. The motto of HUGS is "We don't have to get OVER it, but sometimes we need help getting ON with it." There are lots of groups on the Internet and even on this site but it's my hope that you will find this one to be both a healing and a growing experience.…See More
"I know what you mean. Shortly after my dad died, I had an ADE dream. Long story short, he essentially told me he was fine & happy again. I still have moments where I pick up his cell phone & remember he's gone. Or I want to tell him…"
A lot of people seem to think that just because a person is older, the loss of them is more easily accepted. I, for one, would like to deeply disagree. Love is love, and loss is loss, no matter the age.See More
"No the hurt never goes away, you just feel it differently. Yes, what you feel is normal & you're ok. It may seem cliche, but it seems to be normal for the first year or two is the hardest-it truly is. Loss is loss-no one can take that from…"
I'm a homemaker,no kids, just husband, 2 cats, a pit bull/boxer mix. I try to volunteer at the local animal shelter when my health is good enough to do so. I enjoy Knitting, Cross-stitch, Pro & College Football, etc.
About my Loss:
I & my little sister (who's an adult but 4yrs younger than me) lost our father on June 28, 2011. I was his POA during his final days & executor/personal assistant after his death. He had no will, so I've been taking care (however slowly)of his affairs. My sister just can't handle it (long story). I lost my Step-dad last year (2014), I feel I lost & so alone now. We also lost my father in law at roughly the same time as my Step-dad, so there's no older male role model for me.
"Yes Brett. A bit of rough phase but coping up to do things as mentioned by Selv. To do work to earn and other things.
One thing which is driving me is my angel (my 4 months daughter). Her name is Kiana and her smile is my driving force to…"
"Avi, I feel like you are going through a rough time right now. You're not alone. One of the great things about a site like this is that you are a world away but I know who you are and I know that you are missing your mom just as much as I am.…"
"My mom worried about every detail of my life. There are some who would say that is intrusive. I felt that she was just being a mom. I miss that so much. I had the flu last year. I was laying in that bed and all I could hear was silence. My mom would…"
"Good morning Adams. It is 9:40 AM in India and I am at my job and trying to concentrate hard as my Mom always wanted.
I have almost stopped complaining of anything in life now as I have already lost my most precious gift. Now what ever I have…"
"Avi, the fact that you were close enough with your mother to share your negative feelings about your job shows real intimacy, which I think is what loving mothers treasure above all else. So hard accepting that we will not hear that beloved…"
"Even my mother always used to say that live your life fully but I was always complaining on some matters. She used to worry about me the most as I was not stable in my job and used to talk about quitting it often. She always used to say, love your…"
"Alice, I regret not getting it together to write on Dec 2nd as I recall that was your anniversary of your husbands death date. I have just been swimming upstream through the rapids. Each year during the "seasonal"…"
"You know what when my mom could not be resuscitated, her eyes were wide open and looking toward the right towards me as I walked in, she saw me I know it. I shut her eyes. I wanted the hospital staff to leave me alone. They were…"
"SelV, your mom would have had it no other way. She saw you take your first breath. You saw her take her last. I experienced that as well. If I had my way, I would have gone before my mom. Is that selfish of me? Yes. I don't care. Losing mom was…"
"Dear all...the thought "What if I had died due to unforeseen circumstances and my elderly widowed mother had to grief my death?" crossed my mind many times. Knowing my mother, her world (of me and her) would have collapsed and she would…"
"I think you're right, Theresa. We are a sad bunch. I think our moms would be touched that we love them so much, but they would probably also want us to be happy and move on. I just don't think that's possible, nor do I believe that my…"