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Nora replied to Nora's discussion No Nesting In My Hair in the group How to move on...
"I had to start working back to December and I had to start driving across the city. I can tell - it is hard. Seeing all those places that are not "our" places any more. I cannot come home and tell him - lets got to eat our Mexican food -…"
Jun 20, 2018
M Adams replied to Nora's discussion No Nesting In My Hair in the group How to move on...
"So sorry to hear that you are still feeling broken.  Stuck and broken are both apt adjectives for me as well, I think, but bereavement is a process and there are changes that I'm perceiving, though they're not necessarily all…"
Jun 14, 2018
Nora replied to Nora's discussion No Nesting In My Hair in the group How to move on...
"Thank you, M Adams. Unfortunately, I am still the same broken woman in that cold lonely nest. No moving anywhere. Stuck! Pieces of broken life scattered around. Nothing whole...  What about you? How are you?"
Jun 13, 2018
M Adams replied to Nora's discussion No Nesting In My Hair in the group How to move on...
"Thought of you today for some reason -- that bird nest image has stayed with me -- hope you're doing better."
Jun 12, 2018
M Adams replied to Nora's discussion No Nesting In My Hair in the group How to move on...
"Thanks for the image and the proverb -- they help."
Nov 21, 2017
Nora posted a status
"from The Book Thief, by Markus Zusak:"Imagine smiling after a slap in the face.Then think of doing it twenty-four hours a day.""
Sep 12, 2017
Nora replied to Richard Rivera's discussion FIRST BIRTHDAY ALONE...
"Richard. Its your birthday today. I know how you feel - my birthday was a month ago. I understand all your thoughts and feelings today. I know how badly you want Annette to be beside you right now but she cannot. I looked at my birthday differently…"
Sep 6, 2017
Nora added a discussion to the group How to move on...
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25 Habits of Happy People - Something I Should Start Learning Again

It was so natural to do many things before. Now many things look so unnatural. I have to learn how to smile and be happy. It feels like I never knew.....I have started... First six (without #2) I already can do. My dear, Steve, please help me to start smiling again!Urban Jungle Co. - Link25 Life Changing Habits of Happy People …See More
Aug 7, 2017
Nora commented on Jesse's Mom's group Signs from Our Loved Ones
"I find this interesting. Signs from our deceased ones. Can Our Deceased Loved Ones Still Hear Us? Please read comments also."
Jul 17, 2017
Nora added a discussion to the group How to move on...
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Letting Go of the Worry That Weighs Us Down-By Lisa Jeffs

I find this calmingWe worry too much and I am sure some things we worry about even dont deserve our attention but we worry and they drain our energy that we already dont have right now...“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” ~Eckhart TolleAs a child, I remember my daily walks to elementary school. It was an uphill walk for the most part. Quite symbolic of later years, now that I…See More
Jul 14, 2017
Nora replied to Jackie cooke's discussion Moving on in the group How to move on...
"Moving on is not forgetting. Moving on for me right now is only taking myself to some other level - better to say moving out of pain. Guilt. Jakie sent me some time a site where they say - you did not cause his death, you did not kill or hurt…"
Jun 26, 2017
Nora replied to Nora's discussion No Nesting In My Hair in the group How to move on...
"Today was the day when they nested in my hair. I failed today. At the same time I did many things - only decided not to go anywhere as I cried and my eyes hurt. My condition is not healthy, it is exhausting. I am getting very tired and upset. It is…"
Jun 25, 2017
Nora added a discussion to the group How to move on...
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No Nesting In My Hair

"You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair". ~ Old Chinese ProverbI have one more member of the group now so its better to make discussions.This is how I feel right now. Fetus? Egg? it's against nature to stay like this... Broken wings, broken heart, broken hopes, broken life... For 3 months I was tempted to lessen this tragedy in my life by numbing my mind with alcohol, sleeping or escape from it by reading or…See More
Jun 24, 2017
Nora and Lost with out him are now friends
Jun 24, 2017
Nora commented on Steph's group How to move on...
"This is my meditation that I use in the evening. Coping with Grief: Guided Spoken Meditation for healing after a los... Day number 1 - today I decided to notice more positive things around. Cannot say it worked but at least I started. Went shopping…"
Jun 24, 2017
Nora commented on Steph's group How to move on...
"I have decided to create a Moving On group today but then I found that Steph who is not a member anymore already created this group so I am reincarnating it. I have the same pain as anybody else here ut I want to slowly work back to some other…"
Jun 24, 2017

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About Me:
Sitting alone and crying over my loss. Completely lost and have no idea where to go or what to do. I have no friends or family - came here looking for support and advice.
About my Loss:
My beloved husband of 11 years left me on March 20, 2017. He was my everything and I called him Pumpkin because he loved the bright orange color (look at the photo) and was bald.... Also, he was very kind and very funny. Life is so empty without him and our house turned into some empty building.

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61 tips on the experience of Grief and how to help people through it

This is the book - you can save in pdf format

The first 3

1. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to a significant emotional loss of any kind.

2. Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of, or change in, a familiar pattern of behavior.

3. Grief is the feeling of reaching out for someone who has always been…

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Posted on June 18, 2017 at 9:49am

Lessons of a Late Friend - inspire3.com

I knew he didn't have long to live.



I was sitting next to him on a cold bench at Brighton beach, staring out at the ocean.







"I want to tell you some crap," he said. "Pass it on."



And then he began telling me the things he'd learned in his short time on this planet. The kind of things we all need reminding of from time to time, but we oh-so-easily forget.



He…

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Posted on June 17, 2017 at 1:43pm — 3 Comments

If Tomorrow Starts Without Me

YouTube Video - Still hurts and I dont believe in Jesus but feels like my Steve is talking to me......

"IF TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME"



When tomorrow starts without me 

and I'm not here to see... 

If the sun should rise and find your 

eyes filled with tears for me, 



I wish so much you wouldn't…

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Posted on June 16, 2017 at 7:30pm — 1 Comment

The Guide - Great Online Book for Grieving

The Guide

And this is just one of its chapters - Number VIII

 Sad, Mad and Dangerous to Know

One thing that you will almost certainly find is that you need help to sleep. I found it impossible to sleep in the first couple of…

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Posted on June 15, 2017 at 6:46am

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At 5:31pm on June 11, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Grieving is a very personal thing. It also depends on the ammount of love involved. The stronger the love the more painfull the grieving process is. In time some come to accept it, others never accept the loss. Friendship, true friendship, understanding, sharing and a sense of each others feelings is important to get through the grieving process. That may not be the answer for everyone, I accept that. At least we may have made a genuine friendship and that is a positive and not a negative. My song should be recorded some time this week. Take care and hope you are enjoying your vacation.

At 3:55am on May 29, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Hi Nora, Thank you for a wonderful and heart felt reply. I understand as much as is possible your horrendous childhood and growing up, your bitterness towards your Father and three temporary mothers. That must have been hell for you. Yet through it all I sense a genuine loving, caring person inside you. Only shining through at times. I taught myself to forgive easily. That way I don't live with the trauma as much. I also try to understand people and not just their actions. I look at why things happen. I am still close to an x girlfriend of mine and she fell out of love with me, she asked me to give her away at her wedding. Which I did. I was proud to do that for her. We are still very good friends and have made a promise that our friendship would last forever. I was older than she was and that didn't make any difference with her. Yet I remember the pain and hurt at the break up. Again I forgave her and don't regret the time we had together. Again forgivness has to come from the heart and not just esthetically meant. Because I can forgive people, not everyone can do that. We are all very different and none of us are the same. When you wrote Hello Bonnie, you made me smile. I have a friend on facebook who always refers to me as her Bonnie Lad, she lives in England and I in Scotland. I refer to her as my bonnie lass.lol I have a song on youtube that I wrote for my x girlfriends wedding. I am playing the song live at the Wedding reception. A minute before the song was recorded I was in a kilt and Scottish outfit. I changed quickly to my cowboy shirt and boots.lol If you look for bjcolt001 the song is called special day and it is on youtube. My stage name is bjcolt hence the billy Jo colt. I intend making it to Texas in the next few years, as that is where Country music is nowadays. Nashville is not the same any more. The only problem with youtube is that I have to upload either pictures or a video with the audio track. I am not able to do that and i'm trying to find a web site that just uploads the audio track. Thank you so much for replying you have made me smile today. sending you hugggs from Scotland, xxx

At 5:47pm on May 28, 2017, Billy Jo Colt said…

Hi Nora, losing your Mom at such a young age is honestly devastating. Sadly my Mom was very abusive to my brother and myself. I lost my sight at 18 years old and she made me clean the house and do everything, including theironing, washing. Even down to cleaning the carpet with a hand brush, polishing the furniture and more. Again sadly using the threat of violence if it wasn't done properly. After she died I found out that as a child she was both sexualy and physically abused. I had long forgiven her for what happened  with my brother and I. Inside she was a lovely person and loving as well at times. I still love her very much and she made me the person I am today. I can do things that a stereotypical blind person is not supposed to be able to do. I've just finished writing a song about grief and in the next week or so I will record the basic song and try to find a site I can upload it to so members on here can listen to it. I picked up my guitar after 4 years. When my girlfriend died, I lost my heart and soul. I'm slowly getting it back. The song isn't perfect yet but I think it is, hopefully those in our situation can listen to and appreciate, they are not alone in their grief. sending you huggs, from Bonnie scotland. xxx

At 10:23pm on May 21, 2017, Connie Steidl said…

Thank you for your kind words....

At 8:37pm on April 8, 2017, Jerry said…
HI Nora, sorry you too are here now, things just never be the same and you will feel miserable. We all chit chat to and fro here so as they say, "welcome", to what I believe is the dark side of the sun. When you get overwhelmed, stop and take deep breaths to relax your anxiety,it helps me to get through those reoccurrences and very often. I unexpectedly lost my soulmate wife Jan 28, very hardest thing ever to now endure. Take care and be extra careful. She was my "shalinka".
 
 
 

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Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I dream about my Mom & Dad & thankfully they are always good dreams that are comforting.  An Aunt that I was close to is in a lot of the dreams with my parents.  I have one sibling. He is never in the dreams of my parents.  I…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I rarely dream about my mom. When I do dream about her it is almost always bad. I had a horrible dream last night. It was very short. I was standing near the front door of my mom's house. I looked down to greet my dog. There was a little puppy…"
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Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Yes we have no choice but to live without our mothers. Grief and guilt will be there through out and some days will be really hard than others. Yesterday was pathetic for me as my father said something that really hit me. I hope to see my mother…"
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"I relate to you all who have posted lately.  2 years for me.  2nd year was worse than the first as reality set in and shock lessened.  I am still in a trauma state of mind.  Forgetful, irritable, less patient.  I isolate…"
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Nothing feels real

My husband was brutly murdered 6 day ago and nothing feels real to me I'm still waiting to wake up or him to call me the pain is unbearable I don't know if I can go on anymore
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Deanna N Nash commented on Susie H's group surviving family members' murders
"6 days ago my husband and soulmate was brutly murdered and everyday gets a little harder I haven't seen him yet he's held up at the corners and I'm terrified to see him but I need to see him to convince my mind that this is real and…"
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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Robin, thank you.  Bluebird was the honesty that i discovered on this site that made it possible for me to express what I go through.  Several others who write let me know too.  I tend to reach out here, particularly when I am…"
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Robin commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Morgan - I lost my husband John, 9 years ago, when he was 46.  I come to this website every now & then, but have only commented a few times.  I relate most to you and Bluebird.  I can't believe it's been 9 years, and…"
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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I really don't know what to say to all the newer people who come here looking for help and comfort because I have struggled for years. I did find an article written by a psychotherapist just the other day that made some sense to me about the…"
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Missing my true love

My partner died 14 weeks ago and I am struggling big time without her, we been together for 10 years and now I have nothing left,
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"I hate my life without her now I miss her so much, we been together for 10 years and now I have nothing left"
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Kathleen Jordan commented on Anna-Marie's blog post When does the crying stop.
"Even though dream moon can't do grammar, I agree. It doesn't stop...it will hit at moments out of the clear blue....4 years, 9 years or 20.  It is a loss, and it's real."
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