"I think I'll grieve the loss of my mother for the rest of my life, though I'm near your age and my mother passed away 4 years ago come May. How can a good mother ever be replaced? She can't, because no one will ever love us like that…"
I'm so glad I kept my mother's clothes, as it seems as if clothes are the very first thing most people donate and are rarely kept as keepsakes. I would have done the same (although I have not managed to part with anything…"
"So many things have hit you all at once, it's no wonder you feel as you do. And now, also losing the house. I've also had multiple losses that brought me down to my knees and made me feel that life just isn't worth the effort. These…"
"I have the same problem. I've even felt much guilt over it, but have come to realize that tears don't always express the degree of grief. Crying, however, is a very wonderful release and I'd give anything to be able to re-possess that…"
"I understand how you feel. Sudden deaths are so hard. One's entire reality is suddenly altered, a reality we never asked for or wanted. Life can change on a dime. It is like our loved ones simply vanished off the face of the earth. I'm…"
I think the worst way to lose someone is so very suddenly like that. I've experience that, too. It leaves one completely numb and in a state of shock. Reality suddenly seems as if it has disappeared. If you'd like to send…"
"Stephanie, I'm so sorry to hear of your tremendous loss. It sounds like it may have happened very unexpectedly. I lost two people who defined the word "reality" as I know it - they were my world - within five years, and I'm still…"
"You are very brave, Janet, to have gone through all that. It will take a long time to heal, so just be kind and patient with yourself. Are you seeing a counselor? Anti-depressants didn't change anything for me, but they certainly helped…"
"I'm so sorry to hear of your traumatic loss. I never have gone through this exact same thing, but I have gone through many traumatic losses. I believe there may be a specific group on this site for those who have lost someone through homicide.…"
"Anger is a part of grief. She probably needed you more than anyone and would have preferred to be with you more than anyone else. Sometimes, a truly great love from one person is enough. She was lucky to have you."
That is so sad and everyone on this site can relate in some way. Losing someone irreplaceable like that feels absolutely shattering. When I think of all the deaths and losses and mourning that has gone on for thousands and thousands of…"
Thanks for your kind response. The only energy I really have is anxiety, I think. I just try to re-channel if and when I can, but really feel as if a plug has been pulled and all the "electricity" has just gone out of me. I guess…"
Your words are such a beautiful expression of remembering someone on a daily minute-by-minute basis in life. Some people say, "they're in a better place" or "they're in heaven now" and can just go on in life…"
Thanks for your comment on my blog! That's really neat what your doing, making a quilt of your mom's clothes. What a special way to remember her! Even after six years, I swear that I can still smell my mom's perfume on her clothes and it's comforting. It's so hard to lose a mom!
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I just read your post from yesterday. You are SO right!! I have some clothing of my mom's tucked away that I am keeping. One piece is a shirt she used to wear in the 60's that I remember so clearly from when I was a little girl. I…"
"I'm so sorry, Theresa. It's too bad the lot of us don't live nearer together so we could meet and support one another. One thing I've learned through this is that there are people in our lives who can be thoughtless and…"
I can relate so well to this. I can't tell you how many times I have said and felt these exact same things. I'd see a recipe that looked good and start to call my mom to tell her about it, I'd create a piece of art but she…"
"I went out shopping with a friend today. When I saw a pretty wind chime, I found myself thinking "Mom would like that". But there is no more Mom to get presents for. I miss her. I want her back. I wish this was all a very long, horrible…"
"It really helps to communicate with others who have experienced the same loss, so thanks to all who answered my post. Lenny, Connie and Kim - we all understand each other. Today was a better day for me - some days are like that.…"
"Dear Connie, Katherine and Kim
I fully understand the bereft feelings and I also have been anxious about precious moments of our daughters and where they will end up when we pass. The pain of losing our only child never ends , even when we appear to…"
I feel the very same way. I have everything form my son's baby things, through elementary and high school. He died at age 17 and never got to even graduate, drive a car by himself, well you know....I have things of mine I wanted…"
"I too have regrets and your post deeply resonated with me. I wish I spent more time with him. I wished I laughed more with him. I wish I talked to him more. It's too late now.
I will never be the same. I am trying to help myself in little…"
I am forced to do all of these things as quick as I can because I have to go back to work soon. I am trying to finish all of the paperwork. I was forced to do things quickly even though I am so emotionally distraught. My world stopped when…"
I am so sad that your husband died a sudden death. My partner and I had a conversation about what's the worst thing that could happen to him. We talked about it for hours and we cried a lot that night. In a way we were saying…"
"Catherine, I to lost my only child my son in 2014. im not doing good, I pray to die everyday. theres no life with out my son for me. shawn is the love of my life. my depression is getting worse, my loneliness emptiness. im so very…"
"Heather, yes I do, I have no one, my husband doesn't even want to hear me talk about it, he ignores me when I do
I have not had a dream about her yet
To me it seems like everyone thinks I should just move on, but I'm not ready, I have…"
"I do the same thing, at least several times a day. My Mom was a diabetic so I had to take the used testing strips back to the pharmacy the other day. I actually sat In the car hugging it, something of hers that I have to let go of and it made me so…"
"I just had to say when I get in bed at night I have such a hard time - I cry mostly every night and I remember that every night when i used to talk to my mom on the phone when we were hanging up she would say love you...And I think to myself who…"
"I lost my only son, aged 28, in November 2014. On the surface I am doing well, and I am functioning on a day to day basis just fine. But every day it replays in my mind how the police came to my door to say Scott had 'passed…"