"Theresa, I too, am an adult who lost a mother four years ago very, very unexpectedly and still am having a very, very difficult time adjusting to this new "surreality." I feel I've changed so much inside, and not in good ways. I feel…"
"This sounds very much like my experience of losing my amazing mother nearly 4 years ago. I felt totally empty and dead inside, and lost almost every reason to live. I clung to the few things left in my life that had meaning, and really just wanted…"
"It will soon be four years since I lost my mom and today the grief is worse than ever ... I wonder will it ever go away ... and do I even want it to go? I don't mind the constant sadness, but it often becomes so overwhelming in it's…"
"I think I'll grieve the loss of my mother for the rest of my life, though I'm near your age and my mother passed away 4 years ago come May. How can a good mother ever be replaced? She can't, because no one will ever love us like that…"
I'm so glad I kept my mother's clothes, as it seems as if clothes are the very first thing most people donate and are rarely kept as keepsakes. I would have done the same (although I have not managed to part with anything…"
"So many things have hit you all at once, it's no wonder you feel as you do. And now, also losing the house. I've also had multiple losses that brought me down to my knees and made me feel that life just isn't worth the effort. These…"
"I have the same problem. I've even felt much guilt over it, but have come to realize that tears don't always express the degree of grief. Crying, however, is a very wonderful release and I'd give anything to be able to re-possess that…"
"I understand how you feel. Sudden deaths are so hard. One's entire reality is suddenly altered, a reality we never asked for or wanted. Life can change on a dime. It is like our loved ones simply vanished off the face of the earth. I'm…"
I think the worst way to lose someone is so very suddenly like that. I've experience that, too. It leaves one completely numb and in a state of shock. Reality suddenly seems as if it has disappeared. If you'd like to send…"
"Stephanie, I'm so sorry to hear of your tremendous loss. It sounds like it may have happened very unexpectedly. I lost two people who defined the word "reality" as I know it - they were my world - within five years, and I'm still…"
"You are very brave, Janet, to have gone through all that. It will take a long time to heal, so just be kind and patient with yourself. Are you seeing a counselor? Anti-depressants didn't change anything for me, but they certainly helped…"
"I'm so sorry to hear of your traumatic loss. I never have gone through this exact same thing, but I have gone through many traumatic losses. I believe there may be a specific group on this site for those who have lost someone through homicide.…"
"Anger is a part of grief. She probably needed you more than anyone and would have preferred to be with you more than anyone else. Sometimes, a truly great love from one person is enough. She was lucky to have you."
Thanks for your comment on my blog! That's really neat what your doing, making a quilt of your mom's clothes. What a special way to remember her! Even after six years, I swear that I can still smell my mom's perfume on her clothes and it's comforting. It's so hard to lose a mom!
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It has been 4 years since I lost my Husband and soulmate to cancer. My family and friends tell me that time will things better. To tell you the truth the only way I keep my sanity, is adopting a dog and seeing my therapist and…"
"Jennifer, my husband passed May 2, 2017. We had a wonderful marriage and we loved each other with all of our hearts. Jack was an awesome person. I am currently going through this with my own family. I am away from my family…"
"Hello, well I made it through my 1st anniversary without him. It was a really hard day, Wednesday. I miss him like crazy and love him so much. Today I just feel numb. All these stages of grief are exhausting. Working full…"
Is It Wrong to Grieve?Have you ever had a brief bout with illness? Perhaps you recovered so quickly that you have practically forgotten the episode. Well, grief is not like that. “There is no such thing as ‘getting over’ grief,” writes Dr. Alan Wolfelt in his book Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart. However, he adds: “Over time and with the support of others, your grief will soften.”As an example, consider how the patriarch Abraham reacted when his wife died. The Bible says that “Abraham began…See More
"Jennifer, I remember when the anger started burning inside me too. It was horrible and ugly and scary, and immensely powerful. I felt afraid to open my mouth in front of others in case I screamed and yelled and told them what I thought of them and…"
"My mom loved Judge Judy. You couldn't convince her that was not a real courtroom. She also loved The Shark Tank and Everybody Loves Raymond. It all seems like just yesterday since we watched those shows together. I love those shows, too, but it…"
"Hello AnneJ and everyone, In a couple of weeks it will be 3 years since I lost all that mattered to me. Six months ago I started unpacking and hung some pictures where I live now. I did it out of embarrassment rather than a desire…"
How do you deal with well meaning family/friends who just don't understand what you're going through? 2 of my sisters-in-law still have their husbands. One does not have a good marriage, she talks about her husband dying flippantly she says things like "I know if _____ died I would use the insurance money to go on that vacation he never wants to go on." Then in the next breath "Are you still going on your cruise next year? I could take (my husband's) place if you want so you're not alone."…See More
"Today was a good day! I love you and thank you so very much Mama! I think of you everyday while cleaning up your home and getting it ready for sale. It is still hard for me to go there and not seeing you watching Dr.Phil and judge Judy! I have not…"
"Apparently, I have found the anger that my counselor and everyone else has been saying I was going to feel. To this point, all I have felt is sad or numb. Well, the last 2 days I have not been able to stand to see happy families.…"
"My mom had renal failure , she passed away December 2015. I still miss her everyday of my breathing, during this time I had broken my right wrist on a Friday Dec. 11 2015 my mom died on the 17. The pain was in so many directions, leaving the…"
"Hi, Linda. I feel the same way as you. I feel like you could walk right into my home, sit down, and we wouldn't have to say a word and be completely understood by one another. It's been 3 years and 10 months since my Beloved man died, the…"