"Theresa, I too, am an adult who lost a mother four years ago very, very unexpectedly and still am having a very, very difficult time adjusting to this new "surreality." I feel I've changed so much inside, and not in good ways. I feel…"
"This sounds very much like my experience of losing my amazing mother nearly 4 years ago. I felt totally empty and dead inside, and lost almost every reason to live. I clung to the few things left in my life that had meaning, and really just wanted…"
"It will soon be four years since I lost my mom and today the grief is worse than ever ... I wonder will it ever go away ... and do I even want it to go? I don't mind the constant sadness, but it often becomes so overwhelming in it's…"
"I think I'll grieve the loss of my mother for the rest of my life, though I'm near your age and my mother passed away 4 years ago come May. How can a good mother ever be replaced? She can't, because no one will ever love us like that…"
I'm so glad I kept my mother's clothes, as it seems as if clothes are the very first thing most people donate and are rarely kept as keepsakes. I would have done the same (although I have not managed to part with anything…"
"So many things have hit you all at once, it's no wonder you feel as you do. And now, also losing the house. I've also had multiple losses that brought me down to my knees and made me feel that life just isn't worth the effort. These…"
"I have the same problem. I've even felt much guilt over it, but have come to realize that tears don't always express the degree of grief. Crying, however, is a very wonderful release and I'd give anything to be able to re-possess that…"
"I understand how you feel. Sudden deaths are so hard. One's entire reality is suddenly altered, a reality we never asked for or wanted. Life can change on a dime. It is like our loved ones simply vanished off the face of the earth. I'm…"
I think the worst way to lose someone is so very suddenly like that. I've experience that, too. It leaves one completely numb and in a state of shock. Reality suddenly seems as if it has disappeared. If you'd like to send…"
"Stephanie, I'm so sorry to hear of your tremendous loss. It sounds like it may have happened very unexpectedly. I lost two people who defined the word "reality" as I know it - they were my world - within five years, and I'm still…"
"You are very brave, Janet, to have gone through all that. It will take a long time to heal, so just be kind and patient with yourself. Are you seeing a counselor? Anti-depressants didn't change anything for me, but they certainly helped…"
"I'm so sorry to hear of your traumatic loss. I never have gone through this exact same thing, but I have gone through many traumatic losses. I believe there may be a specific group on this site for those who have lost someone through homicide.…"
"Anger is a part of grief. She probably needed you more than anyone and would have preferred to be with you more than anyone else. Sometimes, a truly great love from one person is enough. She was lucky to have you."
Thanks for your comment on my blog! That's really neat what your doing, making a quilt of your mom's clothes. What a special way to remember her! Even after six years, I swear that I can still smell my mom's perfume on her clothes and it's comforting. It's so hard to lose a mom!
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"I would say that your mom was fortunate that she did not suffer that way. Sometimes a person will suffer for years before they die. I am certainly glad that I got to be with my mom at the end and tell her that I loved her every day, but it was…"
"I know you know I did not mean it in that way, but of course not, my question, should I be thankful she did not suffer and lay in a bed and me have to watch her suffer and be able to do nothing as so many had to do on this site. But as you…"
Should I be thankful? My mom died in an instant she was herself until the last minute. Some say I’m lucky I didn’t have to watch her suffer. But my mom used to always say we suffer everyday in this earth.
I would have been…"
"Thanks Theressa. Yes hope the questions will be answered. In my country, lot of importance is given to Karma and it is believed that whatever you sow and you will reap the same. Not sure how this karma cycle is analyzed and who decided if this was a…"
"Yes Avi That’s what we all have to do we have to go on with our lives it’s so much easier said than done I cry sometimes uncontrollably I have hope that one day every question or any uncertainty we have will be answered"
"Same Brett, yesterday out of the blue driving home from work I burst into tears saying mom why didn't you wait for me to get there before you went in cardiac arrest, well now isn't that stupid on my part.
I feel that I am a…"
"I'll keep going though. I'll keep praying. I'll keep putting one foot in front of the other, but I do not seem to get anywhere.
I will always pray for a wink or a nod. Just something to let me know that the Lord is walking with…"
"Guys, my heart is just broken. So broken. It's not because of some kind of change. It's just three years of sadness that continues to pull me down, and makes me feel that there is very little hope. I am a very spiritual person. When lie…"
Thank you for your response, and for providing the link to your post about your NDE as well as describing it in more detail here. Although it's terrible that you were in that accident, in a way it was a blessing for you, in that it allows…"
"2012 September 30th. This fight is real. My only son was shot in the head. The girl and her brother were in the house when it happened. The told police that they were playing with the gun. Well a sister and brother will die and go to hell or heaven…"