I'm so glad I kept my mother's clothes, as it seems as if clothes are the very first thing most people donate and are rarely kept as keepsakes. I would have done the same (although I have not managed to part with anything…"
"So many things have hit you all at once, it's no wonder you feel as you do. And now, also losing the house. I've also had multiple losses that brought me down to my knees and made me feel that life just isn't worth the effort. These…"
"I have the same problem. I've even felt much guilt over it, but have come to realize that tears don't always express the degree of grief. Crying, however, is a very wonderful release and I'd give anything to be able to re-possess that…"
"I understand how you feel. Sudden deaths are so hard. One's entire reality is suddenly altered, a reality we never asked for or wanted. Life can change on a dime. It is like our loved ones simply vanished off the face of the earth. I'm…"
I think the worst way to lose someone is so very suddenly like that. I've experience that, too. It leaves one completely numb and in a state of shock. Reality suddenly seems as if it has disappeared. If you'd like to send…"
"Stephanie, I'm so sorry to hear of your tremendous loss. It sounds like it may have happened very unexpectedly. I lost two people who defined the word "reality" as I know it - they were my world - within five years, and I'm still…"
"You are very brave, Janet, to have gone through all that. It will take a long time to heal, so just be kind and patient with yourself. Are you seeing a counselor? Anti-depressants didn't change anything for me, but they certainly helped…"
"I'm so sorry to hear of your traumatic loss. I never have gone through this exact same thing, but I have gone through many traumatic losses. I believe there may be a specific group on this site for those who have lost someone through homicide.…"
"Anger is a part of grief. She probably needed you more than anyone and would have preferred to be with you more than anyone else. Sometimes, a truly great love from one person is enough. She was lucky to have you."
That is so sad and everyone on this site can relate in some way. Losing someone irreplaceable like that feels absolutely shattering. When I think of all the deaths and losses and mourning that has gone on for thousands and thousands of…"
Thanks for your kind response. The only energy I really have is anxiety, I think. I just try to re-channel if and when I can, but really feel as if a plug has been pulled and all the "electricity" has just gone out of me. I guess…"
Your words are such a beautiful expression of remembering someone on a daily minute-by-minute basis in life. Some people say, "they're in a better place" or "they're in heaven now" and can just go on in life…"
"I know how you feel, Melanie. I'm much older than you, but have recently lost two people who were all the world to me. Half (or more) of my reality is completely ripped away and my life has a huge gaping hole in its fabric. It feels so surreal…"
Thanks for your comment on my blog! That's really neat what your doing, making a quilt of your mom's clothes. What a special way to remember her! Even after six years, I swear that I can still smell my mom's perfume on her clothes and it's comforting. It's so hard to lose a mom!
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One of my friends (who hasn't contacted me for weeks) sent me a cutesy picture of a cat and a message which asked "how are you?". Cat picture aside, I am tired of this question, particularly when I feel the person asking it just wants to hear I am feeling better. As if that is possible for me five months after my husband's suicide. After I lost the love of my life, my joy and my happiness.I don't know how to answer the how are you question anymore, but I will be damned if I'm going to put on a…See More
"Debbie I am so sorry for the lost of your Mom. Just know she was just as important to us as we were to her.
Rita I don't have advise. My mother shut down in 2008 when my dad passed away, til this day she has not been able to offer…"
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom on Valentines day 2017. I too dream about her, and when I wake up, it really hurts that she is not here. I had a different relationship with my Mom than you did. I was her caregiver and her…"
"Well said thank you for the advice. But guilt is the hardest thing to let go. I can't seem to shake it. I still think over and over I could've done more, should've done more. right now I'm actually going to hopefully get help…"
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"Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry, Olive! I hate that you're having to get through this day alone. You should absolutely talk about your dad. You're a whole person, not split in half with two separate losses. I wish we could sit and share a…"
"Richard, I understand your feelings. If only we could have had more time with our loved ones. If only something had been different. It doesn't seem to matter if they died in front of us or in a horrible accident. Bottom…"
"Hi Nancy, I wish we could go out to eat tonight in honor of my mom, but my husband works nights and my dear dad passed on February 4 (I didn't know if I should mention that in here because the group is about moms). Your experience…"
"Hi, Olive. I am certain she feels your love! I am always praying and asking The Lord to tell my mom how much I love and miss her, and even to give her a hug and kiss from me. You can be sure he will pass everything on to your sweet mother. On my…"
First of all, I want to thank you for replying to my comments. I appreciate you sharing your experiences and how they parallel with mine. It does help me sort through what all I am grieving.
As the caregiver, a daughter, a sister and a…"
"Nancy, I am okay right now which I am grateful for.
Olive, My thoughts are with you on this difficult day.
Theresa, Talking does help and I thank you for your support. I am feeling my way through it minute by minute, hour by hour and day by…"
"I wish I could say it gets better, Elizabeth. You have gone through four years, and I have only gone through 16 months, so I can only think that my life will never hold any joy or happiness again. No, it is not health, but how can we make our…"
"Thanks for sharing, Bluebird. The poem, unfortunately, says it all! My life has no meaning. I did think love would last forever, and I never even contemplated a life without my husband. I many times think that the end of my life should not be so…"
"I can't help but think the same thing, that it's no coincidence. my only problem is that I'm still separated from Annette and it's just killing me inside. I still scream at night. The nightmares just keep coming and it's…"
"Hi Nancy, Theresa, and Bluebell,
Please know you are all in my prayers. Today would have been my sweet mom's 75th birthday, so it is a very hard day. I know she is rejoicing in heaven, but I can't help but be selfish and wish…"