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Frances Koonce replied to dream moon JO B's discussion mad at god
"Awww- I’m sorry about that! It must make you feel really terrible that you can’t just take her home.  The same thing happened with my mom after her heart attack. She couldn’t just live by herself anymore. We had to empty her…"
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Frances Koonce replied to Lily Blue's discussion Dreams
"Thank you @bluebird, I appreciate your concern for my daughter.  I’m sorry this happens to you often.  I have been learning so much from reading the posts here. I realize I need to sit down and talk with my family about getting our…"
Friday
Frances Koonce replied to Lily Blue's discussion Dreams
"Maybe we will continue to have distressing dreams. My daughter is now a teenager and she has ongoing health issues. My dreams now involve her health or her desire to move away. Ugh - it’s very hard. I wake up in a panic sometimes. "
Friday
Frances Koonce replied to Lily Blue's discussion Dreams
"I’ve had nightmares before of a different kind. When my daughter was an infant and it seemed all I thought of was protecting her. I had constant nightmares about not keeping her safe.  My heart goes out to you. "
Friday
Frances Koonce replied to dream moon JO B's discussion mad at god
"Yes, I remember once my uncle went to visit my mom and she didn’t even realize it was her brother. When he left to go home, she asked who that man was.  I was terribly frightened of my mom being in a nursing facility after one of her…"
Friday
Frances Koonce commented on Barry Wheeler's photo
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"Mr. Wheeler,  I’m so sorry about the loss of your wife. Even though you live a distance from family and friends, do you have any support or encouragement from them?  Your wife as brave to have a snake! I’m basically a chicken,…"
Friday
Frances Koonce replied to Lily Blue's discussion Dreams
"I’m sorry that you have been having nightmares @bluebird. "
Friday
Rebecca Clemens left a comment for Frances Koonce
"I'm sorry it happened faster then expected for your mother. It must have been hard watching her go through that. It's great that you had that time with her as short as it was. I never had siblings, I have a step sister but I didn't…"
Thursday
Frances Koonce left a comment for Rebecca Clemens
"Awww - I know you will cherish that special time you had during the years he was healthier. Isn’t it odd that the things we hated don’t seem so bad when we realize it connected us to the ones we love?  I practically begged my mom to…"
Thursday
Rebecca Clemens left a comment for Frances Koonce
"When my dad had a brain bleed he had to come live with me for what was supposed to be temporary when my step mom passed it became permanent. For 6 years he was fine, normal still working he delivered newspapers to stores. I used to go with him and…"
Thursday
Frances Koonce left a comment for Rebecca Clemens
"Awww - those are indeed nice memories! I agree, it’s not the same when we have just the memories but it kind of soothes me when I think about them, even if it brings some laughter or something sad back to mind.  My mom took our daughters…"
Thursday
Rebecca Clemens left a comment for Frances Koonce
"I get that, I hope one day I will see my family again. It's wierd that once my dad died it was like we no longer talked to his side of the family and same with my grams. When she died it felt like we lost my aunts and uncles as well because she…"
Wednesday
Frances Koonce commented on MIchael Ortiz's blog post Nobody should do it alone.
"Wow - I have no words. I guess I’m naive and think someone would surely pitch in to help. When my dad died, people told my mom to get rid of all his things as if it would lessen the pain. Obviously there were things nobody could use in our…"
Wednesday
Frances Koonce left a comment for Rebecca Clemens
"Good Evening Rebecca,  Lol - my grandmother did the same. Her name was Alma Ruth but she liked Ruth better. I love that name, it’s old fashioned.  I honestly feel your sadness over missing your dad but on account of my mom. I miss…"
Aug 7
Rebecca Clemens left a comment for Frances Koonce
"Thank you, my grandmother would go by her middle name Margaret so whenever anyone called her Francis it always through me off. The other day I was talking to my step sister for the first time since my dad died and when she mentioned a small memory…"
Aug 7

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Married with teenage daughter.I am the primary caregiver for my disabled husband. My dad died when I was about 12 yrs old from congestive heart failure and my mom in 2015 from dementia and congestive heart failure. Welcome others for mutual encouragement.
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At 9:04pm on August 8, 2018, Rebecca Clemens said…
I'm sorry it happened faster then expected for your mother. It must have been hard watching her go through that. It's great that you had that time with her as short as it was.

I never had siblings, I have a step sister but I didn't grow up with her. I wasn't close to my step mom actually for the longest time I hated her btt I do miss her too. My dad and I were very close I could talk to him about anything.
I wish I had more time with my grams she was 90 but she was so active, she still walked everyday. She loved to bake I wish J had baked more with her. When she went into the hospital she had to have a blood transfusion, I don't remember what had happened but she did have uteran cancer. She came home and was back to herself then she had a seizure and was back in the ER two weeks later now with a blood infection so she was bed ridden for weeks. Months later she passed and everyone had given up on her it was hard I watched her go from this amazingly strong women who was always smiling and reading and playing games to someone I didn't recognize. She stopped smiling, talking then she was gone. It was sudden we thought we had more time and the hardest thing is she died in the same hospital ward my dad died in, same nurses.
At 7:56pm on August 8, 2018, Rebecca Clemens said…
When my dad had a brain bleed he had to come live with me for what was supposed to be temporary when my step mom passed it became permanent. For 6 years he was fine, normal still working he delivered newspapers to stores. I used to go with him and help, I used to hate it because u had to be awake from 12am till 3am and now I miss it. For those 6 years he lived with me it was like I was finally getting to know my dad, he had left when I was 4 and we saw each other on weekends and camping. Then he had a spinal infection and at 68 told he had leukemia and was given 6 months. He spent those 6 months in the hospital so I could go to school, I am grateful for that time I had with him.
At 1:04pm on August 8, 2018, Rebecca Clemens said…
I get that, I hope one day I will see my family again. It's wierd that once my dad died it was like we no longer talked to his side of the family and same with my grams. When she died it felt like we lost my aunts and uncles as well because she was the glue that kept everyone together.

When my dad was in the hospital I would visit everyday and we would play best of 5 cribbage and sometimes have a beer. I miss that. I miss watching hockey and betting who would win the Stanley cup with him.

I miss playing yahtzee with my grams she was always so lucky. She could roll an inside straight everytime all she had to do was ask for it. She loved to bake its not the same in this house without smelling her baked goods and cooking. She also lived to read, so anytime I had a new book I would read it then she would read it mind u it only took her a couple days lol.

It's hard when family doesn't want to talk about someone we have lost but I guess we all deal with it differently. I'm sorry you don't have many memories of your father but it's good to remember your mother.
At 10:02pm on August 7, 2018, Rebecca Clemens said…
Thank you, my grandmother would go by her middle name Margaret so whenever anyone called her Francis it always through me off.

The other day I was talking to my step sister for the first time since my dad died and when she mentioned a small memory about dad it made me smile. It also made me really sad I miss him so much, I wish I would just call him and talk to him and ask him for advice.

Thank you for being here to remember and grieve with.

Rebecca
At 2:07am on August 5, 2018, Rebecca Clemens said…
Thank you Frances,.

Ironically that was my grandmother's name frances. I appreciate the reading material it has been a difficult road and I didn't really have time to grieve properly when it happened.

Hamilton is beautiful, as are the surrounding cities. Enjoy your trip
 
 
 

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Frances Koonce replied to dream moon JO B's discussion mad at god
"Awww- I’m sorry about that! It must make you feel really terrible that you can’t just take her home.  The same thing happened with my mom after her heart attack. She couldn’t just live by herself anymore. We had to empty her…"
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dream moon JO B replied to dream moon JO B's discussion mad at god
"iv bean to day to sea her iv hadto liee to her wish i feal bad wen can i go homee wen drs says so wear isdr on holday  why am hear coz dr says so i anserd it for abot 40 mins i did evry tim i leabee i feal dranedd i do  th 5 mons latr she…"
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Jeff Tice commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you bluebird.  My kids have been a huge comfort for me.  Making me laugh even when I don't want to and giving me someone to occupy my time and energy with.  I am working my way through this slowly and they help…"
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"Just to be clear -- I only meant that it's good that your children are with you, and that therefore your wife is too, in a way."
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