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You're too young to be a widow

I never thought that I would be a widow in my forties.  My friends can't relate and feel the need to comment on everything, even if they have no experience with grief.  I know they mean well but only we know what we are going though.

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Aren't we all too young to be Widows?

It seems no matter your age or how many years you have with your spouse, it stills seems like its not enough!  My husband was diagnosed with Lymphoma the day before his 44th birthday and died 3…Continue

Started by Cathie Mac Apr 25.

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I am 37 and very recently became a widow. I recently lost my husband of 7 years on March 21, 2014. He was diagnosed with end-stage liver disease due to cirrhosis 3 years ago. I moved from my family…Continue

Started by Bonnie Jones. Last reply by Brenda Ann Apr 17.

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Hello.  My name is Heather and I lost my husband, Corey, 2 months ago to a malignant brain tumor that we did not know about.  He was completely asymptomatic until a few days before he died.  We were…Continue

Started by Heather Day. Last reply by Kali Grainger Sep 8, 2012.

I just met "one of us" 1 Reply

There was this female neighboor, young in her mid 30"s. She has lived in the upstairs apartment for about 2 years. I have never been a social neighboor or talked to any of my neighboors, besides the…Continue

Started by Amanda Ab. Last reply by Kali Grainger Sep 8, 2012.

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Comment by Courtney B. on May 18, 2014 at 3:46am

Hello. My name is Courtney. I became a widow six months ago, I was 29 and my husband only 34. I am at loss without him, I feel like this world has nothing left to offer me. We only had 10 years together and everything I do reminds me of him. I came to this site to connect with people that are going through what I am. Everyone that does not understand loves to give me advice, but they have no clue what this feels like. I literally do not feel like a person anymore. I don't know how to do this. I lost everything they day he passed, I feel the deepest sorrow for him. I can not believe I will never talk, touch or see him in this life. I sometimes like to pretend that he will be back, just so I can get through the day. But the clock never stops and he never walks through the door. I guess, I just want to know how do I do this, how do I live a lifetime without my love. I am young, and I do not know how I got through six months, I can not even begin to fathom six years. No one understands, my friends have their husbands and children, and I mourn alone.

Comment by Kim Kennedy on April 29, 2014 at 12:15pm
Hi everyone, I'm new here. My name is Kim. I was hoping for advice, support etc. I just turned 30 and lost my husband a little over a month ago. It was unexpected although he has been sick. We were only married two years but he was my soulmate, my everything. Now I feel like I have no reason to go on living and that I don't want to live without him. I don't know how to live without him! I temporarily moved back in with my mother until I figure things out because I can't bear to go back to our place right now. I am a mess and my family and friends are great but they don't know what I'm going through.

I still can't believe he's gone. Letting him go was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I miss him constantly and I feel like the pain in my heart is never going to go away.
Comment by Theresa on April 17, 2014 at 6:37pm

Hello everyone, my name is Theresa and it has been six months since my Mitch passed. And I guess I am not handeling this very well at least that is what I am being told. I have even had people saying that I should get back out there. I just do not get this.

Comment by colleen on April 7, 2014 at 9:23pm

I am approaching the year mark, not only is it hard to believe it has gone so quickly but now waking up and coming out of the fog makes it that much harder! The first 6-10 months were just a haze. Now it seems that much more real. I try to think about our special moments together but i find it like trying to remember something that happened when i was a child,you know things happened but they are no longer clear. Not sure what that is about but it stinks. 

Comment by Annette Dominguez on April 7, 2014 at 2:41pm

How long will this feeling of despair last? it has been 3 years and i just feel lost and that nothing will get better. I am so lonely and sad and am crying all the time these past 2 weeks. 

Comment by Michelle H on February 17, 2014 at 1:39pm

I lost my partner ten days before their 32 birthday. I am not sure how to be alone and a single mom. I miss late night conversations and cuddling together as a family. I feel like I have lost a huge part of who I am.

Comment by TracyB on January 2, 2014 at 3:34pm

It has been 2 months and 1 day since my husband was killed. The first month I was in a constant state of shock and disbelief. In December the reality of it all started to creep in. Christmas was very difficult. Memories of Brennan that have been surfacing over the past few weeks has left me in an agonized state of despair. I waited most of my life to meet the person I was meant to be with and at the age of 32 I finally met that person. We only had 2 years together and I feel robbed of my entire future, lost, and completely unprepared to cope with any of this. I do have an amazing support network but I feel very alone in this. I know that none of my friends or family cannot understand the pain I'm in. Before this nightmare I myself would never have imagined how debilitating the loss of a spouse is.

Comment by Shari Steed on October 2, 2013 at 5:37pm

What do I say? Im 32 and I had 8 amazing years with him. Mike died at the age of 35 from a heart attack. I dont even know where to begin in the emotions that I am running through on a daily basis. I am sure you all have gone through them and will continue to do so. Dont know what to do anymore. 

Comment by Bexsy on August 27, 2013 at 4:44pm

I'm 40 and just lost my husband 2 weeks ago. Not even sure where to begin. He was healthy and now he's gone. Suffered a massive stroke that took his life and now I'm alone and a widow at 40. How do I even begin to live life without him. I wasn't prepared to be without him.

Comment by Amy Reed on August 7, 2013 at 9:28pm

I am now 26. I lost my Husband 16 months We have a 2 year old together. It was sudden and quick

 

 

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