You're too young to be a widow


You're too young to be a widow

I never thought that I would be a widow in my forties.  My friends can't relate and feel the need to comment on everything, even if they have no experience with grief.  I know they mean well but only we know what we are going though.

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I am 37 and very recently became a widow. I recently lost my husband of 7 years on March 21, 2014. He was diagnosed with end-stage liver disease due to cirrhosis 3 years ago. I moved from my family…Continue

Started by Bonnie Jones. Last reply by Brenda Ann 22 hours ago.

New here...not sure where to start.... 3 Replies

Hello.  My name is Heather and I lost my husband, Corey, 2 months ago to a malignant brain tumor that we did not know about.  He was completely asymptomatic until a few days before he died.  We were…Continue

Started by Heather Day. Last reply by Kali Grainger Sep 8, 2012.

I just met "one of us" 1 Reply

There was this female neighboor, young in her mid 30"s. She has lived in the upstairs apartment for about 2 years. I have never been a social neighboor or talked to any of my neighboors, besides the…Continue

Started by Amanda Ab. Last reply by Kali Grainger Sep 8, 2012.

Don't know how to be a single person 4 Replies

Hi, my name is Jodi, I sent an e-mail by mistake it should have been here, sorry, I lost my husband (Bill) 4 weeks ago on November 30,2011. I don't know what I should do. Him and I were together for…Continue

Started by Jodi Cole. Last reply by Blue Bird Feb 23, 2012.

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Comment by Theresa 21 hours ago

Hello everyone, my name is Theresa and it has been six months since my Mitch passed. And I guess I am not handeling this very well at least that is what I am being told. I have even had people saying that I should get back out there. I just do not get this.

Comment by colleen on April 7, 2014 at 9:23pm

I am approaching the year mark, not only is it hard to believe it has gone so quickly but now waking up and coming out of the fog makes it that much harder! The first 6-10 months were just a haze. Now it seems that much more real. I try to think about our special moments together but i find it like trying to remember something that happened when i was a child,you know things happened but they are no longer clear. Not sure what that is about but it stinks. 

Comment by Annette Dominguez on April 7, 2014 at 2:41pm

How long will this feeling of despair last? it has been 3 years and i just feel lost and that nothing will get better. I am so lonely and sad and am crying all the time these past 2 weeks. 

Comment by Michelle H on February 17, 2014 at 1:39pm

I lost my partner ten days before their 32 birthday. I am not sure how to be alone and a single mom. I miss late night conversations and cuddling together as a family. I feel like I have lost a huge part of who I am.

Comment by TracyB on January 2, 2014 at 3:34pm

It has been 2 months and 1 day since my husband was killed. The first month I was in a constant state of shock and disbelief. In December the reality of it all started to creep in. Christmas was very difficult. Memories of Brennan that have been surfacing over the past few weeks has left me in an agonized state of despair. I waited most of my life to meet the person I was meant to be with and at the age of 32 I finally met that person. We only had 2 years together and I feel robbed of my entire future, lost, and completely unprepared to cope with any of this. I do have an amazing support network but I feel very alone in this. I know that none of my friends or family cannot understand the pain I'm in. Before this nightmare I myself would never have imagined how debilitating the loss of a spouse is.

Comment by Shari Steed on October 2, 2013 at 5:37pm

What do I say? Im 32 and I had 8 amazing years with him. Mike died at the age of 35 from a heart attack. I dont even know where to begin in the emotions that I am running through on a daily basis. I am sure you all have gone through them and will continue to do so. Dont know what to do anymore. 

Comment by Bexsy on August 27, 2013 at 4:44pm

I'm 40 and just lost my husband 2 weeks ago. Not even sure where to begin. He was healthy and now he's gone. Suffered a massive stroke that took his life and now I'm alone and a widow at 40. How do I even begin to live life without him. I wasn't prepared to be without him.

Comment by Amy Reed on August 7, 2013 at 9:28pm

I am now 26. I lost my Husband 16 months We have a 2 year old together. It was sudden and quick


Comment by Kara Janssan on August 3, 2013 at 8:53pm

I lost my Best friend, my Partner to Cancer nearly 9 months ago. 

We were together for only 15 months, I knew him since i was 12, he was 17. 

Knowing he had Cancer and still wanting to be with him isn't normal to most people but when you've had a crush on someone for most of your life and you finally get a chance to be with them, you'l take it. And i did and i am happy i did. He made me happy and I made him happy. 

I may have been 21 and he 24 but age doesn't mean anything when it comes to death. 

Comment by Sarah Davis on July 7, 2013 at 7:19pm

I was widowed when I was 20, my boyfriend of nine years passed away last year when I was 29 and my boyfriend of 9 months just passed away at the end of June.  I feel like I'm never going to have a normal life.  Those 9 months with the last boyfriend were the best of my entire life and it seems cruel that we only got such a short amount of time together.  Sometimes I wish we'd never met so that I wouldn't know how happy I could be.  I don't want to do all of this all over again.  Grieving is miserable and it seems like every time I'm able to move on it happens again.


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