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You're too young to be a widow

I never thought that I would be a widow in my forties.  My friends can't relate and feel the need to comment on everything, even if they have no experience with grief.  I know they mean well but only we know what we are going though.

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Aren't we all too young to be Widows?

It seems no matter your age or how many years you have with your spouse, it stills seems like its not enough!  My husband was diagnosed with Lymphoma the day before his 44th birthday and died 3…Continue

Started by Cathie Mac Apr 25.

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I am 37 and very recently became a widow. I recently lost my husband of 7 years on March 21, 2014. He was diagnosed with end-stage liver disease due to cirrhosis 3 years ago. I moved from my family…Continue

Started by Bonnie Jones. Last reply by Brenda Ann Apr 17.

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Hello.  My name is Heather and I lost my husband, Corey, 2 months ago to a malignant brain tumor that we did not know about.  He was completely asymptomatic until a few days before he died.  We were…Continue

Started by Heather Day. Last reply by Kali Grainger Sep 8, 2012.

I just met "one of us" 1 Reply

There was this female neighboor, young in her mid 30"s. She has lived in the upstairs apartment for about 2 years. I have never been a social neighboor or talked to any of my neighboors, besides the…Continue

Started by Amanda Ab. Last reply by Kali Grainger Sep 8, 2012.

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Comment by Courtney B. on May 18, 2014 at 3:46am

Hello. My name is Courtney. I became a widow six months ago, I was 29 and my husband only 34. I am at loss without him, I feel like this world has nothing left to offer me. We only had 10 years together and everything I do reminds me of him. I came to this site to connect with people that are going through what I am. Everyone that does not understand loves to give me advice, but they have no clue what this feels like. I literally do not feel like a person anymore. I don't know how to do this. I lost everything they day he passed, I feel the deepest sorrow for him. I can not believe I will never talk, touch or see him in this life. I sometimes like to pretend that he will be back, just so I can get through the day. But the clock never stops and he never walks through the door. I guess, I just want to know how do I do this, how do I live a lifetime without my love. I am young, and I do not know how I got through six months, I can not even begin to fathom six years. No one understands, my friends have their husbands and children, and I mourn alone.

Comment by Kim Kennedy on April 29, 2014 at 12:15pm
Hi everyone, I'm new here. My name is Kim. I was hoping for advice, support etc. I just turned 30 and lost my husband a little over a month ago. It was unexpected although he has been sick. We were only married two years but he was my soulmate, my everything. Now I feel like I have no reason to go on living and that I don't want to live without him. I don't know how to live without him! I temporarily moved back in with my mother until I figure things out because I can't bear to go back to our place right now. I am a mess and my family and friends are great but they don't know what I'm going through.

I still can't believe he's gone. Letting him go was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I miss him constantly and I feel like the pain in my heart is never going to go away.
Comment by Theresa on April 17, 2014 at 6:37pm

Hello everyone, my name is Theresa and it has been six months since my Mitch passed. And I guess I am not handeling this very well at least that is what I am being told. I have even had people saying that I should get back out there. I just do not get this.

Comment by colleen on April 7, 2014 at 9:23pm

I am approaching the year mark, not only is it hard to believe it has gone so quickly but now waking up and coming out of the fog makes it that much harder! The first 6-10 months were just a haze. Now it seems that much more real. I try to think about our special moments together but i find it like trying to remember something that happened when i was a child,you know things happened but they are no longer clear. Not sure what that is about but it stinks. 

Comment by Annette Dominguez on April 7, 2014 at 2:41pm

How long will this feeling of despair last? it has been 3 years and i just feel lost and that nothing will get better. I am so lonely and sad and am crying all the time these past 2 weeks. 

Comment by Michelle H on February 17, 2014 at 1:39pm

I lost my partner ten days before their 32 birthday. I am not sure how to be alone and a single mom. I miss late night conversations and cuddling together as a family. I feel like I have lost a huge part of who I am.

Comment by TracyB on January 2, 2014 at 3:34pm

It has been 2 months and 1 day since my husband was killed. The first month I was in a constant state of shock and disbelief. In December the reality of it all started to creep in. Christmas was very difficult. Memories of Brennan that have been surfacing over the past few weeks has left me in an agonized state of despair. I waited most of my life to meet the person I was meant to be with and at the age of 32 I finally met that person. We only had 2 years together and I feel robbed of my entire future, lost, and completely unprepared to cope with any of this. I do have an amazing support network but I feel very alone in this. I know that none of my friends or family cannot understand the pain I'm in. Before this nightmare I myself would never have imagined how debilitating the loss of a spouse is.

Comment by Shari Steed on October 2, 2013 at 5:37pm

What do I say? Im 32 and I had 8 amazing years with him. Mike died at the age of 35 from a heart attack. I dont even know where to begin in the emotions that I am running through on a daily basis. I am sure you all have gone through them and will continue to do so. Dont know what to do anymore. 

Comment by Bexsy on August 27, 2013 at 4:44pm

I'm 40 and just lost my husband 2 weeks ago. Not even sure where to begin. He was healthy and now he's gone. Suffered a massive stroke that took his life and now I'm alone and a widow at 40. How do I even begin to live life without him. I wasn't prepared to be without him.

Comment by Amy Reed on August 7, 2013 at 9:28pm

I am now 26. I lost my Husband 16 months We have a 2 year old together. It was sudden and quick

 

 

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anne posted a blog post

I have just lost it

I think I just blew a fuse. I generally do my best to be positive, but today I read a post that said that God picks and chooses who lives and who dies.specifically it said that God chooses children to die so that he has younger angels in heaven. That's such crap. I'm so upset I can barely type. Why would a person post poetry like that? How can writings such as that be of any comfort? Obviously the person who wrote that poem knows nothing of which they write. I understand the need to blame God…See More
4 hours ago
anne commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Sorry Linda but reading this made me angry. Those words are crap. I don't as a rule reply anything negative, but those words tipped me over the edge. It's just not true. Death is life. God does not pick and choose who lives and who dies.…"
5 hours ago
Elizabeth replied to JO B alexio's discussion mad at god
"God ,is as quiet as the people who have died."
5 hours ago
Stanley Ruiz replied to maryanne reel's discussion He is gone and I cant get him back in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"We are all in the same position .We all suffer and it will never be the same .Part of our hearts has been taken away from  us and we  have to continue living and that is what the  loved ones that we buried want us to do.  IT IS…"
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JO B alexio replied to JO B alexio's discussion mad at god
"hears 1 hear a lot at funrells coz iv bean 2 so mush 1s its lft behnd is 1s it suffer so t it is"
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Rachel replied to maryanne reel's discussion He is gone and I cant get him back in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"Maryanne, I am so sorry for your loss.  There isn't anything anyone can say that will make you feel better.  I am 2 month into my greiving.  I lost my only child suddenly. She was the only beauty in my life.  As I'm…"
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Michelle H replied to maryanne reel's discussion He is gone and I cant get him back in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"Maryanne, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. Last year, my 41 year old son died very unexpectedly while on a cruise with his wife. Supposedly from a massive heart attack. I feel your pain."
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bluebird replied to JO B alexio's discussion mad at god
"Exactly. It's not only not fair, it is evil and cruel, as far as i'm concerned."
7 hours ago
JO B alexio replied to JO B alexio's discussion mad at god
"multi loss has push me 2 far lst 1 wz in july my eyes is full of tears i cnt sea strt i cant  its not fair bluebird we suffer coz of death we do "
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bluebird replied to JO B alexio's discussion mad at god
"FUCK this goddamn "test"."
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JO B alexio replied to JO B alexio's discussion mad at god
"it feals me evn evry 1 else as wel i bet i evn ask ths 1 as well i do"
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JO B alexio commented on Zell's blog post It seems its going to be a long road...
"it is im so lost coz of death 2 mush death u cud say iv had death on/off sisn my dad died 2 mush death  it can push u 2 far death it can"
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dawn larvan replied to maryanne reel's discussion He is gone and I cant get him back in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"Hi marine me too :( lost the love of my life 12 weeks ago fit healthy. 50 yr old on holiday,said he felt funny and died of heart attack in front of me so,can't believe it so know how you feel no kids,so all alone don't,know what to do…"
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Stanley Ruiz replied to maryanne reel's discussion He is gone and I cant get him back in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
"I AM A GAY MAN AND I LOVED ANOTHER MAN  FOR 47 YEARS SINCE COLLEGE DAYS AND WE WERE BUILDING A HOUSE FOR OUR RETIREMENT YEARS AND HOMEI INVADERS ENTERED MY HOME   MY PARTNER CAME TO MY ASSISTANCE AND   ENTERED THE HOUSE WHEN WE WERE…"
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Rachel posted a blog post

THIS PAINFUL JOURNEY ALONE.

I'm only 2 months into my greif.  And I don't see how it's supposse to get better.  I hurt all the time.  I'm still in the denial stage.  I truly don't feel as though my daughter is really gone.  She was my only child.  She was killed in an auto accident.  She was the only beauty in my life.  I was so proud of her.  She graduate college with a bachelors degree in education.  She was all I had; I'm not married and my "little family" is no more.  I will never hear the patter of little feet…See More
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maryanne reel added a discussion to the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
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He is gone and I cant get him back

I walked into the bedroom 2 months ago to tell my husband to come eat his supper was ready. I found him dead I had just seen him about 2 minutes before and had no idea he was suffering in pain. He died of a massive heart attack. We were married 33 years and together 37 and I cant seem to find joy in anything. I throw out a laugh but inside I am so upset. I dont know what to do or where to go is crying all that is left?See More
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Rhona Clyne posted a status
"Mum it's 1/8 and a year ago today we went into an experience that would separate us. You are always in my heart. I love you Mum x"
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Linda commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"I ask the very same question Kim. Why? Why my only child?! cry, cry and cry some more Kim. whatever your emotions are at any given moment just express them!  we deserve that much. 2 days ago marked the 6th month since losing my precious…"
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