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You're too young to be a widow

I never thought that I would be a widow in my forties.  My friends can't relate and feel the need to comment on everything, even if they have no experience with grief.  I know they mean well but only we know what we are going though.

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My husband passed away Jan 8th. I'm still in shock. He had synovial sarcoma. The tumor pretty much suffocated him to death. I really want to talk to him and hear his voice.

Started by April Smith . Last reply by MarieSte Feb 15.

Aren't we all too young to be Widows?

It seems no matter your age or how many years you have with your spouse, it stills seems like its not enough!  My husband was diagnosed with Lymphoma the day before his 44th birthday and died 3…Continue

Started by Cathie Mac Apr 25, 2014.

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I am 37 and very recently became a widow. I recently lost my husband of 7 years on March 21, 2014. He was diagnosed with end-stage liver disease due to cirrhosis 3 years ago. I moved from my family…Continue

Started by Bonnie Jones. Last reply by Brenda Ann Apr 17, 2014.

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Hello.  My name is Heather and I lost my husband, Corey, 2 months ago to a malignant brain tumor that we did not know about.  He was completely asymptomatic until a few days before he died.  We were…Continue

Started by Heather Day. Last reply by Kali Grainger Sep 8, 2012.

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Comment by Karen T. on Sunday

16 years (2 were dating) with the man that God had made for me (he was the second person I only went out with and that relationshio lastingo onlu a little less ruaj2 months). I our first 2 motnhs we went through so many very very difficult tasks that there were no doubts left. Now hw is gone (4 month mark just went by), I am so lost but I habe to keep it togetjer for my 9 year old son. His heart was so special that I know he woke tpeveru morning aksing what he cioul =do do to naje ne happy. I miss him I just donlt know how to go oh=

Comment by Jessica McClain on February 12, 2015 at 10:50am

I have been silently on here for over 2 years now. I lost my husband 8/29/2012 suddenly from a heart attack while he was at work. For the new members I am extremely sorry for your losses. We have a son together he is now 4 1/2 years old and my husband lives on through him. I see him everyday. As our son gets older more questions, more anger seem to arise about not having a father. It has been a struggle that comes back around. It reminds me constantly how much we miss and love him, how hard it has been to keep moving forward without him. I would have never imagined we would have made it this far 2 years ago. We still have pictures all over, we still go through photo albums often, we have talks, we share stories and we have my husbands best friends around. There is always that missing piece of the puzzle that won't ever be found and at one point I have come to accept his death and stop questioning why. There is no time limit to grieve.

Comment by Felicia R. Howard on February 12, 2015 at 10:18am

I lost my estranged husband Dec. 8th, 2014 and it is still hard for me. We were separated and I never got the answers to some questions that I had. I loved my husband unconditionally and tried to make my marriage work.  He died of a heart attack in another state. He had heart problems from years of unhealthy living and wasn't a candidate for heart transplant. People think that I shouldn't grieve because we weren't together, but we have a 21 year old son together and we were married for 9.5 years. I met him when I was 21 years old. I never thought I would be a widow at 44, I always thought widows were in their 60's.

Comment by Katti Teixeira on February 4, 2015 at 8:42am
Hello. I have never participated in a support group before. I lost my husband last week at the age of 34. He had been completely healthy prior. We live in New England and were still experiencing the effects of the blizzard. We went to bed that night after a day of snow blowing the driveway. He said he was tired, but neither of us thought anything of it since he'd been out in the cold snow. Just before 2 am he began thrashing around, as if having a nightmare, I tried shaking him to wake him, then suddenly he just went still. I called 911 and began CPR, but I knew in my heart he was gone. Due to the terrible weather conditions, it seemed like forever before the rescue arrived. They transported him to the local hospital and he was pronounced dead at 3:29.
The services were completed yesterday. Up to that point I felt like I just needed to make it until then. But now that it is over, I'm left feeling even more lost and alone.
He was my entire world. I do not know how to function without him.
Comment by Betsy Arnold on February 1, 2015 at 9:53pm

Hi Sarah, I am so sorry for your loss. You have found great support here. My name is Betsy, and I lost my husband October 31, 2009. He was 43, I was 45. Taking things one day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time even, is all we can do. You are definitely not alone.

Comment by Sarah S on January 30, 2015 at 11:21pm

hi there I am new to the group I recently lost my husband of almost 6 years, he was 43 years old.  I am 38 and this is the hardest thing I have ever gone through.  I currently take things one day at a time

Comment by Leesa Lynch on January 29, 2015 at 3:33am

This is Leesa accidentally spend my comment before I was done we would have celebrated our 28th anniversary Dec 27th but we didn't get to because he passed away in our living room on Dec 6 2014 I'm so angry with God right now I believe that there is someone that God made for this you and a lot of people never met theirs bc they are in to big of a hurry to find their soul mate but I did when I was young I mean like 12 and he was 13 we had a very good marriage hardly fought love to spend time together everybody knew we came together when we were out n bout n if we didn't that was the first thing our friends ask was were was our other half we were suppose to grow old together but instead I get to spend it alone I want him back I need him so I can be whole bc half of me went with him

Comment by Leesa Lynch on January 29, 2015 at 3:21am

Hi my name is Leesa I'm 46 and this lost my soul mate my best friend the father of my children my lover we were suppose to grow old together we spent our youth together we met when I was 12 and he 13 on the school bus we had raised our children we and set everything up so he could retire early and we go see the world together that we had planned but in six weeks after we had first gone to he doctor he was gone and I was left alone God I miss,him 

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Comment by Robin on December 26, 2014 at 8:57pm
Hi, My name is Robin. I lost my beautiful Joe 12-3-14. I came home from work and found him on the floor. It was very unexpected. I have so many emotions and can't process this. I feel like I could have saved him. He had a heart attack 2 yrs ago while at home with me, and I did save him. The doctors said it was a miracle. He had 100% blockage from a clot. The reports haven't came back yet, but I know it was another heart attack. I'm so lost and alone. I only want to be with him. I want him to come get me. I want to know he is safe and happy. I think if I could know he is ok I would somehow be able to feel better. He had so many demons here on earth. And I want to know they are gone and that they can't torture him any longer. He was everything to me. He took such good care of me. He was my best friend for 23 yrs. We had only been married 2yrs. Our anniversary was 10 days after he left. 12-13-14. We were married on the 21st anniversary of our first date. He's been part of my life so long I don't know how to cope without him. And I'm not sure I want to. I miss him so much. Christmas was absolutely brutal. And my birthday is New Year's Day. I don't want to even think about it. I just want my Joe back.
 

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Losing my Grandma

Hi I'm new to this site so I hope I'm posting in the right section.My grandma was diagnosed with ovarian cancer only about a month ago her tumor was blocking most of her insides and so she went for an operation two weeks ago, it was only supposed to be day surgery but she is still in the hospital now. Her tumor has taken over her whole body basically, it is blocking vital organs and she is very sick. Today my grandad called crying saying that it's now spread so badly and seriously that they are…See More
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