Single mom of two teenagers, trying to make it through each day. I'm 47 and have lost both parents and all four siblings - all but my mom died before age 50. I feel like I have a death sentence hanging over me and with each death, it has gotten harder to deal with even simple things that remind me that everyone is gone.
About my Loss:
All of my family and many extended family. Most recent was my sister, age 49 in January. That was the fifth death in a 9 month period, including my mom, mother in law, aunt and a 48 year old cousin. I have also lost 2 other sisters, one as a baby one at age 43, my brother age 49, my dad age 39, another aunt at 42, both grandpas at age 47 and 52 and many more. There are so many, it is just not believable anymore.
Hi Jennifer, I am so very sorry for all your losses. You are an inspiration to be able to even put one foot in front of the other after so many losses. Please be kind to yourself, do what you can do and don't put too much pressure or expectations on yourself. I too have suffered many losses, my mom was 35, dad 47, brother 38, two sister in laws one 31 and the other in her 40s, aunts, uncles, nephew 25 and the most recent and painful loss is my son, Zach who died in a horrible accident on September 3rd, he was only 23. I don't know how we go on from this, but you are showing me that it can be done. Those of you who are on here who have suffered many losses, but continue on one day at a time, show us that it can be done. I have a friend, who after her only child was murdered, told me she had to make a decision to either give up or be a survivor. I have chosen to be a survivor too, some days are easier than others, but I know my son would want me to try to be happy again. You are in my prayers. Big hugs. Robin
So sorry for all your losses. I just watched your movie. your family is beautiful. looks like you all had alot of fun together. Hold onto those fun times you had. I too get that alot from people I know..even people I know that are still grieving for my mother too. They say aren't you done yet geez its been awhile. I don't think I will ever be over it. Take care,
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