I Miss My Parent(s)

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Comment by Byron Eugene Jordan on July 22, 2010 at 11:21am

Hello to all
This is my first day on here and second post. I lost my father, this pass feb.22 to an illness that I cannot spell. My mom passed away sept.27,1995. My brother was killed at the age of 12 Oct.25,1969 in Venezuela by a drunk driver. Now I am the only one left, and I am not married and have no kids. But I do have aunts uncles and cousins. To those that lose both parents at once I feel so and hurt with you. Reading Fl McCoin & Andrew Tucker oh my heart just goes out in pain. You all like the rest on here have my deep prayers.

Comment by FJ McCoin on July 20, 2010 at 2:21pm

I lost both of my parents last November. My mother passed away on the 14th from renal failure and my father passed away on the 19th from renal failure. My mother also had Alzheimer's and my father had dementia. My father took a fall and had a severe brain injury that he could not recover from so we decided to just let nature take it's course. He was able to talk to us for a few days but when the blood from the injury started filling up in his brain and the poison from his kidneys, (since he was already on dialysis) started filling up in his body he went into a semi coma. He was in and out, sometimes he would act like he knew who I was and other times he wouldn't. My mother had to be kept sedated because she was out of control. The poison from her kidneys and her already declined mental state made her a basket case. I had never seen her like that before. It took several people to keep her in the bed. I will never forget her face. It still makes me cry to think of it. Her last words to me were "Mommy". She didn't even know who I was. She always knew who I was. I took care of her. She knew me when she didn't know anyone else.. It is the 8 months mark today. I went to their grave and laid on it and cried my eyes out. I told them I wished I could of went with them and its so lonely without them. I am trying to go on without them but they were such of big part of my life, that I am having a hard time. I have lots of brothers and sisters but I feel like I am so alone. I so wish I had some one to give me a hug and tell me its all right and talk to me about my parents and let me cry until there are no more tears. I am married but my husband just tells me not to cry theres no reason for it. It won't help any thing. Does anyone have any advice for me?

Comment by Kirstine Rushing on May 23, 2010 at 9:57pm

I lost my mom on Jan 22 of this year to lung cancer. She never smoked a day in her life, but was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer after having a bad back. My mom wasn't just my mom, but my best friend. The pain in my heart is beyond what words can describe. I thought things might seem to get better as each month passed, but sadly reality has set in and I am utterly crushed. The pain is unbearable at times. I am pregnant with my 3rd child, a child she will never get to hold. Things never should have turned out this way for her. She was such a good person and was so full of faith. All she wanted to do was start a Christian ministry for women and watch her grandchildren grow up, sadly all of that was taken from her and from us. I love her so much. Thanks for listening.

Comment by Courtney Adams on April 28, 2010 at 11:05am

I just want someone to help me figure out what I can do to help my mom thru this because I know she acts ok but you can tell she is not I want to help her but how????

Comment by terri on April 3, 2010 at 7:30pm

im here for support for myself and my husabnd lost my mom s2yrs ago in oct to cnacer and he lost his parents 4yrs ago but with him he was never able to tell them bye he didint find out tell after the fact that they were gone can any one realte and find words to help him thnk u miss my mom too been two yrs i alomst didnt get home tell it was too late saw her maybe twice and then went into a coma and all

Comment by Cindy Keenly on March 14, 2010 at 4:56am

I'm new to this group. I lost my mom three days ago and my heart is breaking. This was really a blessing for her as she was trapped in a body that no longer served her. Being bedridden for a year was so hard to watch. This once vital woman depenent on someone to do everything for her. My practical mind is glad for her but my my emotional mind is missing her so much! I was her first born - of 5 children. She gave me life and I have such a void. It's so raw. I spent the last 8 days of her life with her but wasn't with her when she passed. She was such a trooper and never complained. She lived 85 years. Suffering a stroke on her 70th birthday changed everything! She told be she had a good life and had no regrets. I will miss her terribly. . .I will take this one day at a time.

Comment by Lisa Davies on February 10, 2010 at 8:16pm

I'm new to this site and this group...I lost my dad in April of 2008 he was very ill and had gone through various operations then he died of a massive heart attack...Like Andrew Tucker's comment I'm also depressed and sad even to this day and feel I'll never be able to be happy again it's like this huge hole in heart that just can't be fixed.

Comment by andrew tucker on February 2, 2010 at 7:08pm

hey guys. im also new. i lost both of my parents in a motorcycle accident. I loved them so much, but i still didnt realize exactly how much until they were taken from me. I was arguing with both of them before i went to school, and they died on their way to my 12 year old brother's track meet. that was april 7th, 2008. i still get depressed, angry, and sad today, and i dont know how i can fill the hole that they left. i feel like i can never be truly happy again.

Comment by beverly ann hurst on January 22, 2010 at 3:00pm

hello everyone. i'm new to this group.I lost my mother 5-21-09.She was only 59.I held her hand when she took her last breath.She died in intensive care.It still so hard for me.My mother was my bestfriend.We talked on the phone atleast 3,or 4 times a day. She was always their for me. I Miss her so much. How does anyone get through this.

Comment by Eugenia Christine on January 13, 2010 at 6:55am

HI all. I'm new here.

I've lost both my parents.
My mom, 4 years ago. It happened 32 days after my wedding. The wedding was the last time I saw her, since I moved cross country, and she went back to another country where she was living. It wasn't the best ending for us either. A lot of issues we had came up during the wedding, and we were only starting to clear thing up when she died in a car accident she and my dad were in.

My dad, who's health wasn't great to begin with, and with the accident really was messed up, couldn't really care for my brother who was 14 at the time, so he moved in with us back in the States and DH and I became instant parents. There wasn't much time to deal with my mom being gone.
Two years later, my dad's health really went down hill, and my grandma couldn't care for him, so he moved back to the US and we took care of him. He was diabetic and it caused kidney failure, eventually he had to go to a nursing home and was in and out of the hospital, 7 times in less than a year. My grandmother, who raised me when I was really little and my parents were in grad school, also died during this time.

Then, during Easter, 2009, while in the Hospital because of a problem with his dialysis catheter, he contracted pneumonia and 3 days later died.

Honestly, I lost someone instantly, and I watched the other die. I don't think either is better, or prepares you any more.

I'm joining here because I keep a lot in in RL. I don't talk about it. I don't like to deal with it, but it's affecting me. This Christmas has been particularly hard. My brother graduated from HS and has moved into our grandma's house, we're empty nester's for the first time in our marriage, and there is finally time for all of this to hit me.

Everyone in my life keeps saying for me to talk about it, but it's not really possible, because no one understands. My brother and I love eachother and decided that it's best though if we don't talk about our parents. We each had very different relationships with them, and it causes too many problems. EVeryone else, either tries to relate, but can't, try to be there, but I get blank stares, or I get tears and people crying over my parents more than I do which just makes me uncomfortable. I'm not a weepy person.

Hopefully, being online here, I can reach out to people and have my release with out having to worry about all the RL dynamics.

-sorry for the novel...

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