...both parents
I lost my mama to cancer after her 10 month battle with Vulvar Cancer and I had to witness some very horrific days. She suffered so much and I tried to be there with her as much as I could but she did not survive this monster and passed away.my dad was also battening lung disease and he passed away 7 weeks later. I am 32 and no siblings and no family of my own.some days I feel lost and I don't know if I can carry on...See More
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Hi! I'm so sorry about your mom and dad. Thanks for creating this group. Please feel free to message me anytime. I lost my mom on Dec 27,2012.
There are days when I don't want to go out and face other people, as I just don't feel normal anymore. It seems that every day I'm just crying on the inside.
I am 38 and also an only child. I lostv my dad suddenly at 68 years old and now I am watching my mom, who is 62 die before me of grief. I am so sorry for your loses and pray you can be strong. Your story and others on this site have given me hope to go on. I would love to add you as a friend to my page. I just started this site in hopes of recovery.
Stacy Ballard
Wow you have/had a lot of things to deal with, where you an only child. Mom my had no estate, her car I will transfer into my name and she was on ssi, so money. She died on the August 17th and her bday was the next day. I got her check on the 19th so i do not know if or how much i may have to pay back to ssi. Ssi were in the process of trying to take money away from her anyways.
She had two small 10 thousand life policies which I desperately need but I am afraid they will deny it as my cousin is an insurance agent and he said globe is notorious for not paying out and I have no money of my own. I had been taking care of her and not working, was going to get a job after school. My ex and I are seeing each other and he is helping me but he does not have a lot of money and i feel guilty having him take care of me since we are no longer married.....but on a positive note we have talked of remarry but he is taking care of his mom who is developing dementia.
This place has been so supportive and healing.
Mom had no estate just a car that I drove & I have her death certificate, when I get some money I will transfer the title. The main problem is money, thankfully Bryan my ex husband and I are very close and I hope we can remarry. Bryan has been and plans to help me.
None of my so called "family" has called me to see how I am doing. Have you heard of the book called "The Grief Club" by Melody Beattie it is very good. Nobody really knows what its like to loose both parents until they are in the club. You lose your past and I used to share everything that happened to me with her and now, there is nobody here and nobody who really cares it seems.
As for this so called friend I will see how it goes. True friends never need a break. Real friends put their self second and their friends first. This is a time when I needed a friend and she is too self absorbed to think about me. She over does it and is mad at me. This is going to be a very tough weekend, as we would have watched shows on tv and talked about my upcoming orientation and externship! Bryan listens but not like my mom did, I learned this too late as to how much she gave to me.
Good news I am in my final 8 weeks of Medical Assisting school and next week start orientation and then my externship, plus a venipunture visit and a flu clinic. This keeps my focus on other things I guess. I am all moved in!
I am sure it is hard on your husband and you. Men deal differently and its your parents and no matter how much our spouses love our parents they are our parents and it effects us. There is a saying I am sure you have heard.
When we lose our parents, we lose our past.
When we lose our spouse, we lose our presence.
When we lose our children, we lose our future.
Today i lost my best friend she decided that she no longer wishes to be my friend, I believe that it is for the best and I will meet other people who are more health for me than she was.