Disenfranchised grief


Disenfranchised grief

This group is for all those whose grief has been disenfranchised (not supported or acknowledeged by family, friends or society) I hope this group will exist to enfranchise your grief. Please don't grieve alone.

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freinds dont want to no you 7 Replies

a lot of my so called mates dont want to speak to me coz i lost my dad sum still speak to me but others just cross the st wen thy sea me i say in mu hed just traeat me normal not ckreaping aronds not…Continue

Started by dream moon JO B. Last reply by dream moon JO B Jun 9, 2021.

My grief 8 Replies

It seems like this group is inactive given the last posts were about 4 years ago.  I lost someone almost 2 years ago and I still feel the hurt as if it was the first day.  Because of the nature of…Continue

Started by Alice Smith. Last reply by dream moon JO B Jun 9, 2021.

Lost my life long friend, no one else seems to care. 2 Replies

Hi,My long time friend died from complications of diabetes. I went to visit him and found him sitting in his recliner, I assumed he was asleep but he was dead. It was the most horrifying moment in my…Continue

Started by Lisa Maria DeMatto- Wysong. Last reply by Lisa Maria DeMatto- Wysong Mar 28, 2016.

distraught over friends' pregnancy 5 Replies

So, I feel completely unjustified being so sad/depressed about this situation, but here goes:  I have never known such a feeling of despair in all my life. I’m in a catatonic state. I haven’t even…Continue

Started by jdubya. Last reply by jdubya Mar 8, 2016.

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Comment by Jennifer on March 1, 2016 at 1:49pm
You see my mother and brother don't know him and his family very well. Since we all lived in different state and I live in Indiana for ten year I didn't visit my family much. Now his gone and I could not afford to live on my own, I came back to Cali to live with my mom. It's hard to talk to her about him, yes she try to help but in the same time she seem more focus try to fix my life and what's best for my future then what I'm going through. I'm feel so emotional losing him, I freak out inside sometime know his not by my side. My mom ask so much questions about my life, what am I going to do, what about getting in shape, going back to school, what's your plane, new city, new area, the things I can't just decide right away, I'm still in so much emotion, not saying I won't go on but I just need time to think for myself. I miss him so much that's all I can think right now nothing else
Comment by dream moon JO B on October 7, 2014 at 4:09pm

Comment by Lynn Boyd on August 3, 2014 at 10:53am

Same for me!  I am all alone....we just moved to this town two years ago and I know no one.  My family is spread out in Tennessee, Alabama and Arizona, my sister is in Southern Calif (I'm in Northern Cal) so I have been utterly and completely alone.  It's been tremendously difficult!  Old friends rarely call to "check up" on me.  I found a grief support group and for the first time since I was a teenager I'm going to Church.  It's so hard, being so alone.  It's been six months now.  I've learned not to listen to people who say "get over it" or "forget about them" because we will NEVER "get over" our profound grief, but we must learn ways to get THROUGH it.  And I will never, never NEVER forget about my beloved husband, my soul mate, my best friend.  My prayers are with all of you in this wonderful, supportive community.  Namaste........God Bless you all.

Comment by Lynn Boyd on June 19, 2014 at 8:33am

When my beloved died on January 29, we had only been in this town for little more than two years.  We were the youngest in this retirement community, and know no one.  Family members are waaaaay far away on the other side of America.  I have no one.  The hardest thing about my profound grief is the profound lonliness.  Even all the people who came to his memorial don't call, even though they all said "we're here for you."  Somehow I gotta make some new friends, but that doesn't come easily to me. The bereavement support group helps.  It's hard to start your life all over from scratch....especially when you're nearly 60. 

Comment by dream moon JO B on March 14, 2014 at 5:08pm

aftr ny dad died i dnt thng i cud lose so mny prle on top i juts wish ple cud undstand in saed of sayng its easy 2 get over death or so or foget abot thm i no i cnt coz a lot of thm wear gd us 2 us wn my dad died 


Comment by dream moon JO B on November 7, 2012 at 3:11pm

im not very good at witing poems my dad woz good at doing tht he used to sing som of the sillist funny songs he woz allwayz singin thiss song u never get to heven with sky blu hair ul not get in heven if u hav brite pink hair and if yore baldy u hav curly hair i wishit i vidod him singin tht he allways had som strange song to sing whot iv bean doing 2sad2b and babs is going out with my camra and taking lots of fotos i hav iv even wote my dad leters on ballons and let thm go wear his ashes is buried or near my grandparents grave and thy hav all popet with a loud bang its if my dad is tellimg me his ok his wit all the family thts past steveo my cuzen his parents and sister and all the victorian reltives the will be a stilll be a family feud going on its bean going on for yrs on my dads sid i bet the roman reltivs wear having a family feud its only got a bit biger on my mums sidee wish as left mum wit depresem som 1 saed somthng cruel my nease saed somhurt fill thngs my mum her own granmother i must sond a bit old fashnd but i allwayz thort u r supose to respect yore elder no mater how old u r

Comment by Babs on November 7, 2012 at 9:09am

That is a beautiful poem 2sad2b, thank u for sharing it. I love poetry and have found writing and reading poetry has really helped me in my grieving. Love and hugs. Babs

Comment by 2sad2b on November 4, 2012 at 7:05am
God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be. So He put His arms around you and whispered "Come to Me." With tearful eyes we watched you, and saw you pass away. Although we loved you dearly, we could not make you stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hardworking hands at rest. God broke our hearts to prove to us, He only takes the best. Rest in peace my love.
Comment by Babs on November 2, 2012 at 3:20pm

2sad2b I hope that you don't ever feel judged by anyone on this site and that you feel free to share without having to worry about being judged at all. In a letter that Steve wrote to me telling me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me (the most beautiful letter I have ever recieved) he wrote the line "There is alway's a special person in everyone's life but you don't always meet them at the correct time" So true but I believe like you that we were meant to be in each others lives, true love is eternal, true love never dies.

Comment by Babs on November 2, 2012 at 10:54am

hi 2sad2b, thank u so much for telling us more about your relationship and the love of your life, I was in tears reading your words and your overwhelming love and loss. I can relate to a lot of what you have said, I had a similar relationship with a wonderful man who unfortunately was married though I wasn't. He too waited many years for me and the biggest regret of my life is that I did not marry him. I met him when I was 16, now 20 years ago and have never loved another man.

I am pleased you have found this site, to grieve for such a profound loss on your own is just not possible and it must be impossibly hard for you trying to get through each day. Please message me anytime or if I am online there is a private chat facility if you click on my name and choose start chat.


I found not having had the chance to say goodbye or go to his funeral so hard, it sometimes feels like I never existed in his life though I know he loved me so much, but I was not seen as a legitimate griever though I was. It sounds like he loved you more than anyone in the world and that youi were the love of his life and shared things together that he didn't with anyone else, you saw the real him.


Sending you lots of love and hugs. Babs




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