Lisa Maria DeMatto- Wysong
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About Me:
I am 54 years old, I have been married for 25 years and have two handsome sons.
About my Loss:
I have been through a difficult time. In 2014 my father in law passed, and my sons best friend Justin. Justin was a member of our family. I love him like he was my own, he had such a big heart, very compassionate. Playing the guitar was his life and he was recording his music. He was 30 when he was taken from all of us, way to young.
Early 2014 my dad was diagnosed with cancer. 2015 was by far the worst. Seeing my Dad whither away and trying to help a life long friend Michael with his diabetes.
I went to visit a Michael on Dec 18 2015. I walked in and was talking to him while walking down the hall on my way to his living room I though to myself he must be asleep he usually greets me. I walked into the living room and immediately turned around, because what I saw was so awful my whole body started to shake uncontrollably, My friend was dead. He had been dead for at least a week when I found him. Michael had been having trouble controlling his diabetes.I loved him and always will. Finding him was devastating it shattered my world. Both from the grieve and the horror of seeing him like that.
My Dad passed away while sleeping on Dec 27 2015 a mere 9 days after I found my friend. My Dad was an awesome father, husband, son, brother and friend. I couldn't have loved him more. I miss him terrible.
Watching him wilt away was also traumatizing as I'm sure some of you understand. Cancer Sucks.
So I am struggling to be myself. I used to be so easy going and Happy but now. I really don't care about anything and I am scared everyday. My husband and sons have been great. but they rest of my family and friends don't understand at all.

So glad I found this site.

My father died 8 days later. He went peacefully at home surrounded by his girls, that's what he called my sisters and I. He was my Superman.

These loses have left my head spinning, sometimes I'm just numb and other times I just sleep all day so I don't have to think. The thoughts are crazy. It's hard for me to share my feelings with my family, I don't want to burden them with my troubles because they also lost their Dad. They never understood Mike's and I relationship.

I'm hoping that this online support will help. I just don't want to leave the house sometimes.

My husband has been very supportive. Thank God.

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Not a good day

Today wasn't a good day, so many memories. I can't even listen to my I pod. Songs are a big trigger. Trying to just get through, one day at a time.

You Never Said Goodbye

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Posted on February 24, 2016 at 8:04pm — 2 Comments

I am new to online support

Hi,

My name is Lisa and I am trying online support for the first time. I have been considering it for a few weeks. I think I would prefer it to going to see a therapist.

Posted on February 21, 2016 at 9:19pm — 1 Comment

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At 6:05am on December 2, 2016, Michele said…

march will be 2 years that I my sister and brother in law died tragically in a fire. I still struggle daily and cant wrap my brain around the fact that she really is not here. Everyone always says with time it gets better for me it just feels like with time I only just realize the emptiness and void is just deeper. I struggle daily with depression but try so hard to put on my fake smile and just some how appear normal during my days. I am trying to be supportive to my sister's kids especially during the holidays but again when I am around them it is just another gut punch of how things will never be the same with my sister gone. I just really want to get through these holidays. I know for all of you the holidays are the worse.

At 6:43am on November 25, 2016, Dennis C. said…

Lisa,

I am so sorry for the losses that you have suffered.

Death is without question an enemy. This is What the Bible even calls it.

When Jesus had a good friend die, he was moved to tears and groaned inside himself because to the pain that death causes.

I deal with the losses by focusing on the HOPE we have for the future. In the Bible we find 8 resurrections where we see family reunited with their dead loved one. My favorite is in Mark 5:41, 42. This account talks about a 12 year old girl who had died. Jesus brought the young girl back to life. When the parents were reunited with her it says 

     "And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy"

That's how we WILL feel when we are reunited with the loved ones we have lost.

None of this takes our loneliness or pain away. It does however give us HOPE. This hope helps us navigate through this painful journey.

I hope that you can find some HOPE to grab onto. If I can help please let me know  

At 2:29am on November 24, 2016, Kenna said…

I think I might try that because I need a way of getting away from my own thoughts. I am glad it is helping you. You are being brave. 

Speak soon xxx

At 7:42am on November 23, 2016, Kenna said…

Thanks Lisa. I am feeling similar. Sorry you are having more bad days at the moment. This time of year is something I don't think I am ready for, seen as it is the first without him. Is it your first Christmas?

Have you found any distractions?

Take care, Kenna xxx

At 4:22am on November 16, 2016, Kenna said…

Thank you Lisa. I am happy we can talk and I am glad I have this site too as not many people can relate and so can't offer the support you can get here. 

Thank you for your kind words - my Dad was so special to me, my best friend and the love of my life so this has been so painful. I just want to grieve without thinking of his accident but unfortunately with the case I am not allowed to yet. I am trying to separate to two and just remember my Dad for his life and not for his death.

I understand where you are coming from with the good and bad days. Grief is like waves and you can't see it coming and sometimes it just knocks you off your feet. I am so sorry you had to not only lose people but also to find them. That must be very difficult to cope with. I hope you are able to find positive distractions to help your mind. 

You stay strong too and likewise, I am here whenever you need me.

xxx

At 3:00am on November 15, 2016, Kenna said…

Hi Lisa, we are all here to talk whenever you need it. I need people to talk to too so we are helping one another. My Dad was knocked down and killed by a car in March 2016 and we are just currently experiencing the court case and all that comes with it, whilst still grieving and trying to remember him for him and not for his accident. 

I am sorry for your losses and hope we can chat and support each other xx

At 10:44am on September 1, 2016, MarieSte said…

Hi Lisa thank you so much for your kind words about my poems. I'm so sorry about your multiple losses. Grief even when acknowledged is very hard to live with and is unique for all of us. This site should help you realise you are not alone. If we can in someway gain comfort from each other it can be a small respite from our daily struggle.{{{Hugs}}}

At 9:12am on March 29, 2016, Lynn Boyd said…
Hi Lisa, thank you for your kind words. I understand what you mean about music being a grief trigger. It was an entire year before I could listen to anything by Jimmy Buffett, since he was the background music of our life together. I can listen now and remember the good times, but occasionally a song will bring the tears back too. This online support group has been good for me. It's always comforting to be in touch with others also experiencing the profound pain of loss and grief. **hugs**
 
 
 

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