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At 5:03pm on February 1, 2015, Gale Brunault said…

Hi Sandra - I too lost my only child on June 9, 2014.  It is the most devastating thing a parent will go through.  Please visit my group - the loss of an only child.  Perhaps we can help one another.  I know that I could use the support.  It's horrible to lose the only child we had and I'm lost for words and in life.  My thoughts and prayers are with you Sandra.

Blessings - Gale

At 9:17pm on February 2, 2013, Gina Stone said…

Sandra, I lost my only child my son on Dec 31, 2012, It has just know been a month. I know just how painful this is, hugs to you and prayers your way if there is anything I can do or say, please let me know, my son was 26yrs old

At 11:12pm on February 13, 2012, Lisa S. said…

absolutely heartbreaking.ur vids of kasey really hit me hard. she reminds me alot of my sis.sweetly doing cartwheels in the sun.so vibrant and alive...and then gone.i'm sooooo sorry.what a wonderfull sweet girl.the world is a darker place for having lost them.ok,i need 2 log off so i can try 2 stop crying and pull myself together.gosh,i am so so sorry for your loss.

At 10:32pm on December 15, 2011, anna l. said…

To Sandy's family.  I have thought about you so much the past few days.  I tried to write something the day you posted this news,  but only tears came, not words.  My son died in March 2010, and my husband July 2011 so I understand the dark place Sandy must have been in because I have been there too.  If it werent for the little grandkids I would be only too happy to join all the ones passed and end the pain I am in here on earth.  I hope you, her family can find it in your hearts to forgive her and understand that for the mothers whose children were taken too soon the world around us goes on, but our world is cold, empty and dead without them.  I am so sorry for your losses and will keep thinking of you and sending prayers for many nights to come. 

At 9:38pm on December 15, 2011, Karen R. said…

My heart truly aches as my tears flow while typing this. I wish she would have seeked some other intervention. I know her pain all to well, my pain has not lessoned one bit since I have reached the 2 yr mark of losing my 21 yr old son......which still, by the way, sounds crazy to me, just thinking it, saying it, writing it or typing it is unreal, it will never be accepted or understood. All I can say to you sweet Sandy is I hope you are at peace with your child and if your family/ loved ones are reading this, I would tell them that we try to support each other on this site and would never encourage each other to take such drastic measures but we do all understand her pain. So sorry for any additional sadness I'm sure this has caused.

At 9:29pm on December 13, 2011, Rosie Fletcher said…

Rest in peace Sandy.  My thoughts and prayers are for Sandy's family.  My heart aches to hear this. 

At 9:09pm on December 13, 2011, Melissa Broome said…

I'm so very sorry Sandra's family...Rest in peace Sandra..I understand that she wasn't able to go on. I too wish I could have been more help. I'm in shock...I will hold my loved ones a little closer tonight...you are all in my thoughts and prayers

Melissa

At 8:32pm on December 13, 2011, farida narain said…

Oh my God Sandra,  I do understand the pain you were trying to endure for the past few months since beautiful Kasey died in that terrible accident.  My heart goes out to your bereaved family.  How I wish with all my heart that I could have helped you go on but I too am going through this painful loss of my daughter who also was killed in an accident.  Nothing or no one can ease the pain and it follows us everywhere.  I am so very sad and shaken by your death Sandra.  May you rest in eternal peace with your beautiful child Kasey,

At 8:04pm on December 13, 2011, Lorraine said…

rest in peace, Sandy.

At 9:49pm on August 30, 2011, Stephanie Stone-Merrick said…

Sandra I am so sorry for all the heartache and pain you are in. I cannot even explain it to myself let alone others. I miss Johrdan like I will never truly breathe again, no matter how many breaths I take. It aches in my chest like rocks have been carelessly tossed and cemented there. I wish I could change everything, all of this. That this site had no reason to exist...but I couldn't be more grateful or relieved to have a place to come when I'm tired of everything else and I just want time to think about Johrdan and the others who are gone. To be with people who completely understand without me having to say too much. You are in my thoughts and prayers, as is Kasey.

At 9:42pm on August 15, 2011, Stephanie Stone-Merrick said…
Thank you Sandra for your sweet compliment, Johrdan was a fabulous hugger. In fact, on his facebook pages that's something all of his friends have mentioned they missed most about him. Your Kasey is beautiful...what spirit and strength she seemed to convey through her pictures.
At 9:31pm on August 11, 2011, Stephanie Stone-Merrick said…
Thank you for sending me a friend request, I have a hard time requesting people. I'm so very sorry about your beautiful daughter, Sandra. I wish there was something we could all say to each other to shift things back and make everything right...but for now, I can offer you a hug and a shoulder. I'm thinking of you and Kasey.
At 4:47pm on July 4, 2011, Sue Waxman said…

Dear Sandy,

I am here for you. I know the connection between a mother and daughter. My mother was my world. Raised me alone. She was my everything as you were to your darling daughter. How gifted we were to experience such tremendous love to leave us in such tremendous pain. The pain is because we are left missing them. Sandy...I am here for you. Never think you cannot pick up the phone. My number is 941-809-8673. I have considered suicide over the past few years with my divorce - UGLY and painful, family hatred and disfunction or stupid crap. I care Sandy. Sue

At 10:22am on July 4, 2011, Sue Waxman said…

Hi Sandra,

Today is a day when most families are cooking hot dogs and hamburgers and enjoying their July 4th. For us...well for me...I am still in bed trying to find a reason to make a pot of coffee. Don't enjoy much these days. When I read about you and your feelings and your loss of your beautiful child...I feel selfish even being on thsi site. I lost my beloved mom Nancy 1 week ago today to that cancer so many of us are familiar with. She lived a full life BUT I miss her with every ounce of my heart. Having no family suport I have found you all. I am here to hold you up and listen when you feel you are going to just loose it. You are in my thoughts and prayers Sandra. Sue

At 5:26pm on June 18, 2011, farida narain said…
HeySandra and others,  Just checking to see how everyone is doing today.  I have been shedding so many tears and I am sure you all are doing the same.  I saw a butterfly a few days ago and I felt my daughter was sending me a message.  But even though that was comforting I still want her back and it hurts so very bad that I can't turn back the hands of time.  The guy who collided with my daughter and caused her death will go on trial until December.  So he will be able to carry on as if nothing  happened and it makes me so very angry and very sad all at once.  I know that each one of you are going through the same living hell like I do and we keep torturing ourselves reliving the day it happened.  I try to find all the books  about grief and I read a lot now also I try to keep busy so I won't have free time to get consumed with the pain.  Hope you all can find some support groups in your areas that you can share your grief with.  I have joined the Compassionate Friends and it helps to talk to people who have an idea what our pain is like and who knows about grieving the loss of a child.  So long to everyone and God Bless.  Will stay in touch. Farida.
At 12:00pm on June 3, 2011, Machaela Whelan said…

Sandra--thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry for the loss of Kasey. She was absolutely beautiful.

My nights are the hardest without Evan. It's like I can't slow my mind down enough to just remember to breathe.

At 9:41am on May 21, 2011, Ammy said…
Sandy, I understand what you wrote.  I've not been in a good place this past week.  I have too many feelings going on right now to even think straight, but I wanted you to know I understand.  Wouldn't it be nice if someone could make this better?  I just keep hoping and praying because I can't imagine feeling like this for the rest of my life.  I miss my son more than I ever thought I could miss anyone.  And so the roller coaster ride keeps going.  Enjoy what you can when you're at the top.  I want to wish you a better day, but I'll just wish you love.  Hugs to you, Ann
At 5:19pm on May 14, 2011, Laura Villarreal said…

Thank you for the friend request, Sandy.  I am here for you...hope you are doing okay and taking care of yourself.

Warmest regards,

Laura

At 8:31am on May 13, 2011, Ammy said…
Sandy, I was going to send you a private message, but I guess we have to be 'friends' before I can do that. It was nice to hear that the job interview went well and you got the job. I do believe being distracted can help, but you will still be overcome with the grief at work. I hope it won't be a problem with the job. I hope you have family and/or friends that are understanding and helpful. Many times the people we think are so close to us disappear after our loss. I think they themselves can't deal with what we are going through or they really have no concept of the devastation we are experiencing. If this should happen don't be surprised or take it too personally. This is a long journey and there aren't many that are willing to take it with us. Blessings of comfort are wished for you. Hugs, Ann
At 7:51pm on May 10, 2011, Laura Villarreal said…

Sandra, by being here for you I am helping myself...it is very therapeutic for me to reach out and share with you (and others) my own way of coping and moving forward on this journey none of us asked for.  My daughter has physically departed this earth but her spirit and memory live on not only in me but in all those people whose lives she touched. And moving forward does not mean moving past her death...it means that I continue with my life, going forward, but not leaving her memory behind. I have and still suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. Sometimes I don't leave the house for days. I struggle everyday as do all the other moms and dads grieving the loss of a child. The photos you posted of your daughter show a very happy and confident young woman...take care Sandy.

Warmest Hugs going your way....

Laura

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