No one is prepared for grief. The rush of feelings, the thoughts, anxieties, and heartache can take us by surprise and drive us to our knees. Yet, when we choose to harness that power for self-growth, amazing things can happen. Good can come from pain.

Learn to tell your story differently. Take the victim mentality out of the story of loss you tell yourself and others and replace it with the word survivor to return to a sense of control over your life.

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Comment by dream moon JO B on December 17, 2016 at 5:12pm

loss efcts evry 1 in difrtn wat ways if its a huen loss kid loss pet loss all so a sad all very panfull u u dsay  cud say cud say 

person i wz in 2011 shes gon 2012 com log lng it trnd me in 2 a persn it had loss 2 mush loss in 1 go 2013 so mush losh loss agan 2014 agan loss 2015 loss 2016 loss

thn i hear stroys 20 x wors thn my loss i do thng so sad thm poor oms dads lozin ther kids thy loss a kid hw do deal on it  sum dnt evn get pass ag off bean brn u cud say  sum pass coz of bif c poor kids wish not had a if 2 say yea i lid ir so unfar u cud say 

thn u get fools sayin u can go get nar kid ir u get by 1 of web yea rht wen moms dads so  mush pane coz loss of a kid 

only persn 2 no a los i a person its had a loss or ulti loss pepel lk us 

sorry if im rantin 2 mush or sayin wong thngs or putoj my foot in it i am it mn my heds all ovr plase coz of so mush loss moms ilnes 2 i no its a por exsxuzs put its m mpoor exscsu u cud say

Comment by Tatia Dee on December 15, 2016 at 9:38pm

Changing your story is a powerful concept. I'll tell a story of love.  Love the post.

Comment by Pamela philipp on November 30, 2016 at 9:27am
First of all nothing good comes from pain and I don't consider myself a victim I lost my mother and eight days later I lost my husband of 26 years that I spent day in and day out with so I'm not a victim I just suffered a horrible loss so I don't understand the good coming from pain because for the last year and two months I have been in nothing but pain so for people to say things get easier with time is ridiculous because it doesn't the reality is is that we have to face the fact that our loved ones are gone and there's nothing we can do about it and that's the hardest part

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