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Recommended Book by David Kessler

Visions, Trips, and Crowded Rooms: Who and What You See Before You Die

  David Kessler, expert on death and grief, takes on three uniquely shared experiences that challenge our ability to explain and fully understand the mystery of our final days. The first is “visions".  As the dying lose sight of this world, some people appear to be looking into the world to come.…

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Added by Jarvis on May 10, 2017 at 3:07pm — 2 Comments

Typical responses associated with Grief

  • Reduced concentration
  • A sense of numbness
  • Disrupted sleeping patterns
  • Changed eating habits
  • Emotional Roller coaster

Added by Jarvis on March 20, 2017 at 2:21pm — 2 Comments

Have you experienced the death of a spouse in the past five years?

Have you experienced the death of a spouse in the past five years?

Are you between the ages of 18-64? If so, researchers from the University of Illinois are interested in hearing your story. We are conducting interviews with individuals who have recently lost a spouse. Interested participants will engage in an audio-recorded interview about their experiences with loss. Interviews will take approximately 45–90 minutes and will remain confidential. Participants who are U.S. citizens,…

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Added by Jarvis on March 12, 2017 at 4:30pm — No Comments

Healthy Self Care

Developing a healthy self-care practice is an essential part of active grieving. Self-care in all its forms - physical, spiritual, intellectual and psychological - is at the very heart of purposeful grieving. As you're committed to growing through this experience of loss - of becoming more than you were before the passing of your loved one, not less - I offer you these self-care tips and ideas:

  • Surround yourself with things that help you feel…
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Added by Jarvis on December 30, 2016 at 1:44pm — No Comments

Don't Lose Your Focus

When we grieve we sometimes lose our focus.

You can choose what you want to focus on.  Choose!  Choose what you CAN do. Honor and care for each other… Smile… Say thank you… Let the person ahead of you in line… Hold the door for someone… Help the elderly with a task… Give a compliment… Be courteous and polite… Say hello… Offer help to others… Be a good listener… Start a conversation with someone… Give someone…

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Added by Jarvis on November 30, 2016 at 7:37pm — 2 Comments

Good can come from Pain

No one is prepared for grief. The rush of feelings, the thoughts, anxieties, and heartache can take us by surprise and drive us to our knees. Yet, when we choose to harness that power for self-growth, amazing things can happen. Good can come from pain.

Learn to tell your story differently. Take the victim mentality out of the story of loss you tell yourself and others and replace it with the word survivor to return to a sense of control over your…

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Added by Jarvis on November 29, 2016 at 12:38pm — 3 Comments

Heaven Left a Hole in your Heart

It’s up to you to choose if that hole will be filled with pain, anger, and the eternal darkness of loss . . .
Or if you will choose to fill it with light and love and have that hole shine out of you like a spotlight into your life, keeping their memory alive . . .


Added by Jarvis on November 28, 2016 at 9:26am — 1 Comment

Grief and Appetite Loss

If you've lost your appetite, try simple comfort foods, such as soups, mashed potatoes with chicken or meatloaf, fruit and yogurt smoothies, puddings, pasta, or foods from your childhood or cultural background. Eating small portions frequently may help as well. Take a multivitamin to cover any nutrients your meals are not currently supplying.  Wishing all of you a blessed day.

Added by Jarvis on November 27, 2016 at 9:23am — 1 Comment

Hold on to the Love not the Loss

Grief:  Nobody on this earth would blame you if you became depressed and didn't want to carry on, but sometimes the mind can work powerful miracles. Even in the worst times there is hope and you should never give in to the dark storms that are approaching.  Hold on to the LOVE!

Added by Jarvis on November 26, 2016 at 11:19am — 2 Comments

Abandonment and Grief

Abandonment has its own kind of grief – a powerful grief universal to human beings. The grief can be acute – as when we go through the ending or death of a relationship, or chronic – as when we feel the impact of earlier losses and disconnection.

Added by Jarvis on November 16, 2016 at 9:28am — 1 Comment

You are not Alone!!!

Another day has gone

I'm still all alone

How could this be

You're not here with me

You never said goodbye

Someone tell me why

Did you have to go

And leave my world so cold

Everyday I sit and ask myself

How did love slip away

Something whispers in my ear and says

That you are not…

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Added by Jarvis on November 12, 2016 at 11:28am — 3 Comments

Ceci Frost: Grief the Roller Coaster

I believe the following describes grief with all its ups and downs.  It was written by Ceci Frost:

The one thing you can predict when it comes to the journey of grief is that it will be unpredictable. The most random and smallest sound, smell, or sight can push you emotionally. It’s typically when you least expect it. This is when you realize that you have memories—some that you forgot about—that are attached to specific songs,…

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Added by Jarvis on November 3, 2016 at 11:11am — 1 Comment

Don't Feel like Grocery Shopping; Shipt is a Grocery Delivery Service

Hi Members,

I want to introduce you to Shipt.  It is a grocery delivery service when you just don't feel like going to the grocery store.  It's very easy to use. 

Simplify your life with grocery delivery! Shipt makes grocery shopping fast, simple and convenient through the Shipt mobile app and reliable personal Shoppers.…

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Added by Jarvis on October 16, 2016 at 1:00pm — No Comments

I WILL prosecute

ATTENTION!!!

Let's be perfectly clear . . . spammers/spellcasters etc.  I will seek you out and prosecute you to the fullest extent of the law . . . so remove yourself now before I find you.  You are preying on people who are grieving.  Where is your heart???????

Added by Jarvis on September 17, 2016 at 7:33am — 9 Comments

Grief Counseling Sessions Available

We offer grief counseling at 25/hr.  

Grief Counseling includes:

  • Private chat sessions 
  • inspirational messages
  • Skype sessions by request
  • email sessions
  • phone sessions
  • workbook pages to assist with grief recovery
  • all services provided by certified grief counselor

You can participate in the chatroom by accessing the Chat bar at the bottom of the page, by going to the Main Page Chat module,…

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Added by Jarvis on March 29, 2016 at 1:05pm — No Comments

12 steps - grief

12 Steps in Grief Process

1.RECOVER FROM A LOVED ONE'S DEATH REQUIRES MORE THAN TIME.

Yet, if we allow ourselves the time to mourn we can gradually break grief's grip on us. Recognizing the role and value of the grieving process orients us to accepting the fact of the death. Acceptance marks a major step towards recovery.

2.GRIEF IS UNIVERSAL - GRIEVERS ARE DISTINCTIVE.

Grieving follows a pattern, but each griever experiences it…

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Added by Jarvis on February 6, 2016 at 7:55pm — 3 Comments

Grief Support in Mount Dora Florida

Added by Jarvis on January 31, 2015 at 5:12am — No Comments

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Added by Jarvis on August 3, 2014 at 10:32am — 1 Comment

Prayer For Peace

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,

Where there is hatred, let me sow love;

where there is injury, pardon;

where there is doubt, faith;

where there is despair, hope;

where there is darkness, light;

where there is sadness, joy;

O Divine Master, grant that I 

may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;

to be understood as to understand;

to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we…

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Added by Jarvis on May 5, 2014 at 1:59pm — 1 Comment

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