Hi Morgan. Thank you so very much for your kind words, I am so sorry that you lost your husband. This kind of loss, that of losing a spouse, has to be among the most devastating. I'm lost without my wife, and I'm sure you feel something like that without your husband. I'm hoping this group will be helpful to all of us who are here. I take comfort in your words, and I thank you so much for them.
Thanks for the note. I'd like it very much if you would drop me a more personal note from time to time.
My life has been reduced to just sitting around endlessly and pointlessly, for the day to pass and sink into oblivion for a few hours. What a sorry life! I know that you know what I am talking about. Before when Joseph was alive and in good health, our days were full, full of love for one another, things that we did together and found pleasure in, hearts full of happiness and gratitude for our good fortune--that we had one another and shared a happy life together. When we did things with our friends separately, we couldn't wait to get back home and share. Our love was enough to sustain us, the rest of it, our successful professional lives, good friends and loving family was just a bonus. Now life seems dull and gray, even though the other things still remain. But none of it is worth much without my wonderful, wonderful darling Joseph to share it with me. Sad, sad, sad...
I know that your loss occurred a year or so before mine, and you are still very much in the thick of it. I do hope that over time you find some amount of peace and that the pain of loss is not as intense or gut-wrenching as before. Things will never be the same again, we will be only a shadow of our former selves, I know...
Hi M Morgan, I appreciate your comments and your perspective on my blog post, I want to here a wide spectrum of opinions on the state of grief. I am not a very religious man but do believe that there is much much more to our existence than what we can perceive.
I am just searching for answers, like you, looking to stop the hurting without hurting myself. When I do think beyond my immediate pain, the pain is pushed to the background and lessened. So anything that makes me think helps, case in point your comment and I thank you for that.
I really hope we can move beyond this painful state without coming out the other side too damaged.
Thank you for the condolences, I appreciate it. As you said, I had an interesting way of expressing myself. I guess it's because it is complicated, my wife chose to leave which is difficult.
All I new that night was she had too much to drink, which made no sense way she would choose to end her life. My son has told me so much more since then, that I really don't know if I wanted to know. It has probably made my posts interesting. Thanks again, Mark
Dear m Morgan - I am so sorry for your loss. I believe that 11:11 is a "digital" sign from those who have passed to let us know they are there. WE continue to see it all the time. Many believe that this is the time that the "gates of heaven open" and spirits come to us then. Many feel that when you are struggling with an answer to something or wondering if you have made the right decision, it will appear to let you know that they are with you and they are affirming you. Others also see other series of numbers like 444, 1212. Whatever. But the amount of info I found on the 11:11 phenomenon blew my mind when it first happened. My husband didn't really know for sure if spirit lives on until our son gave us that sign and now that we continue to see it, he says that is the sign that made him believe. I honestly could not survive this death of my only child if i did not believe that he lives on in a dimension that we are not supposed to know yet. And he is okay and happy and doing really amazing things. I have also had readings with 2 mediums and had powerful messages that confirm that. I actually had a reading from the Long Island Medium, Theresa Caputo last year. I went to a huge group show with the intent of getting a reading. I heard my son say he would come if I would go. I bought 1 ticket for myself close to the stage. Just before she was almost done with the 2 hour show, she came to me and my son came through. I felt like we had a date! I talked to him afterwards a lot. I know someday we will be together again in the same form But for now, those signs are REAL and when you see 11:11 know that the love of your life is there, letting you know he's with you.
Hi, I wanted to thank you earlier for your response to one of my posts, but I was too drained to do it. I am so grateful for your words of kindness and understanding. I get that even though the death of your hubby happened longer ago, the pain is still there. A book I read called the second year of grief 'the lonely year'. It talked about all the 'firsts' of the first year loss being experienced, but not being less painful- just that the only thing was that you lived through it once before. It talks about how life is never the same and that you can never get over your loss. So I understand your hurt, and I appreciate your reaching out to me and sharing your being through what I am going through now. I guess we live not super far away from each other, maybe we can meet in the middle sometime and talk. Whether we ever do that or not, I am so grateful for your sharing with me.
Everything you just wrote is exactly how I feel and what I'm thinking. I just feel so lost and if it weren't for my kids I don't think I'd be here. I don't want to be without my husband. Just got off The phone with my brother and I asked him where he has been and he said that I should go visit him, isn't that nice, wrong I'm not going he should be visiting me and if it means every weekend then so be it. I would be doing this regardless if it happened to me. I would be there for him every weekend no matter what, and my husband would have said we both go . Same as is if this would've happened to his sisters if they would have lost their husbands my husband would've been there every weekend no matter what,and for however long it takes
I feel so confused.... Lost.... Like part of me is still waiting to wake up from this nightmare. I stare off into space during parts of the day with a look of disbelief. My motivation for life has been diminished !!! I have no desire to stay here, knowing that there is a better place after death John14:3. I can't even imagine myself recovering from this, I don't know that I want to. There is nothing here!!!
thank you for the email i truly appreciate it, i will listen to the podcast later today. im a fan of npr anyway, did you know you can listen to episodes of this american life anytime online?
Thank you for warning me about Stella. I figured it might be a scan but in my
Hopelessness I had semi hope it wasn't.
That being said, I am very sorry for your loss. I don't have words that will help at all. You're here and alive though. That's what counts. Your husband is proud of you .
I am so sorry you are struggling with agony with the void in your life. If there were words to instantly remove your pain, I would search for them and say them to so many here on www.onlinegriefsupport.com. On the surface, those words do not exist. However, I believe that through the study of the Bible, there is hope. Hope that we can trust. . . May I share?
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Hi Morgan. Thank you so very much for your kind words, I am so sorry that you lost your husband. This kind of loss, that of losing a spouse, has to be among the most devastating. I'm lost without my wife, and I'm sure you feel something like that without your husband. I'm hoping this group will be helpful to all of us who are here. I take comfort in your words, and I thank you so much for them.
Hi m morgan,
Thanks for the note. I'd like it very much if you would drop me a more personal note from time to time.
My life has been reduced to just sitting around endlessly and pointlessly, for the day to pass and sink into oblivion for a few hours. What a sorry life! I know that you know what I am talking about. Before when Joseph was alive and in good health, our days were full, full of love for one another, things that we did together and found pleasure in, hearts full of happiness and gratitude for our good fortune--that we had one another and shared a happy life together. When we did things with our friends separately, we couldn't wait to get back home and share. Our love was enough to sustain us, the rest of it, our successful professional lives, good friends and loving family was just a bonus. Now life seems dull and gray, even though the other things still remain. But none of it is worth much without my wonderful, wonderful darling Joseph to share it with me. Sad, sad, sad...
I know that your loss occurred a year or so before mine, and you are still very much in the thick of it. I do hope that over time you find some amount of peace and that the pain of loss is not as intense or gut-wrenching as before. Things will never be the same again, we will be only a shadow of our former selves, I know...
Hi M Morgan, I appreciate your comments and your perspective on my blog post, I want to here a wide spectrum of opinions on the state of grief. I am not a very religious man but do believe that there is much much more to our existence than what we can perceive.
I am just searching for answers, like you, looking to stop the hurting without hurting myself. When I do think beyond my immediate pain, the pain is pushed to the background and lessened. So anything that makes me think helps, case in point your comment and I thank you for that.
I really hope we can move beyond this painful state without coming out the other side too damaged.
I wish you all the best
Mark
Thank you for the condolences, I appreciate it. As you said, I had an interesting way of expressing myself. I guess it's because it is complicated, my wife chose to leave which is difficult.
All I new that night was she had too much to drink, which made no sense way she would choose to end her life. My son has told me so much more since then, that I really don't know if I wanted to know. It has probably made my posts interesting. Thanks again, Mark
Dear m Morgan - I am so sorry for your loss. I believe that 11:11 is a "digital" sign from those who have passed to let us know they are there. WE continue to see it all the time. Many believe that this is the time that the "gates of heaven open" and spirits come to us then. Many feel that when you are struggling with an answer to something or wondering if you have made the right decision, it will appear to let you know that they are with you and they are affirming you. Others also see other series of numbers like 444, 1212. Whatever. But the amount of info I found on the 11:11 phenomenon blew my mind when it first happened. My husband didn't really know for sure if spirit lives on until our son gave us that sign and now that we continue to see it, he says that is the sign that made him believe. I honestly could not survive this death of my only child if i did not believe that he lives on in a dimension that we are not supposed to know yet. And he is okay and happy and doing really amazing things. I have also had readings with 2 mediums and had powerful messages that confirm that. I actually had a reading from the Long Island Medium, Theresa Caputo last year. I went to a huge group show with the intent of getting a reading. I heard my son say he would come if I would go. I bought 1 ticket for myself close to the stage. Just before she was almost done with the 2 hour show, she came to me and my son came through. I felt like we had a date! I talked to him afterwards a lot. I know someday we will be together again in the same form But for now, those signs are REAL and when you see 11:11 know that the love of your life is there, letting you know he's with you.
Hi, I wanted to thank you earlier for your response to one of my posts, but I was too drained to do it. I am so grateful for your words of kindness and understanding. I get that even though the death of your hubby happened longer ago, the pain is still there. A book I read called the second year of grief 'the lonely year'. It talked about all the 'firsts' of the first year loss being experienced, but not being less painful- just that the only thing was that you lived through it once before. It talks about how life is never the same and that you can never get over your loss. So I understand your hurt, and I appreciate your reaching out to me and sharing your being through what I am going through now.
I guess we live not super far away from each other, maybe we can meet in the middle sometime and talk. Whether we ever do that or not, I am so grateful for your sharing with me.
Done! Thanks.
thank you for the email i truly appreciate it, i will listen to the podcast later today. im a fan of npr anyway, did you know you can listen to episodes of this american life anytime online?
Hopelessness I had semi hope it wasn't.
That being said, I am very sorry for your loss. I don't have words that will help at all. You're here and alive though. That's what counts. Your husband is proud of you .
Thank you M
Dear M Morgan,
I am so sorry you are struggling with agony with the void in your life. If there were words to instantly remove your pain, I would search for them and say them to so many here on www.onlinegriefsupport.com. On the surface, those words do not exist. However, I believe that through the study of the Bible, there is hope. Hope that we can trust. . . May I share?
Brenda
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