David H
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dream moon JO B commented on David H's blog post 35 years
"cats is grt david thy r thy dnt hav a go it us we we morn loss we v had or multi loss in my cas u cud say "
May 29, 2016
Chum commented on David H's blog post 35 years
"HI David Adopting a cat is great.  We have always had dogs and now birds as well.  I don't know what I would have done this past year since my husband died had I not had the family of animals.  Unfortunately, Jordan's dog…"
May 25, 2016
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35 years

Theirs alot to be said about moving on .My wife passed away May 26,2012 I was married 35 yrs.I was married to a very possessive domineering woman .she made the decisions in the family.We never had any kids a son on her side.She was mean and vindictive and would go into a rage over things I did or son did. Their was love between us. I never did learn to stand up for my rights or have a good strong personality. So I coped between drinking,and a lot of other behavior.She would kick me out and I…See More
May 23, 2016
David H commented on lynn's blog post My mother died of cancer, dad had affair during her sickness, now dad has a son with new gf.
"Your dad is a cold hearted bastard let that be said.I stood by my dying wife in a hospital until she passed away.She was mean and gave all her stuff and money to her son.I would never forgive him"
Oct 5, 2015
David H commented on lynn's blog post My mother died of cancer, dad had affair during her sickness, now dad has a son with new gf.
"your dad was cold and only God will judge hime for what he did .Its a horrible to witness a loved one dying Your a good person for visting with his GF and son .I would never forgive him"
Oct 4, 2015
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Sep 27, 2014
Lost & Alone commented on David H's blog post here Iam
"I know my soulmate of 27y left me also sometimes it is real hard, if massages help you great, anything that will help you is great but just remember the vodka is a depressant, some times it will depress you more.  I hope you find some relief I…"
Sep 26, 2014
dream moon JO B commented on David H's blog post here Iam
"pain seasm stonger thn alcole/booze it doze david  im not me any m coz of dads death multi loss on top 2 mush multi loss"
Sep 21, 2014
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here Iam

two years after my wife passed awayIts sat,thinking of making my vodka orange juice stronger. My emotional outlets have been through massages.So I have put off starting off on a life of my own.Of course a good massage therapist will fill in that void for a whole hour to an hour and a half and then it back to square one .I  have come to a point and its hard I realize I have to though it out and its hard. Things come to mind and I coming back here from a long absence  Did I tell   you life is a…See More
Sep 20, 2014
David H replied to Corinne Gibson's discussion Researching Family Communication and End-of-Life Decisions in the group Helping Others through Grief Recovery
"its been awhile since my wife died ,a spouse such as myself prefers to ledave the death of a spouse behind.Even After 2 yrs Memories of her are popping up ,any memories are painful so Iam just going to leave it alone"
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Sep 3, 2014
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Sep 3, 2014
David H replied to Gail M.'s discussion Does the pain ever get better?
"hi gail m  yes for me Iam feeling some what better. She died on May 26,2012. Its a mixed bag of feelings because of relationship issues(we still loved each in a strange way )as there was never any hugging or to much kissing there was good…"
Feb 5, 2014
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Jan 31, 2014
David H commented on Gail M.'s blog post Just Saying
"I feel almost in the same boat.After my wife died my job keep me going,then my knee started to give me problems ,so I quit the job I had because I thought the knee would completly go out . Iam 67 so I draw social security and a military retirement…"
Jan 31, 2014
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from what I have seen

Iam starting to come back here as scatter brained as Iam, I was gone for a while. Iam a widower truth be told. Its a long story ,your thinking long story about being a widower.? Ill try to explain it in another blog Iam working on.we went for 35r yrs she ran the show.We loved each but not in a hugging kissing way. What does that have to with it.? I carried on a desentsized sort of duties  as a husband , Iam  thinking now I was emotionally ill equiped to handle a realationship much less a…See More
Oct 21, 2013

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Iam a 65 yr old male retired military work for private secuity.I have lived in austin tx since 1983 Iam married but recently lost my wife to medical problems
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I alowed the hospital to terminate my wifes life due to muliple problems due to breathing,heart ,future amputation of limps due to circulation problems,other problems due to blood pressure

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35 years

Theirs alot to be said about moving on .My wife passed away May 26,2012 I was married 35 yrs.I was married to a very possessive domineering woman .she made the decisions in the family.We never had any kids a son on her side.She was mean and vindictive and would go into a rage over things I did or son did. Their was love between us. I never did learn to stand up for my rights or have a good strong personality. So I coped between drinking,and a lot of other behavior.She would kick me out and I… Continue

Posted on May 23, 2016 at 2:40pm — 2 Comments

here Iam

two years after my wife passed away

Its sat,thinking of making my vodka orange juice stronger. My emotional outlets have been through massages.So I have put off starting off on a life of my own.Of course a good massage therapist will fill in that void for a whole hour to an hour and a half and then it back to square one .I  have come to a point and its hard I realize I have to though it out and its hard. Things come to mind and I coming back here from a long absence  Did I…

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Posted on September 20, 2014 at 10:14pm — 2 Comments

from what I have seen

Iam starting to come back here as scatter brained as Iam, I was gone for a while. Iam a widower truth be told. Its a long story ,your thinking long story about being a widower.? Ill try to explain it in another blog Iam working on.we went for 35r yrs she ran the show.We loved each but not in a hugging kissing way. What does that have to with it.?

 I carried on a desentsized sort of duties  as a husband , Iam  thinking now I was emotionally ill equiped to handle a realationship much…

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Posted on October 21, 2013 at 10:26pm

A little help here

My wife passed away a year ago . My question is for those that have had someone close to you die,what have done with there clothes and belongings.Also I cann,t see any sense holding on to things that we accumulated in out 35 years of marriage.Who knows where I will be and since Iam without a wife in this case and 66 yrs old I know I shouldn,t hold on.Her ashes are in the house in a urn also.I figure I should put some things in a box and get rid of the rest of the items. So what anyone done…

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Posted on June 15, 2013 at 7:50pm — 3 Comments

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At 7:18pm on January 5, 2013, Bern said…
At 10:32am on June 20, 2012, Mark said…

Hello David,  I'm not quite sure I really understand your comments on my blog.  We all take different journeys in live and see it through a different prism.  You'd have to know my complete very private story to understand when I read comments like "you did what you did "  it's actually an insult.  Or the suggestion that I'd never thought my loved one would die.  Of course you know some day either they will go or you will go and in my case from as early as 4 I was ubber aware that my mother could be taken at any moment given her condition.  Not exactly another great reality for a child who is suppose to be dreaming about being batman and santa claus.  Yes I hold God responsible for the horror we endured at the end of her life.  Faith in God gave her hope through all the decades of physical misery and pain.  Again not knowing a persons complete private journey I will say her death from Cancer has so shocked our entire community there are those who have stopped going to church because they were so sickened by how something who had already been through so much hell had to endure that as well.  On the flip side what you said about God and you almost getting DWI's I can't answer that for you.  Some of your comments didn't really make sense to me and came off almost bitter.  What I would like to say to you and it's something I noticed you didn't include with me... I truly am sorry for your loss.  I know that empty feeling.  However, try hard not to take it out on others. 

At 8:08am on June 19, 2012, Sue Waxman said…

David,

You seem to have a lot of guilt. I look back and queston if I was the best daughter I could have been to my mother. She was all I had in this world and I lost her to cancer June 26, 2011. At times I would get so angry with her because she was kind of stubborn, set in her ways and rather a hermitt. She smoked like a fiend in the 60's,70's and quit in the 90's. I would beg her to stop and she would say "I love my cigaretts and everyone has to die of something". And in the end after not smoking for 30 years - she got throat cance, emphezema and COPD. I was so angry with her because she did not listen to me. My biggest, darkest fear came true. As a child (I'm 56 now) I would blow out my birthday candles asking for her to quit smoking. Some childhood I had. Worrying about my mother caused to severe colitis at age 12. I never had children because I was so damn tired of worrying. In the end I grew to love her and respect her so much more. She was a fighter. I miss her so much David. All of us have regrets. Did this help? Sue

 
 
 

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