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Years later...

This group is for anyone who had lost someone 1, 2, 3, 4 or more years ago. Where are you in your grief? Has it gotten easier? Has it gotten harder? Please share your story

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For me about the 1st 10 years is hard, and when I dream of a loved one that has passed over it just brings much grief.  But after 10 years when I dream of them it is like we had been together and it…Continue

Started by Mandel Crittendon Apr 30, 2012.

After 6 Years....

When my mom died when I was 19 (I am now 25) I was strong maybe too strong. Now this past year I feel like I can no long handle it. I am crying all them and not a thought goes by that doesn't end…Continue

Started by Haley Pimental Jan 31, 2012.

Three years later... 1 Reply

And it feels like it was just a few days ago.  I miss my mother so very much.  Some days I don't think I'm ever going to feel any better about this.  I still struggle with sleep and nightmares, which…Continue

Started by Jaime. Last reply by Bob Naples Jan 5, 2012.

My grandpa died 11 years ago 1 Reply

It is still hard after 11 years since my grandpa passed away. I finally came to a peace and accepting place about his death just this year while my grandma was dying from cancer. My heart aches for…Continue

Started by Kathy Perry. Last reply by Robin Nicole Pena Apr 19, 2011.

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Comment by dream moon JO B on October 10, 2014 at 4:53pm

Comment by dream moon JO B on September 9, 2012 at 5:07pm

iv lost loads over the yrs my dad this year wish is painfull my grand mother kate wne i woz a tean wish u never get over lozening a grand parent anti eadi my dads sister to kidney canser anti ann to breast canser my dads other sister anti mary my dads older sister to lung canser i no she wozent a nise peerson but i wod never wish that on any 1 anti flo to bone canser my mums sister cuzens to canser surgate antis and uncles it never gets easer and u never get over it frends of the family and neboz  

Comment by Chelsea on September 4, 2012 at 9:05pm
I lost my sister seven years ago and it has gotten so much harder. Espcially playing the sport she loved snd her not being here my first year of high school
Comment by Vivian Henriquez on January 19, 2012 at 3:00pm

Six years ago today  I was told  my husband was brain dead and that he would not be coming home with us. I miss his so much and still wonder how this happened.  The nights are so lonely now without my love.  I try to keep busy with my grandchildren but when I lay down to sleep I'm alone.... 

Comment by Diane Grell on January 6, 2012 at 11:00am

Today is the 3rd anniversary of my husband passing.The holidays this year was harder than the first 2 years.  

Comment by Annette Dominguez on January 4, 2012 at 10:53am

It has been a year since my husband died on 1/1/11. I miss him so! I hate being by myself. Some days I still cry and cry. I have cried an ocean of tears. I know others feel the same way I do just by reading the posts below. I keep praying for the hole in my heart to go away but I don't think it ever will. I miss his hugs and kisses and beautiful smile each and every day. My kids came home from college for the holidays so it made the days easier but I still was wishing he was there with us. I don't lilke the idea of creating new memories without him but I know I have to. I feel like I will never be happy again, the sadness just keeps lingering. I used to be a very happy and optimistic person but now I can't even think about the future. I am afraid to plan anything because if it doesn't happen the disappointment would overwhelm me.

Someone please reply and let me know if you are feeling the same way.

Comment by Kim on November 30, 2011 at 8:26pm

I lost my brother ten years ago when I was seven years old.  Now at seventeen, almost eighteen, I feel the need to talk more about his passing.  I really didn't undertand what happened; I mean at seven I don't think it's possible to fully grasp the enormity of the situation.  Now, though, I have and need to talk.  My parents don't talk about it; it's there way of coping.  They don't talk, and therefore I don't either.  I know it's not healthy and bottling everything up isn't good for you, yet I have done that anyway. 

They say, "Time heals all wounds," which is a wonderful theory, but a false one to.  It does get easier but the wounds still hurt. 

Comment by jean keenan on August 24, 2011 at 2:22pm

My son was murdered in 1997 he was 25.my youngest and my only son. It has been fourteen years but i still remember that night like it was yesterday. I had to accept the fact that he was gone, but i sure did not like it. I have three daughters and each one of them has dealed with it in there own way. I have many wonderful memories and the last thing he ever said to me was that he loved me 

Comment by Pam Brooks on August 19, 2011 at 10:52pm

I lost my 24-year-old daughter 15 months ago.  I don't believe I will ever feel 100% whole.  My world collapsed when she passed away.  It was so unexpected and I miss her more today than ever.  My comfort comes from her two beautiful children.  

Comment by Carly Michelle Hoskins on August 16, 2011 at 5:36pm
My friend Tyler died from the "choking game" on August 4, 2009. Its been a little over 2 years. Just when I start to think it's getting a little better, it hits me like a ton of bricks, and I feel just as bad as I did the day it happened..
 

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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you Joe for your posts. In a weird way it gives me a lift.  How?  Because I know that I am not making up how hard this suffering is.   My closest friend and sibling also know how I feel about dying and I know I would not have to…"
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Monty commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"joe that is incredible. thanks for the time and energy sharing. i think ill look at some of your suggestions and see what will work for me. for me this week has been hard. 1 week until first anniversary of her death, i don't know what to…"
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joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Read second post first Morgan. Had to break it up into two parts and did it backwards."
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joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
""As the years are passing I feel the need more and more." When I read some of you guys suffering so long, it gives me great fear that despite my health neglect, and legal preparations, I don't know when it will actually come to…"
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joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Joe, "I read your words and it brings me to my knees."  I keep asking God to let me go many times a day.  I tell Him/Her/It that I will never relent until my prayer is answered.  I ask my love to keep asking too and have…"
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Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thanks Bluebird for nice comment about my Julian. He was so caring and was my rock. Being with him for 24/7 for 13 years of our retirement was bliss, I thank God for this time together.  Morgan & Joe I keep believing there is eternal love…"
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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Joe, I read your words and it brings me to my knees.  I so want to join my husband.  As the years are passing I feel the need more and more.  I am not sure I understand totally how your OBE has given you more faith that somehow we…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Pamela, you are grieving for your mother. You may not be able to see it but I can. My father was horrible. I did not grieve his death. I barely gave it a second thought. You are grieving your mom, and you are grieving the way things were. The advice…"
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bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Linda, Your Julian looks like such a nice man in that photo; what a lovely smile! Joe, Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope you are right."
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Pamela philipp commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I lost my mother on 9-6-15 eight days before I lost my husband on 9-14-15 and I feel horrible because I am struggling with how I am grieving for my mother because we had a very strained relationship because my mother was an alcoholic all her life…"
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joe kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Dear Bluebird, It is impossible for us to know for absolutely sure what exactly happens when we die.  Oh, how I would love her to appear before me and tell me she's here and waiting for me, but I also know that she can't do that…"
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Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Bluebird, I am so glad that the folks on this forum feel the same way I do. Society is always trying to label people, if we don't agree with them they think we are weird or crazy. My sweet Husband Julian taught me to ignore what other people…"
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bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Sorry, I meant Linda and Monty and Joe."
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bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I fully agree with you both, Linda and Monty. My deep and abiding grief is the only response I could possibly have to my husband's death. My soulmate was torn from me, and I don't know if his wonderful soul still exists, or if I will ever…"
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Daylight commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hi Avi, it would be nice to have a friend. The time gap is big but we can agree on a time to talk. Keeping busy also functions for me. Anyways, as soon as I have free time the thoughts and feelings came back and grief hits so hard. I wish you have a…"
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Daylight commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"M Adams , I hope this feeling of desolation lessens in time. It is an extremely hard process. Unbearable at times. I hope you are doing well."
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Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hi Daylight India is 8.30 hours ahead of Argentina. We can talk at your early morning whenever you want.  Feeling of desolation still exists for me but I try to be strong and do things (work, travel, eating etc) with sincerity. "
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M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Agreed, Daylight.  I often think about how appalled my mom and my husband would be by my current state.  But I would say that the feeling of total desolation will change, based on my experience with my husband’s death, thirty months…"
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