Adult Daughters grieving the death of her Mother

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Adult Daughters grieving the death of her Mother

This group is for adult daughters trying to cope with losing her Mother

Members: 24
Latest Activity: Jul 22, 2017

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Feel alone without my mom 8 Replies

Feel so alone since my mom passed away a 5 weeks ago. She was 91 when she passed away. I know she had a good life but that doesn't take the pain away. I am 51 and people seem to think that I should…Continue

Started by Mel. Last reply by Lesley Woolfstein Jul 2, 2017.

Missing mama every day! 2 Replies

My mom died on May 17, 2017 and like a lot of other grieving daughters, my mom was more than just a mom, she was the best friend I could ever have. I miss her so much, nothing can replace her. I…Continue

Started by Joy. Last reply by Joy Jun 23, 2017.

Lost without my Mom 1 Reply

My Mom passed away suddenly on the 13th August, she had a heart attack and died during the night she was 62. I still struggle to believe that Mom has gone and that I won't see her again. I feel so…Continue

Started by Marie Bailey. Last reply by Leilani Mar 12, 2017.

I just don't know anymore... 1 Reply

Hi all, my beautiful amazing mam passed away just over a year ago.. I can't believe I even said the word.... And I have come to realize that my family don't care anymore. Yeah - they where there at…Continue

Started by Marie'sGirl1953. Last reply by Judith Dec 17, 2016.

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Comment by Esther on July 10, 2017 at 10:08am
Is anyone on here grieving the loss of a mother whom you had a distant relationship with? And how has that complicated things? How do you repair a relationship for yourself?
Comment by Joy on July 2, 2017 at 5:22pm

Lesley - I know how you feel. I cry everyday for my mom. We lived together my whole life and she passed on May 17, 2017. I just turned 48 in June and this is the first birthday without my mom. I couldn't wait for the day to pass. I keep thinking about all the things we did together because we were best friends as well as mom and daughter. Now I only have bittersweet memories. I'd like to join her.

Comment by Tina Holcomb Hall on June 17, 2017 at 7:46pm
I'm new to this as well as expressing my feelings, my grief and my anger! First let say, that cancer sucks!!!! My mom had not been feeling well for a while and had been treated for pneumonia. She came to my house for Thanksgiving and ate very little and didn't stay long, due to not feeling well. The following Monday, she called me and asked if I could carry her to the ER, when I got off from work. I asked if she wanted me to come now and she said, no wait until you get off. We arrived at the ER, at 5:00, and 13 hours later she is told that she had lung cancer and leukemia. She spends a week in the hospital and both were confirmed. She was too weak to start chemo, but endured 18 radiation treatments. My anger at the doctors came from them assuming she was depressed and they was the reason she was not eating and was nauseous. Two trips to the ER by ambulance because she was so ill, the last trip they admitted her again and actually did scans and realized that the cancer was all over, brain, liver and pancreas. That explained the hurting in her stomach and head, as well as the lack of appetite and being nauseous. This was on a Sunday and she passed away in the hospital on Thursday, January 19, 2017. Had we had known, we would have had hospice here and I would have taken a full leave from work to spend the time with her. It would have been easier for her, and she wouldn't have had me getting angry at her for not eating. I felt like I was the only one fighting to get her better

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Still dealing with so much anger, grief and I really miss my mom.
Comment by Jennifer on March 12, 2017 at 5:09pm

My mom died on February 25, 2017 at 2:30pm at the hospital in their comfort care unit. She had suffered a left brained stroke in 2015 and had a seizure February 18, 2017 that landed her in the hospital. She had the right brained stroke the next day on the 19th. I thank God for the time we had with her because we were able to say our goodbyes. I had to stop visiting her the last two days she was in the comfort care unit because each time she heard my voice she struggled so much it put her in pain. She fit when I was around. Her death was inevitable. I just didn't want to make her pain worse. I was asleep when she died. I woke up the minute she died out of slumber. I knew she was gone. Her smile in her coffin spoke volumes to me. I know where my Mommy is, so I can't cry or mourn as the world mourns for their loved ones. She is with God. I just have a comfort in my soul about that. I do miss her though. I miss her every minute she's gone.

Comment by Laurie Slicer on March 11, 2017 at 10:21pm

My mom died on Inauguration Day. I was her caretaker for a decade. She was 102, but her death was not expected. I lost my only sibling less than two years ago. My dad died in the 90s. I'm alone now. I know it wasn't what they wanted to do, but it still feels like they deserted me. It's foolish to think that, but this loneliness is devastating. My life revolved around her needs. We loved each other dearly. I miss her terribly. How do I learn to live with just myself to worry about? I'm not that nice a person. That was meant to be a sarcasm, but I'm not used to doing for myself and I don't like the idea at all. It scares me. 

Comment by Shellie on January 23, 2017 at 2:53pm
My mom was in a terrible car accident on chirstmas eve.tomorrow is 1 month since the wreck and just tearing me ip
 

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Saturday
Dennis C. replied to Amy's discussion How do I get unstuck?
"Amy, I am so sorry for your loss. The journey of caregiving is extremely difficult. The loss of our especially loved dear ones is unspeakable. There are so many different ideas about what happens to us when we die. Religion teaches many different…"
Friday
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I just feel like I am in a fog.  I have a little dog that is at least ten years old.  She adored my Mom & she has really grieved for her.  I know how you feel about your dog.  I worry about her.  She is all I have. …"
Thursday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Me too Brett, I sit here an look at my 12 year old Labrador and I know he is on borrowed time, and my heart breaks, losing him will be something that I am not looking forward to. As you said Brett, we have the live our lives until we are called…"
Thursday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Yes, I was looking at something that popped up on my Yahoo news feed. It was an article naming 106 celebrities who have passed away in 2019. So many names and faces that I remembered. Now they are gone, and they aren't coming back. Their time…"
Thursday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brett so true she was my security blanket I feel like I have no one to lean on that understood me like her You know what keeps coming in my mind. How true it is and scary that everything has a beginning and an end."
Thursday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I hear it all the time you don’t know how lucky you were that your mother wasn’t sick and you didn’t have to take care of her I say to them lucky I was lucky that my mother died and I was not right by her side to tell her I love…"
Wednesday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"M, the problem is that our security blankets were ripped away. Like you, sometimes I am glad to be sad. I feel like I am closer to my mom when I am crying. At least, her memory is fresher with me when I am in that zone. I feel like the hard reality…"
Jul 16
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Theresa, millions, billions of people have lost their moms. Sometimes someone will tell me that they have lost their mom, too, but they were able to deal with it, and they wonder why I haven't dealt with it as well. This may sound like an…"
Jul 16
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Me too ...I was sitting marking a paper yesterday and suddenly realized that I can’t see or talk to my mother about this or anything else and the tears came.  But I’m glad to think of her, in a way I can be glad to be sad sometimes.…"
Jul 16
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I sometimes will just be sitting down and I start to cry because I keep thinking I miss my mom so much my whole world is just not the same I think that I’ve become a different person it will be four years and I still cry I can’t put into…"
Jul 16
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Definitely a colder world now.  I like the image of the security blanket — like, as we go forward, we will always keep it but eventually may be able to wash it, fold it nicely, and put it in some place of honour close at hand but without…"
Jul 16
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"The world just became a colder place when my mom died. I just remember feeling like all was right with the world when my mom was in the next room. "
Jul 16
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"It is such a traumatic event, especially when you have had a wonderful Mom.  It is so hard knowing she is gone.  Knowing this is permanent.  There is no one that can fill the void she left.  My brother was close to Mom, but he…"
Jul 16
Cherie is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Jul 15
Amy replied to Amy's discussion How do I get unstuck?
"I am not a believer and nor was he. We covered the bases just incase though. We were both raised Catholic. That is all besides the point though. "
Jul 15
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"While I never forget that my mom is gone, for some reason it just hits me over the head sometimes. Just out of the blue I'll be like, "Mom is gone." It's horrible. It's ever present. And the thing is that it is always with…"
Jul 15
Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"My Mom also.  I could always talk to her about anything & knew she was someone I could totally trust.  I am constantly thinking of something I want to share with her & then I remember she is gone.  I loved spending time with…"
Jul 15
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"There is no doubt that it is anxiety. In fact, I think we are experiencing fight or flight. Since birth my mom had been my security blanket."
Jul 15

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