"Well, the finality of it all has set in;recieved my hunni's ashes and death cert finally from Alaska.He's been gone 9 weeks. Im no longer angry,im moving towards finding a happy medium, didnt have the luxery of laying around in defeat,have…"
"They are as lost as we are. They don't know what to do or say. They mean well but don't realize the are being offensive. You can't move on until YOU are ready. I don't think the hurt or lose ever leaves us but it eases off as the…"
I never thought that I would be a widow in my forties. My friends can't relate and feel the need to comment on everything, even if they have no experience with grief. I know they mean well but only we know what we are going though.See More
"Hello everyone,I'm new to the group,am so sorry for everyone's loss. I am finding we all deal with things the best we can, there isn't a right or wrong way to grieve,it's all very personal. I lost my hunni 8 weeks ago tommorrow…"
I'm 42.raising a 3yo moving thru stages of this sudden loss,am doing fairly well all things considered, am a very strong person with a zest for life,I didn't curl into a ball of emotion,I picked myself up and am doing the best I can with moving forward
About my Loss:
My fiance lost his life due to suicide nearly 8 weeks ago.He apologized,said he loved me, grabbed the shotgun and ended everything in front of me and our toddler
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They are as lost as we are. They don't know what to do or say. They mean well but don't realize the are being offensive. You can't move on until YOU are ready. I don't think the hurt or lose ever leaves us but it eases off as the years go. You can't not let yourself be happy with the life you have left and your child needs someone in there life also.
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I have noticed lately that i am having dreams with re-occuring teams.
my wife leaving (though some circumstance) and having greater responsibilities to look after others..
are other experiencing dreams with constant team's ?
"Joe: I'm with you on the signs. I was positive my husband would send me signs. I've read many books where people say it happens. It's not a bird or a butterfly, but they actual see and hear their loved…"
"Geraldine, it'll be five months on Thursday that my Darling died in my arms. I know she loved me with all her heart and if she could she would send me a sign. I'm convinced that she can't. I just hope that she can…"
"Connie, I hope your mom is okay. I know how hard it is when another family member is ill.Our son's birthday was last Thursday (June 14). The 8th without him. And on Friday the 15th, my only sibling, my brother passed. …"
"B. Windsor, I am so happy for you that you finally were able to see and visit with your grandson. I hope it brought you some peace and happiness, and I hope you will be able to have a good relationship with him."
"Hello. Where has everyone gone? I don't ever remember it being so quiet here. I would like to think that is a good sign, but fearful that the newbies are being ignored.This place was a place of comfort and understanding when I…"
"I haven't posted in awhile. May 26 was the 7 year date of my sons death and June 2 would have been his 23rd birthday, Gabriel was kind thoughtful and a pure joy to everyone he met. this life and the grieving have been very cyclical and when I…"
"Great words Bluebell.
I did not even leave my job as you and Virginia did so I have more reasons to feel guilty. I did not even tall to her enough before her illness.
But as Bluebell said guilt has life of its own. "
"Its been a long long road since the day my husband died. I cannot lie. This is not getting any easier. Instead of being in such a fog about what to do next I have more clarity as to what things are going to be like and I dont like…"
""I quit my job and had the most important job, to take care of her. She gave me life and took care of me my whole life, only for me to fail her when she needed me. But what do I do with this guilt? How do I punish…"
"Virginia, I never, ever want to give anyone the impression that I did everything right. And I got way too much praise through mom's illness and after her death. I knew better. They were right about one thing. I sure loved my mom. I could have…"