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"Loves Knows No Death" - This Could Help You!
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First, I don't mean to offend anyone.  If you don't agree with my viewpoint, please ignore this post.  I am really only trying to help.As I have mentioned before, I am a total hardcore skeptic of…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Jean Oct 1, 2016.

I Feel Bad About My Thinking This Way
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Three weeks ago I lost the love of my life to breast cancer.  I did everything I could for her.  My story appears here, if you're interested.  …Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by bluebird Jul 6, 2016.

Things That We Learn
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I never knew how hard it was to lose someone until I experienced a loss firsthand.People will say these things - drives me crazy.  I know they mean well, but...1. She's in a better place.2. God had…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Jeff C May 6.

Just Lost My Girlfriend to Breast Cancer Last Week
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PART 1I knew it was coming, but I am broken.    If you're interested, I have chronicled our experiences here:  …Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Jeff C Jul 20, 2016.

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Jeff C replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"I agree. Especially with the ""He wouldn't want you to be so sad" line.  We don't know what he/she would want.  Either way, it really doesn't matter.  Being devastated is a natural reaction to this kind…"
May 6
Jackie cooke replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"Today, are you feeling better now, well suppose it is 8 weeks now!! I'm not Ill, I'm not going to ever feel better, this can't be cured with tablets. No I'm not feeling better, everyday I feel worse, reality is setting in and i…"
May 6
Louise replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"I hate that one, fucking stupid!"
May 5
JO B replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"q thng i did lern its tk me so ao long 3 lern  lif is full of bull shit u get tld 1 thg th a difrtent thng evn ovr a loss or it ex ther tim u shud get ovr it bt why shud we or 1s its giv u hrfd tim ovr loss u giv me grief its a ,oss os wott im…"
May 5
Nora replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"Just heard another 2: 10. It could be worse - what can be worth than death? 11. Thanks, God, you have no little children - do you think it helps? Next time somebody will tell me - Thanks, God, you do not have 10 houses!"
May 5
Nora replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"There are 5 more things should be added: 5. (after time heals was added) You will be OK 6. What can I do for you? (and evaporate into thin air right away) 7. Call me if you need anything (meaning go straight to my voicemail that I never chek) 8. I…"
May 5
rachel_micele replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"Bluebird, thank you so much for your straightforward honesty in your posts. I so appreciate you."
May 5
bluebird replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"rachel, I feel exactly the same way."
May 5
rachel_micele replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"Oh yes, the meaningless, bullshit, fucking platitudes of the naive. There are so many and that is what's so sad of our society. The first one that comes to mind as pissing me off the most is people saying, "He wouldn't want you to be…"
May 5
Jackie cooke replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"You have said exactly what I feel, it's so true, in a better place, FFS, Shirl loved being with me, I loved being with her, wherever she is now she won't be at peace cos she's not with me. Plans, we had plans, she was to young to die,…"
May 5
Dennis C. replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"Everyone of those responses really blame God for your loss. None of them are correct. The Bible uses an interesting term for those that have died. It says that they have "Fallen ASLEEP in death." It also tells us that death is an…"
May 5
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"I have what I call a fake friend who pretends to care about me.  She lost her husband 20 years ago, so you think she'd be a little more familiar with this.  Throughout the late summer and fall we'd meet for dinner, with me always…"
May 4
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"It must be me.  I have an online friend who has experienced a major loss in her life, and she is having a hard time.  She has seen some videos recently which show that people who have crossed over in which it is said that they are very…"
May 2
silvia maria replied to Jeff C's discussion Things That We Learn
"I think people generally speaking are at a loss of words. And what they use is far from comforting really...sight"
Apr 23
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"I talked to a medium today, the original one who had really come through the first time.  She got some things right today, but not anything that I could really hang my hat on, you know? Then, she gave me the ol' "she wants you to be…"
Apr 22
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"I saw this the other day, and iI think it really describes this hell: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-natasha-josefowitz/loss-grief_b_5556644.html"
Apr 21

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Breast cancer just took the love of my life last week.

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At 11:28pm on November 19, 2016, Helen gardner said…

Jeff thank you for recommending the book 'The light Between Us'. I believe that the strongest thing we have left now is that loving and being loved will pervade for all time both in this life and the next. I haven't felt any concrete signs in the sense of a butterfly or a humming bird such as others have felt but there is great comfort in feeling loved and that this goes beyond this world... I hope you are finding some comfort also in this book and in the knowledge  that you will be loved forever by your loved one who passed in June. helen 

At 11:34am on October 3, 2016, Ruthie said…

Jeff, I wanted to personally thank you for telling the group about the book the light between us.  It has given me so much comfort and hope and I am not even to the middle yet.  I had a tree frog on my window about every night this summer catching bugs and watching me--upstairs window--and then one night I went to the bathroom and there he was jumping down the hallway--and so many pennies I find right after something big happens.  So Crazy good:)

 
 
 

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BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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KIM Montgomery replied to KIM Montgomery's discussion Grief in the group Lost My Spouse...
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JO B commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
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