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"Loves Knows No Death" - This Could Help You!
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First, I don't mean to offend anyone.  If you don't agree with my viewpoint, please ignore this post.  I am really only trying to help.As I have mentioned before, I am a total hardcore skeptic of…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Jean Oct 1, 2016.

I Feel Bad About My Thinking This Way
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Three weeks ago I lost the love of my life to breast cancer.  I did everything I could for her.  My story appears here, if you're interested.  …Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Amy Dec 21, 2017.

Things That We Learn
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I never knew how hard it was to lose someone until I experienced a loss firsthand.People will say these things - drives me crazy.  I know they mean well, but...1. She's in a better place.2. God had…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Jeff C May 6, 2017.

Just Lost My Girlfriend to Breast Cancer Last Week
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PART 1I knew it was coming, but I am broken.    If you're interested, I have chronicled our experiences here:  …Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Jeff C Jul 20, 2016.

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Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Hi Luna, I feel bad about your anniversary. It really hit me hard to read your words about how you cried that hard.  I can't come up with anything to say, but I get it. I am at 6 1/2 years.  6 1/2 lost years.  "
Nov 16, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Hi Drewtoo, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this.  Yes, I went through all of those things and some of that is still there.  This rocks your world in such a profound way.   It would be a lie if I (or anyone) told…"
Nov 16, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Drew, thank you for asking.  I am doing okay, thanks.  It's just the new reality.  Nothing feels right.  I have had some very interesting dreams about my girlfriend, and I feel that we are in touch late at night.  I…"
Nov 16, 2022
Luna Nightshade and Jeff C are now friends
Oct 13, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"That is really good that you have had those sensations.  Medium Blair Robertson suggests that we are receiving many signs that we miss because we aren't paying attention, but I think that is easier said than done.  I don't know…"
Oct 13, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Cobham is one of the greatest of all time.  I don't consider him to be a jazz drummer.  He plays everything. He has performed with the Grateful Dead, Peter Gabriel, and a host of other rock guys.  I hate jazz.  He does the…"
Oct 13, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Bluebird and I touched on your thoughts about the afterlife.  As I mentioned, I would like to believe that our separations from the most important people in our lives are only temporary, and that these X-amount of years is the blink of an eye…"
Oct 12, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Wow - what a direct comment!  And it's great that you told him that you appreciated it.  That is so refreshing.   I actually had to pause when I read that. Not related, but speaking of drummers I saw Billy Cobham at the…"
Oct 12, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"We're always on the same page.  I think a lot of people just don't know what to say and have never experienced the loss of the most important person in their life.  And don't get me started on the ol' "moving…"
Oct 12, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Oh, man, I hate that line! You nailed it!  I can't believe that I am admitting this, but I follow medium Blair Robertson and I like his short YouTube videos.  But he uses that line sometimes and drives me crazy!"
Oct 12, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Luna, I am sorry that you are going through this, also.  You described it very well.  I won't toss out any stupid platitudes or cliches.  I hope it helps you a little to write about your boyfriend."
Oct 12, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"I understand what you mean.  When people tell me to think about the good times, I think about the good times with her that I can no longer have."
Oct 12, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Thank you, Bluebird.  You are so good at describing how this is.  I hope you are as well as you can be, also..."
Oct 4, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Hi Drewtoo, Thank you for your kind words. Nothing is enough.  Support, words, friends, etc.  Nothing I saw will help.  But I think people just adapt.  Thing of grief as love turned inside out.  The more you love someone…"
Oct 4, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"I'm not Bluebird (she really knows about this), but I wanted to say that I am really sorry to see what you wrote.  I won't offer you empty words and slogans or advice.   Only you know how you feel.  No one else can. I…"
Oct 4, 2022
Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"You're welcome, Bluebird.  Thanks for asking.  Just dealing with this awful reality 6 years later.  I'm over the shock and and am just dealing with the way it is.  How are you, otherwise?"
Jul 3, 2022

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About my Loss:
Breast cancer just took the love of my life last week.

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At 11:28pm on November 19, 2016, Patricia HELEN said…

Jeff thank you for recommending the book 'The light Between Us'. I believe that the strongest thing we have left now is that loving and being loved will pervade for all time both in this life and the next. I haven't felt any concrete signs in the sense of a butterfly or a humming bird such as others have felt but there is great comfort in feeling loved and that this goes beyond this world... I hope you are finding some comfort also in this book and in the knowledge  that you will be loved forever by your loved one who passed in June. helen 

At 11:34am on October 3, 2016, Ruthie said…

Jeff, I wanted to personally thank you for telling the group about the book the light between us.  It has given me so much comfort and hope and I am not even to the middle yet.  I had a tree frog on my window about every night this summer catching bugs and watching me--upstairs window--and then one night I went to the bathroom and there he was jumping down the hallway--and so many pennies I find right after something big happens.  So Crazy good:)

 
 
 

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Triggers Continue to Surface

Late February is a challenging time of year for me.  Jen’s birthday is the 23rd and serves as an annual reminder of all of the potential that was lost…Her’s (mainly), mine, the world’s honestly.  This year she would be 52…It is increasingly hard to imagine, through all of the iterations possible, what she could have become, what was to be her (significant) impact on the world.That being said, things, emotions, have largely settled down since I committed a potential version of what could have…See More
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Loss of a child In memory of my son or daughter

This group focuses on healing ourselves and each other over the death of a child and welcomes a Christian atmosphere to help with the healing process. I welcome all of those grieving.See More
Feb 8
Tammy McLaughlin and Rosie are now friends
Jan 30
Rosie replied to Giovanni Bastoni's discussion Missing my true love
"I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope this group can help you in some way, and I'm available if you ever want to share about her. Take care"
Jan 29
Rosie commented on Susan E Marshall's photo
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My husband

"You can see the kindness in his eyes and how truly joyful he was. I'm so sorry for your loss."
Jan 29
Rosie replied to Melisa Owings's discussion Loss of my stepdaughter
"I'm so sorry to hear that - that must have been such a shock and definitely not fair. Yes, I find it's hard to go on without them. The best thing I've come up with is try to live the rest of my life for them - honoring them and their…"
Jan 29
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Catherine is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
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