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Laura, you may be right, it could be possible that your daughter was delivering the message, because before I drifted to sleep I followed the advice above and asked for a sign that my husband still exists, and a funny thing his name is Angel. It als…
Hello Laura, I read your story early this morning and was touched, I just came in from washing my cars and had the radio playing and just as I went to turn the radio off the song "Angie" began to play and I immediately thought of you and your daught…
After my husband passed I bought many books on ADC in hopes that I could open any possible communication with my husband. I have had many dreams in which I wake and have this strong sense of his presence. My most memorable experience was the first V…
After my husbands passing I considered getting a tattoo to honor him. My daughters and I took a trip to Vegas to and on the way I was trying to decide where I wanted my tattoo. My first option was to write his name on my ring finger and the second…
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- About Me:
- I used to be a very happy woman but since the loss of my husband I have turned into a bitter angry woman. I miss my husband so much and cannot overcome the pain in my heart. He was my soulmate and now it seems impossible to be happy without him.
- About my Loss:
- My husband passed away January 20, 2006 and I feel like I cannot live without him. Angel experience a seizure in October 2005 and after a MRI we were told he had a large mass in his brain. The doctors told us that it would have to come out and scheduled surgery for the following week. He was notified by his doctor the evening before his scheduled surgery to let him know that the surgery was canceled due to lack of ICU beds due to a trauma that had come in that evening. Surgery was rescheduled and he was told that there would be no harm in postponing because it was not life threatening. His surgery was again scheduled and after 12 in the outpatient he was sent home due to shortage of ICU beds once again. The doctor again said it was not life threatening and he would be notified again to reschedule. Well in January he was admitted to the hospital and went into surgery January 17th. He was in surgery for 9 1/2 hours and we were told he was heavily sedated but fine and they had removed 95% of the tumor. We were allowed to see him but as we were told he was sedated and we left to allow him to rest. Six hours after leaving the hospital I received a call to come back to the hospital because Angel was completely unresponsive and his pupils were fixed and dilated. When I got there I was told (I don't know the actual name of the procedure) but they were going to drill a hole to try to relieve some of the pressure on his brain. And that if that didn't work they were going to try to a medically induced coma to give the brain a chance to reduce the swelling. A few hours later as I walked down the hall on my way to his room I heard the words "this is his wife, grab her a chair" and was told that after hooking Angel to a EEG they did not see any brain activity and would continue to monitor for the next 24 hours. On January 19th Angel was given an Apnea test and was declared brain dead. I agreed to donate his organs because when he was alive he was very giving and if he could help even just one family from going through what we did he would have agreed himself. Well he helped two recipients. I think the main reason this is so difficult for me is I never imagined any complications with the surgery, so all I said to him before surgery was I Love You and I will be here when you wake up and gently kissed him.
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- At 12:34pm on December 17, 2009,
melissa whaley said…
- so sorry with you loss it is very hard to get used to living or new lives that is how i feel loosing my daughter she was just 15 . I just try to keep in mind all the blessings i still have and hope some day my experiance can help some one else
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To One In Sorrow
Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
-Grace Noll Crowell
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
-Grace Noll Crowell
The Light Beyond
The Gift That Freed Me To Give
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