It isn't e-z for a new relationship after being in one for 31 years.   I had been her caregiver since 1994.   She had told me and some of our close friends that she wished I would find someone...she didn't want me to leave...but she wanted me to have someone on the side.  I laughed and said "like I have the energy"..lol.  I never did it at all.  In 09 I was a a Native  American org.  ...there I learned drumming from a good teacher.  Yr after my partner had died..we kept bumping into one another...we started going out for coffee....met at drumming and fluting circles.  We have much in common.  But it still is a bit hard.  She is very patient and understanding..supports me....and even at times grieves w me...she was also friends w me and my partner.  I am happy..but do have some rough times..I am very glad she is in my life

 

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MY NAME IS STANLEY AND I LOSR MY PARTNER  ON OCTOBER 2 2012 .We were building a retirement home and home  4 men broke into our house after midnight we started to fight ,I ran to the porch screaming for help ,One guy shot me three times and my partner came to my assistance but the same guy shot Ralph two times directly in his heart and he died right next to me until the police arrived,I went for therapy and now I am better and the therapist tells me that I have to move on and possibly met someone again.I still cry sometimes and it is not so easy to begin life again after 45 years,We met in college,My first love and his first love,After all this time I am better with the therapy and I have attended a few spiritual meeting, I meet good and spiritual people but I am still alone but life goes on ,.I wish I could find that companion,I keep asking God for guidance and help Goodnight everyone

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