First- welcome to Missing My Son or Daughter. Only I truly wish you all didn't know this agony & loss. But, we all do - We may be able to help each other by sharing our story & connecting with people who truly understand us.
((( HUGS to you ALL))) Karen

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Erika I'm very sorry for your loss. 

Brooke,I am just seeing this now.  I am very sorry for your loss.  Im glad you got to spend some time with your beautiful baby.  Please give yourself the time you need to heal emotionally as well as physically before you try again.  You need to be in a place where you can be as happy for the new baby as you were for your son.  You deserve that!!! 

I lost my only child my son on December 31, 2012, from a enlarged heart. I relate to all of your posts, I sleep alot, I cry alot, the pain is so incredibly bad. He left behind my little grandson who is 6. He helps me to keep putting one foot in front of the other. My son was only 26. It just seems so unfair! Im sorry for all of your losses. Blessings and Hugs to each and everyone of you.

Gina, Im so sorry you know this pain of loss.  Twenty six is so young.  Did he always have heart problems?  My son Karl was so perfect until the motor cycle accident when he was 18.  He was never the same after and took more and more pain meds to control the pain of having broken his back in 3 places, his legs and arms in many places too.  While I understand with my head that he is no longer suffering, my heart just wants him back!  Blessings and hugs back to you.  One day at a time, and sometimes we do it once breath at a time.  You are not alone!

I have just learned that it was a methadone intoxication overdose, I am overwhelmed with the hurt and agony that now goes through my head. At the end of the day I just dont care, I miss my boy. Thank you for the continued support and same to you.

My heart goes to you. The pain is almost unbearable. I am still waiting on the tox report for my son. We know it was drugs, and he had been so well. Or so I thought. Nathans brothers and sister and myself feel such guilt for not being there for him. We love and miss him so. Our lives are destroyed.

My son Nathan left us April 11, 2013. I keep hoping its all a bad dream and Il wake and see his beautiful smile and hear his onrey laugh. But I awake and he is still gone. He died from a drug overdose. He had battled for four years and had been clean two months. We were so excited that he was getting his life back. I was away when he died , and it was at my kitchen counter and wasn't found for a day and half. My next to oldest son found him. He is so crushed. The guilt we have from leaving him alone and thinking he was strong enough to survive this. I am broken, my heart feels like a hundred pounds lays on it, Not much good to my other three children . Nathan was 32 but he is still my little boy. I need to know he is ok

 

Rosemary,

All I can tell you that it is hard and the road is not easy. I loss my son 20 years old 8mths ago and tell looking for him in his room or drive up fussing about something......or just smiling

I lost my son Nathan last Nov 22 to His drunk driving... I feel your pain and heartache... I miss him every day and wish i was able to change the past

Oh rosemary I so understand your pain. It will be almost 6 months for me from losing my only child, my son christopher 26, whom I thought had passed away from a heart defect,but recently learned that it was a methadone overdose, I too am beyond words to express my pain and loss. I also keep thinking that there was more than that I should of done. I gave into the ignorance of the whole thing. I will forever live with the guilt of knowing that I should of done more. I take things day by day. Hugs to you and Blessings, feel free to talk to me at anytime, for me its helpful to talk with others whom understand.

I just lost my son two months ago from a drug overdose.  It is still very understand or comprehend the why of all this so I understand your pain.  I do still have the guilt of maybe or should have done more but he was 32 years old and for some reason I thought he was going to be okay.  Maybe I just wasn't looking hard enough.  I would love to talk with others who might understand the pain of losing someone they loved from drug abuse.  

I loss Jeff on June 10, 2013. He was 38. He had the same girlfriend for over 20 years and they own a home, but never got married (against my objection). He had spent most of that night with my youngest daughter, playing games and chatting at her home. He left at 2:58 on his motorcycle. At 3:04 am, a call was placed at the police station that a man was laying in the middle of the street. The night was hot and misty from rain earlier in the day, but the street was absent of puddles. My son had hit a curb, went airborne and rode his bike for another 200 feet... dying on the street. It's unknown at this time what happened that night. Conflicting reports from the police state that it was due to improper lane usage, ( no street light warning of the center boulevard that had begun), but it's a road my son knew. There was no apparent damage to his motorcycle, no witnesses. Police did very little investigation due to the time of night. They initially wanted to rule it "alcohol related" , but he wasn't and that doesn't answer what happened.

At first, what happened that night consumed me. I was in pain that he died alone and what kind of pain did he suffer alone? I went to ID him and he looked perfect- no head trauma (he was wearing a helmet). I checked him out, (I'm a paramedic and I couldn't help doing that). I found that he had broken his neck.

I miss my son greatly and cry daily, but I am so thankful that he died immediately and I thank the Lord that he took him quickly. I am a Christian and I know that we all live our lives by choice. We can do whatever we want to every day of our lives, but the end is the Lord's. We all die and when that time comes there will be others that mourn our loss. It doesn't make it easier knowing this. It is easier knowing that he is in heaven and that I have the support of the Lord to function daily, especially the times when my loss is unbearable. I will always miss my son, but I will see him again when my time comes.

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