Wondering if I should get so annoyed over this..

Ok so here is the thing, when my mom went into a coma on the second day, her dad, sister, brother, and mother was ready to pull the plug and not give her a chance to survive. Since my mom has been gone, I haven't heard from any of them except my grandmother. My point is, is that my stepdad is so mad at her sister(can't stand her) and only her. Now I am mad at all of them but wondering why I get so mad when he talks about her..he says that she got into our business when she shouldn't have, but so did the others. I just don't get it but it makes my blood boil when he talks about her sister like that...I don't know, I guess I'm just an emotional wreck right now. He acts like his family is perfect, but not one of them asks how I'm doing except his father..I know it's not their place because I'm 'step' family but it seems like it should be different! I really miss my mom, and wish that I had her to talk to about all this stuff!:/

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Comment by Jennifer Blackwood on September 29, 2012 at 11:38am

Anna, yeah I keep forgetting about the anger stage, thank you for reminding me! I guess since I'm stuck in the depression stage, I forget that there are others! The people that I have been close to have only been two people, I lost my grandfather when I was ten and then my mom this year..so I'm kind of new to death and grief!

Comment by anna l. on September 29, 2012 at 1:59am

Jennifer one of the biggie stages of grief is anger.  It often has no reason and is directed at people who dont really deserve it but it just is.  You and your step dad are both feeling this anger but like everything else in your grief journey you are feeling it differently, expressing it differently, moving back and forth through it differently.  I know you miss your mom and it hurts.  Sending some gentle hugs to you.

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