I just saw your group. I too lost my dad to murder. It was 3 1/2 years ago. Hang in there, keep praying for justice, follow your heart. We have had so many ups and downs with Daddy's case. There was…"
"I know! I went to therapy and cried and cried and vented and vented, and paid $150 an hour for a great therapist, but it didn't help because what I really needed was to talk to others who are going through the same thing who understand…"
That totally sucks. Please know that just cause the asshole is recanting, doesn't mean a jury won't still get to consider it. Did the DA say that the confession would not come in? Second degree is 25 to life - he…"
"Hang in there and please know that you are not the only one experiencing these feelings. I, too, am getting worse not better. Yesterday, I met with the DA who informed me that the murdering piece of crap who killed my mom is recanting…"
"Thanks Ester for writing to me. I am really sorry about your mother - and so sorry about who did it. I really hope you are okay and have good support.
I know my dad is not in pain and am grateful for that. I want him…"
"Z.M. - I understand completely. My mother was murdered, strangled, by my father. Fortunately, I was not there to witness it, but I am still haunted by images of what it must have looked like. As difficult as it is to forget the…"
"Wow. Huge to lose a husband and partner. Of course it is going to take time. There is no correct way to grieve or time line you need to follow. I am truly sorry for your huge loss. My sister lost her husband to an overdose, and it was…"
"I understand that this would be very hard to go through. I've been involved in murder trials before (as a defense investigator) and it is really, really upsetting and awful. I hope that the DA offers 2nd degree. You are right to want to…"
"It has been 8 months, now , and I am still waiting to see what happens next. The murder trial begins in June. I am praying that the DA offers him a plea of 2nd degree murder= LIFe IN PRISON WITHOUT THE POSSIBILITY OF PAROLE. I just…"
I think you have to get help resolving those issues with someone who can validate your anger, but then through talking and understanding the humanity of the person who has died, you can start to let go and choose to feel…"
I've been thinking of you and wondering how you are managing. Are you okay?
My stepmom has not been charged for killing my dad yet. The investigation is open and progressing but SO slowly, its killing me. I…"
I am really sorry it took me this long to write back. I was out of the area. I am sorry about your pain - I can feel it and know what you are going through. Thank god they know who it is. Don't worry about what his attorney…"
"It has been 6 months since my mom was murdered and it is the absolute worst possible thing to deal with. I, too, am haunted with the visual of her being all alone, bleeding and screaming for help. She was a beautiful, vibrant 67 year old…"
"I am glad your dad changed his will I hope his wife goes to prison for the rest of her life and suffers for what she has done. Hopefully she is haunted by what she has done already. It is very hard to imagine the person who killed someone you…"
Thank you for writing to me and helping me. I am so very sorry about your brother. I understand exactly what you feel and how the imagery stays with you. It must be especially hard for you because it was so violent and he was…"
"Part 2Linda, yes and yes, I "laugh on the outside and cry on the inside". And the laugh (or just plain conversation) is just part of how I cope for when I have to be around others. But it means nothing. It’s like we…"
"Part 1 Bless you and thanks to each one of you who keep writing about how you feel and how you cope. I always feel support knowing I am not alone. What I don't get (and not that any one of us can give it) is the answer to how I can…"
"It's a Catch 22, impossible to solve. I accept Her body isn't alive anymore, but I HAVE TO HAVE HER BODY ALIVE AND STILL WITH ME and I want that to be forever. I know that's impossible, but I STILL HAVE TO HAVE IT!!! …"
"Connie I'm sorry but just know your words do stay in my head.
Keven's mom...I'm so sorry that phone came. There's nothing I can say or do to make this easier on you. Just know we know exactly how you feel. Your…"
As all of you have stated, I too fake my happiness. I laugh on the outside and am crying for him on the inside. I ache so bad that my Julian is not in my life. I just don't understand why God won't take me. Until he does, I…"
"Morgan. I wish I had answers but I am in the very same place. Lost, fake and hollow. I feel worse than I did a year ago I think because I thought I would feel better and don't. Empty and apathetic. I'm tired all the…"
I don't know why this has happened to us, our soulmates being torn from us, but it fucking sucks. Have you considered not acting happy and normal, since that isn't how you feel? Especially if acting that way isn't helping…"
"Please somebody, tell me how I can continue to do this. I am so depressed. I get up every day and pretend. It's what is making me so depressed. It looks like I am functioning so normally. Now that I have learned…"
"Hi Danny. Surviving is art which we all need to practice. Today I met a friend whose father is witnessing the similar illness as my mother i.e. late stage cancer. He is also going through the same emotional turmoil as I went in 2018. After this…"