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Losing SomeoneTo Murder

For people who have lost a loved one to murder.

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Does anyone else have flashbacks? 12 Replies

It has been a year since my husband was murdered and I keep having flashbacks from reading the investigative report and autopsy report.  I can "see" the attack happening and it breaks my heart into a…Continue

Started by Deborah Dodds. Last reply by Stanley Ruiz Feb 14, 2017.

Coping with the loss of my sister 5 Replies

On December 20, 2012 my younger sister was murdered.Her and her boyfriend of 6 years had a very toxic relationship. Neither one of them was completely faithful and they both drank way more than they…Continue

Started by Christine Leakey. Last reply by Dennis M. Walsh Jan 23, 2013.

Men Refuse To Talk! 1 Reply

ANYONE PLEASE EXPLAIN WHY YOUR SON OR HUSBAND/FAMILY DON'T WANT TO HEAR OUR CHILDREN'S NAME..//I AM GOING CRAZY! IT IS LIKE DON'T SAY MY SON'S NAME...T.J.,T.J., T.J., FORGET HE WAS HERE....AT MY…Continue

Started by Bern. Last reply by Christine Leakey Jan 22, 2013.

Family Grief? How do you help? 1 Reply

I come from a family of seven children, 4 boys and 3 girls. Our mother died back in 2005 of lung disease. All 7 of us have never really been close (some closer then others) but her death tore us…Continue

Started by Susie H. Last reply by Brenda Ann Oct 22, 2012.

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Comment by Dave on February 5, 2017 at 1:34am
I lost my son a few months ago. All I really know now is...jack...and longing...
Comment by sue prior on January 23, 2017 at 11:34am

My partner Mick was murdered on 2nd august last year,we were together for 10 years engaged for 9, he was beaten with metal polls. I am disabled He was able bodied, we were very close, he wasn't only my partner he was my best friend. I have a fantastic support network of friends & familyaround me, despite this i feel so lonely.

Comment by Dave on January 22, 2017 at 1:27am
My 15 yr old son was shot...in the head. 3 months ago. :(
Comment by Shirley Holt on June 17, 2013 at 1:10pm
Hi Christine,

I know how you feel. Some days are harder than others. I find talking helps, even though I am anxious about it beforehand. I'm upset either way, but if I can talk about it at least I'm not alone.
Comment by Christine Leakey on June 17, 2013 at 12:51pm

This Thursday will be 6 months since my younger sister was murdered by her boyfriend. I'm filled with so much anxiety. I know I can't stop the 20th from coming and I know that if I could it wouldn't change anything. I just can't believe she has been gone for 6 months. I have no idea how I'm going to be able to handle this let alone her birthday or the anniversary of her murder. I have panic attacks almost every day and I feel so lost. To make matters worse, I feel like I can't talk to my family about any of it. Even though they say that I can I just don't feel comfortable. I just want to scream!

Comment by Shirley Holt on June 16, 2013 at 8:37pm
B Milt, I'm so sorry you have to grieve your son without being able to prove what happened.
Comment by Bern on June 16, 2013 at 8:25pm

can't prove it

this is going to hunt me all my life

Comment by Bern on June 12, 2013 at 11:57pm

My son was shot 8 months ago. The girl he was with told the police that he shot himself. The girl and her brother lied and refused to take a test. We know that was not true and can not prove it. No justice for my son. The police closed the case as an accident. The coronary said he shot himself. Now we wait on the DA. The DA have not talked to for months. My son gone for ever. I have heard that it is hard to accept a death of a child. It is! But, accept the death and we know something went wrong while with her. My son has become a closed file.

Comment by Shirley Holt on May 27, 2013 at 10:50am
My sister was shot and killed on March 12, 2013 by her estranged husband. He talked her into going back to their house weeks after she left him. She left because he threatened to put a bullet in her head. He said he would leave and she could have the house, but she had to sign some papers. I still can't understand why she trusted him enough to go back there alone.
Comment by Lee Mefu on February 2, 2013 at 2:18am

I lost my Boyfriend on September , 3 days before my birthday. He was stabbed and shot multiple times all over his body & face. He was destroyed & found behind some factories. It will soon be 3 years, i Miss him so much every single day , hour , minute , second. A huge part of me died , my world turned to black and white, it kills me to know he's not with me anymore. All i want is to be with him once again. Always has been and always will be my number one. I feel like i am starting to hit rock bottom once again. I don't know what to do or who to talk to to help me get through this.  It hurts me more and more as the days go by.

 

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Hi everyone, I am new to the group, but not to loss. Thanks for adding me.I wanted to share an essay I wrote, "Welcome to the Freak Show: Becoming an Orphan in My 20s", that is in the New York Times today. Even though all of our experiences with grief are unique, I hope it resonates in some way.Best, KelliSee More
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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Linda, yes, I too have the recurring thoughts my brain sends me that my husband is dead.  It's not possible for me to accept it either.  I know it as fact just as I know the sun shines, but when it appears in my brain I simply cannot…"
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Joe Kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"As much as we all suffer, some may have an additional burden of having to go out into the real world and deal with people in business to survive.  The impact of that makes it all that much more unbearable.  While I'm not in that…"
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"Same here, Marita. Things I would have been able to deal with before (either before I met my husband, or while he was here with me), I cannot handle at all now. Any tiny problem is insurmountable. Everything is. Morgan, I am truly sorry you are…"
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Marita commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Morgan, i live with constant fear and anxiety. Every time I am confronted with a new problem I break down because my husband is not here to support me, to comfort me, to love me and it is a reminder of my loss.  When things become so…"
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Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Terrible,horrible, crippling breakdown tonight.  I know what triggered it and it is something I have struggled with all these years and the closer I get to trying to solve it the worse the breakdowns are becoming. Problem is I am still unable…"
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