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Do NOT do this!

I have gotten to know most of your stories and all of them are so heartbreaking. I had to take a break from this site for awhile. I thought if I didn't keep dwelling on the murder (4 years ago) maybe my grief would subside a little. That did not work. I realized it only made me become more obsessed with my brother's murder.

 I became facebook friends (under a different name) with 2 of my brothers murderers. I'm not sure why. I guess I was hoping I could find something out.....which I have. I passed on the information to the detectives involved and was more or less told give up. Unless there is a confession or a witness who talks it won't be solved.

Now I am obsessed with watching these peoples lifes on facebook. It kills me to see them happy and free. I only made things worse for myself and now I can;t quit.

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Finally! Finally! 8 Replies

Last night, I got a phone call from lead detective on my husband's murder case. My husband's killer has been arrested and is now in custody to face murder charges!. This comes 1 year, 1 month, 27…Continue

Started by Amanda Ab. Last reply by Carrie Sue Jan 27, 2016.

missing my brother 6 Replies

its been over a year since my brother was tooken from me...things dont get easier with time i was just getting over my moms death now this...its consumed my life i live every second of my life…Continue

Started by irene gomez. Last reply by Evie Molina Apr 16, 2013.

Blaming the victim 5 Replies

This past week I have experienced a very ugly side to several people. My mom was murdered by her husband several months ago. He subsequently took his own life. I hold nothing for him but anger and…Continue

Started by Amie. Last reply by irene gomez Apr 16, 2013.

So much anger along with deep sadness 11 Replies

My husband was shot and killed by a complete stranger over an argument for a parking space 2 blocks away from our home. I feel so much anger towards this person.  its because of that person, who is…Continue

Started by Amanda Ab. Last reply by Bern Jan 17, 2013.

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Comment by Nichole Meer on December 5, 2015 at 4:04am

My aunt was murdered in 2002. The police know who the murderer is,but despite all their work bringing the suspect to trial,we were all devastated by a not guilty verdict. Seeing a major crime detective crying is always a very bad thing. It took years to get an arrest,then a couple more years going through the court process,and we were left right back where we started after it was all done. Throughout the trial my family was continually harassed and victimised by the accused and her supporters,and we continue having to deal with her smug face to this day. Despite the passage of time and an excellent therapist,I still often struggle with what happened that day. It's hard to explain to anyone who hasn't experienced it...all of you here will know what I mean...it's like you wake up one day and life is normal,going along as it always did,and then suddenly,through no fault of your own,your life as you knew it ends. Just like that. Your life is changed forever,and you change along with it. There are still times I feel like my life isn't my own,and that I'm a stranger to myself. I've worked very hard to rebuild as much as I have,but it's hard feeling like no one really understands what you have,and are going through. I hope to find that connection and understanding here,and maybe offer some hope to others here who are not as far along in the process as I am.  

Comment by Ada Lauren on May 18, 2015 at 9:05pm

A few weeks ago, I found the FB pages of one of the people who murdered my grandparents.  I want to approach him, but it want to say the "right" thing.  In essence, I want him to know that the rest of us survive, and that he didn't kill our spirit.  The truth is, though, I've been grieving for two decades with no resolution.  In a way I would be lying to him.  I understand that this will probably be a total disaster, but I don't know what else to do.  After trying everything I can think of(that's healthy) to help me get past their deaths and on to the next step, I'm wondering if this could help.  I was eleven when Grandma and Bill died, and in a way I'm still that little girl.  Any thoughts?  :/

Comment by kelly on April 30, 2015 at 11:13am

My dear I am sorry for your pain. You are correct, you have made a bad move, its easy to see why you made that move but its only going to stir up too many bad emotions. Its always difficult to find closure in these situations, but you will always have a feeling of deep loss. Be careful if you suspect these guys who is to say they wont harm you too. Trust that it will be dealt with in time, trust me , they will get whats coming to them.

Comment by Levy T on July 7, 2014 at 10:55pm
My wife was murdered here in the Philippines on a robbery attempt while going to her job. It happened last may14. I am in so much pain and so much anger cause i know the police here wont be able to sovle the case. This such a poor country it will be just a cold case. She was my soulmate. It breaksmmy heart that me and my 3 kids wont have any closure..i miss her so much
Comment by Levy T on July 7, 2014 at 10:55pm
My wife was murdered here in the Philippines on a robbery attempt while going to her job. It happened last may14. I am in so much pain and so much anger cause i know the police here wont be able to sovle the case. This such a poor country it will be just a cold case. She was my soulmate. It breaksmmy heart that me and my 3 kids wont have any closure..i miss her so much
Comment by Cyn Rios on August 27, 2013 at 8:58pm
My brother was murdered two months ago in a triple homicide. I am struggling with acceptance still feels unreal. I don't feel hate towards the people that did this and I don't know if that will change. I just have this huge pain in my heart and wish I could talk to my other siblings but I guess it's too hard for them. I feel terribly sad and depressed but I'm glad to find a place like this. It helps a little to share with others that can relate. They have not caught those responsible and I don't know if they ever will. I won't to find a way to cope..
Comment by Shirley Holt on May 26, 2013 at 3:24pm
My sister was murdered by her estranged husband on March 12, 2013. I'm past the gut wrenching grief, but am struggling with a chronic sense melancholy. My sister and I weren't as close as I would have liked and had only reconnected for a few months when she was killed. Not sure how to function well any more.
Comment by Brenda Ann on January 14, 2013 at 6:04am

Berna, I am so sorry for your loss! That sounds so shallow when compared to your loss - murder is so senseless. Of course the Ten Commandments says: (Exodus 20:13) "You must not murder.", but Jesus put even that into perspective - (Matthew 22:36-40)"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”  He said to him: “‘You must love Jehovah your God with your whole heart and with your whole soul and with your whole mind.’ 38 This is the greatest and first commandment. The second, like it, is this, ‘You must love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments the whole Law hangs, and the Prophets."

What has happened to this world? (John 8:44) "YOU are from YOUR father the Devil, and YOU wish to do the desires of YOUR father."

(2 Thessalonians 2:16, 17) "May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and gave everlasting comfort and good hope by means of undeserved kindness, comfort YOUR hearts."

(Isaiah 41:10) Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not gaze about, for I am your God. I will fortify you. I will really help you. I will really keep fast hold of you with my right hand of righteousness.’

Brenda

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Comment by Bern on January 13, 2013 at 7:25pm

My 20 yr old son. Someone shot him. They shot him over something. I don't know any details...but one (1). He will never call my name and ask me "what we eating".

Comment by tammy berryhill on December 10, 2012 at 8:29pm

My cousin who was more like my sister was murdered  2 weeks ago by a co worker...She worked at a college and was supposed to be safe..This monster had prior convictions...Should have not been working there..he took her away from her 2 beautiful girls and her family..All I can think about is what she went through..Does it ever get any easier???I dont see how it possibly could..Im so miserable,feel like I have no happiness in ife..I miss her more than i can ever say...

 

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