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ok its update time
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Started this discussion. Last reply by donna henderson Nov. 5, 2009.
thank you all so very much
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Started this discussion. Last reply by healing07 Jul. 3, 2009.
how do i release the hate?
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Started this discussion. Last reply by Serena Ellis Aug. 25, 2009.
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that is wrong and i hope that the judge and jury see through his tactics, he made a choice albeit a wrong choice and in no way am i condoning his actions. but he took a life and now he has to face the consequences of his actions. He should have thou…
hey fred. maybe so. we'll never really know the reason G-d took our children. but yes, maybe her soul had to go for a very specific purpose. you are angry. angry at what happened to her. and angry that she has passed on. but you sound like a good pe…
honest aproach thank you. i have tried talking untill it hurts. ok thats full time, im thinking i will never be right in the head again, and your smarter than most ive spoken to as well. i hope you are able to help
thank you,
fred
as money is an issue i cannot ignore theres no grief counselors willing to touch my case.and as for friends i'm learning fast theres no such thing. but thank you for the attempt
her picture is the one on my page
hi thanx 4 your comments and well wishes. no then onto the dog training. positive reinforcements like treats are great motovators. as well as most animals thrive on their owners praises. however.... .... heres a home security tip even the smallest d…
rage= fully consuming undetered hate flowing out with such power your entire being is lost and it consumes you competly. it is undeniably the most honest of all emotions! is it not?? now for why i chose it. put simply it is the easiest emotion to fo…
i dont think god took her to stop you because as a loveing father you would have stopped yourself think about would you rather kill and take yourself away from your angel i think god neededtheir help somewhere else and the anger you feel is justifie…
Thank you for the update Fred. I've been waiting to hear. Love the ranting cause then I know your okay. Like I said before better here then somewhere else. Sending hugs to you and family.
Fred - I would join you in your program - I work as a foster carer and look after the poor kids that are damaged and hurt by their 'parents'. I reckon some people should take a test before they have kids! Good on you guy!!! Do something special like…
Your babies are beautiful Fred! Easy to see how much love they have for you
you are a stronger person than i am robert. i hope life lets you hold on to the rest as i am trying to do as well.we must cherrish what we have i think is the cruel little kid god must be to inflict death on any of our young! sorry bro!
ok its going too far she broke out in a sweat!! injection in cell 4 PLEASE!!!
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- About Me:
- i am an old biker my kids were taken from the mother i was unable to get my kids out of foster care as a result of my being a biker. now they begin to fear a bikers wrath too late for all in my path now. i became a better person years ago i lost who i am. no more i am reawakened.
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- on 03-21-08 my 18 yr old daughter was shot and killed. they got the child that shot her yet i still cant let go of whats obviously pure hate. it is over a year and still i cant stop crying, hitting the heavy bag, wanting to destroy every thing person etc. i need help!
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i wanted to start a program in her memory that eliminates the need for foster care,child support,deadbeat parents,and eventually poverty.
ok first put people that owe child support in school. once they have a degree a good job get your money.no more deadbeats.... and no more child support problems very soon.
start completing educations at degree levels.... given the better jobs, better living standards would rise. eventually terminating all social care systems necesity.
am i right all problems c… Continue
ok first put people that owe child support in school. once they have a degree a good job get your money.no more deadbeats.... and no more child support problems very soon.
start completing educations at degree levels.... given the better jobs, better living standards would rise. eventually terminating all social care systems necesity.
am i right all problems c… Continue
Posted on June 6, 2009 at 1:44pm — 1 Comment
the time to deal with things
after tommorows date im taking a much needed break from our society. mayby mexico on my bike. pay some vato a few hundred dollar bills to get my agression therapy. or pop up to canada and let some frenchy look down his nose at me. lol... ...whatever tomorow brings ill probably need it. ill probably have to wait until the ledger posts the outcome. but if i gased up now i could get there easily on time. deciscions deciscions. na i'd try 4 him . i wouldnt introduce myself to anyone. just go sit in… Continue
Posted on June 2, 2009 at 4:05am — 2 Comments
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- At 6:34am on May 22, 2009,
Katherine Ellis said…
- I just went and got a tat on my back on an angel for my daughter. Even though she wasn't taken from violence, I had to watch her drown and there wasn't anything we could do. You just got through an anniversary date which is double hard to take. Keep on crying and hitting that heavy bag. It does help. Try to let your family at least heal part of your heart. It will never heal all the way. There isn't anything wrong with a biker guy, I'm married to one. If you need to rant, email me I'm listed and always ready to listen if it will help you. Hugs to all of you, Katherine
- At 7:50pm on May 20, 2009,
Diana Young said… - p.s. you should put your picture back online as well. Just click photos under quick add.
- At 9:11am on May 20, 2009,
Diana Young said…
- my brother was killed and the person that killed him walks the street, all because he convinced the authorities that James committed suicide - not true. I know how you feel. But I have channeled my hatred into more positive things. I believe in Karma, so I know its just a matter of time. Have you found any grief support groups in your area? That is how I started to cope, but I needed more and that's why I created this site. It may help to post pictures of your daughter and talk about her on here. There are a lot of people that will wrap their arms around you. Well virtually anyway. (((((hugs)))))
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Hi Stella. I am so sorry about your loss. I am in a similar situation. My fiancee of 55 died on Feb. 11 unexpectedly with a heart attac, at the age of 55 and I am so angry and depressed and am a Christian but still have not found the comfort that I…
Marlene,
I don't even know where to begin in conveying my condolences to you for all of your losses. Sorry just seems so lame and insignificant. My heart goes out to you.
You're surprised that you think you can write?? You ARE a writer. I assumed…
Thank you so much for your understanding and your empathy. I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband, especially to a heart attack at such a young age. I just never even considered that something like this could happen in MY life. I know…
Laura--Thank you so much. It actually allows me to breathe a little easier knowing that people here will understand what I'm going through, even if it's in their own individual ways. I don't feel like anyone here will rush me along in my grief; curr…
First of all, it hasn't happened yet. Doctors said that any hour from now it could be the time. My father is at the hospital and I take care of my brother (food, school, etc). I can't sleep and I'm grieving like she's already gone. Other problems oc…
This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.
I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband suddenly to a heart attack Nov. 2008. Its still hard. I'm still healing... or trying. I know about losing the center of your world. The one everything in your life revolves around. How every thought always…
Its horrible to lose the man you love. I can't imagine not getting the support from those you love because of certain circumstances. That must make it even more difficult. My husband was 38 and died of a heart attack and there was just nothing we co…
Looks like a lot of love in his eyes. It must have been really rough to watch him go through everything. Death can be a brutal thing to watch. Its hard to see someone you love suffer so. You saw something you never wanted to see. Its too bad everyon…
My husband of 27 years died at home on September 13, 2009 after a long illness. Illnesses actually. Six weeks later, our dog Brodie died. Broken heart, I think. God, I envy that.
My Mom had died on June 15, 2008. Three weeks before her death, our…
this is ment for the people who have lost the closest thing to them it doesnt matter if its a person or an animal it's stilla lost and they all hurt
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To One In Sorrow
Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
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And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
-Grace Noll Crowell
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