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ok its update time
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Started this discussion. Last reply by donna henderson Nov. 5, 2009.
thank you all so very much
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Started this discussion. Last reply by healing07 Jul. 3, 2009.
how do i release the hate?
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Started this discussion. Last reply by Serena Ellis Aug. 25, 2009.
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my daughters killer was given 2 life sentences. we are in fla for trial. going to watch him go to prison were my brothers are. im not sure but he killed their neice. hmmm wonder how his day will be going!
that is wrong and i hope that the judge and jury see through his tactics, he made a choice albeit a wrong choice and in no way am i condoning his actions. but he took a life and now he has to face the consequences of his actions. He should have thou…
hey fred. maybe so. we'll never really know the reason G-d took our children. but yes, maybe her soul had to go for a very specific purpose. you are angry. angry at what happened to her. and angry that she has passed on. but you sound like a good pe…
honest aproach thank you. i have tried talking untill it hurts. ok thats full time, im thinking i will never be right in the head again, and your smarter than most ive spoken to as well. i hope you are able to help
thank you,
fred
as money is an issue i cannot ignore theres no grief counselors willing to touch my case.and as for friends i'm learning fast theres no such thing. but thank you for the attempt
her picture is the one on my page
hi thanx 4 your comments and well wishes. no then onto the dog training. positive reinforcements like treats are great motovators. as well as most animals thrive on their owners praises. however.... .... heres a home security tip even the smallest d…
rage= fully consuming undetered hate flowing out with such power your entire being is lost and it consumes you competly. it is undeniably the most honest of all emotions! is it not?? now for why i chose it. put simply it is the easiest emotion to fo…
i dont think god took her to stop you because as a loveing father you would have stopped yourself think about would you rather kill and take yourself away from your angel i think god neededtheir help somewhere else and the anger you feel is justifie…
Thank you for the update Fred. I've been waiting to hear. Love the ranting cause then I know your okay. Like I said before better here then somewhere else. Sending hugs to you and family.
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- About Me:
- i am an old biker my kids were taken from the mother i was unable to get my kids out of foster care as a result of my being a biker. now they begin to fear a bikers wrath too late for all in my path now. i became a better person years ago i lost who i am. no more i am reawakened.
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- on 03-21-08 my 18 yr old daughter was shot and killed. they got the child that shot her yet i still cant let go of whats obviously pure hate. it is over a year and still i cant stop crying, hitting the heavy bag, wanting to destroy every thing person etc. i need help!
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i wanted to start a program in her memory that eliminates the need for foster care,child support,deadbeat parents,and eventually poverty.
ok first put people that owe child support in school. once they have a degree a good job get your money.no more deadbeats.... and no more child support problems very soon.
start completing educations at degree levels.... given the better jobs, better living standards would rise. eventually terminating all social care systems necesity.
am i right all problems c… Continue
ok first put people that owe child support in school. once they have a degree a good job get your money.no more deadbeats.... and no more child support problems very soon.
start completing educations at degree levels.... given the better jobs, better living standards would rise. eventually terminating all social care systems necesity.
am i right all problems c… Continue
Posted on June 6, 2009 at 12:44pm — 1 Comment
the time to deal with things
after tommorows date im taking a much needed break from our society. mayby mexico on my bike. pay some vato a few hundred dollar bills to get my agression therapy. or pop up to canada and let some frenchy look down his nose at me. lol... ...whatever tomorow brings ill probably need it. ill probably have to wait until the ledger posts the outcome. but if i gased up now i could get there easily on time. deciscions deciscions. na i'd try 4 him . i wouldnt introduce myself to anyone. just go sit in… Continue
Posted on June 2, 2009 at 3:05am — 2 Comments
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- At 9:31am on April 30, 2010,
sheryl annette morgan said…
- Hi Fred I ve just read your post about the sentancing and I really hope they put that despicable piece of shit on the same wing as your brothers then justice will be served!!!!I to am a biker and lost my 20 year old son who was also a biker six months ago and the closest I ever feel to him is when I m ripping the highway up!!I also got a tattoo (as did my hubby ,daughter and nephew)in memory of him as my Lee was covered in them and I know he ll have loved that!xxx and hugs Sheryl
- At 5:34am on May 22, 2009,
Katherine Ellis said…
- I just went and got a tat on my back on an angel for my daughter. Even though she wasn't taken from violence, I had to watch her drown and there wasn't anything we could do. You just got through an anniversary date which is double hard to take. Keep on crying and hitting that heavy bag. It does help. Try to let your family at least heal part of your heart. It will never heal all the way. There isn't anything wrong with a biker guy, I'm married to one. If you need to rant, email me I'm listed and always ready to listen if it will help you. Hugs to all of you, Katherine
- At 6:50pm on May 20, 2009,
Diana Young said… - p.s. you should put your picture back online as well. Just click photos under quick add.
- At 8:11am on May 20, 2009,
Diana Young said…
- my brother was killed and the person that killed him walks the street, all because he convinced the authorities that James committed suicide - not true. I know how you feel. But I have channeled my hatred into more positive things. I believe in Karma, so I know its just a matter of time. Have you found any grief support groups in your area? That is how I started to cope, but I needed more and that's why I created this site. It may help to post pictures of your daughter and talk about her on here. There are a lot of people that will wrap their arms around you. Well virtually anyway. (((((hugs)))))
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If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
@Mel &@Courtney - thx for the support. It helps coming here & reading posts by you all & others. It helps to know that I am not alone!
My brother died March 9, 2010. He was a big NASCAR fan. One Sunday a few weeks after he died, I was in bed and had been dozing off and on. The TV was on a channel that plays "whodunit" shows all day. I got up and went in to my office for a little wh…
My daughter, Lyndsey died on July 18, 2010 from injuries suffered in a motorcycle accident. She was 27 years old and left behind two children. In a blink of an eye, our world was turned upside down. I'm thankful that it was fast and she didn't linge…
For all of us that are suffering the loss a son or daughter.
@Mel YOur such an insperation when I come and read your posts...You have made it easy on me to have the fatih I do. I know that in time things will get better.....I am so glad that your doing good...and that you are talking to your dad in your own l…
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Thank you for your words....I try everyday to forgive myself and I also tell myself not to feel guilty, but it goes back to "I should of been there".
I sometimes think I need to find a griefing place here in town where I can sit down with p…
If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
Back in October 2009, my 21 yr old was riding his friend's motorcycle down a residential street when he was rammed into another car. Thank God the occupants of that car were not seriously hurt but unfortunately, my son sustained a massive brain in…
Greetings Amanda. Some people just dont realize how insensitive there comments are. I dont think they delibrately want to hurt us, they dont think before they speak. He who feels it, knows it. I had a parent from one of my children's class ask me if…
sorry to hear about your mom--and i tried reaching out to fred's friends but they are all couples now and dont want me around--especially since i am so sad and depressed all the time
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To One In Sorrow
Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
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I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
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And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
-Grace Noll Crowell
The Light Beyond
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