I'm a wife, mother, and grandmother. I am also a therapist, but that isn't my reason for being here. Mostly, I'm a deeply grieving mother.
About my Loss:
My 41 year old son passed away suddenly while on a Caribbean cruise on March 21, 2013. He and his wife were celebrating their 9th wedding anniversary. Chris died in international waters and his body was taken to a funeral home in St. Maarten, where he was cremated before being flown back to the USA. I never got to see him one last time to say goodbye.
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Thank you Michelle. I am sorry for your loss as well. I appreciate the support from you and all who are here. I lost my son Tim on 9/5/17. He was 20 years old. I wake up each morning, not knowing how I am going to get through each day.
Thank you Michelle. I have had a really hard time of it.... I'm sure like all parents of deceased children. It's such a sad and lonely road to travel and I hate it! It's like so many country roads ROUGH!!!!
"Thank you very much Michelle H. I really appreciate and I am new on this site had lost my daughter this year on the 5th of January. I am also sorry for your loss.Needed to speak to grieving mothers cause it's really hard for to accept
dear Michelle, I hope you're well. I know the holidays are very hard to deal with. Everyone has their way of dealing with a loved ones passing. mine. Is talking to my son Scott as though he is here with me. I don't want to sound like a crazy lady but it helps me. I don't have long drawn out conversations but I do include him in some things I do from time to time. although it has only been eleven months since his passing I have come to realize he is gone and I must deal with it for my own sanity. I do believe in the hear after so I do think Scott can see and hear me. Of. Purse there are no guarantees but it helps me from falling apart all the time. Maybe you feel as I do. we have to hold ourselves together some how. Please take care of yourself.
A friend, Charlotte Finklea
Thank you, Michelle. I am preparing to have a meeting with the San Diego Lifeguards and the press. One channel was very kind and called me to ask me about my son, then reported what a great kid he was, that he was loved and cherished by his family, that he worked 2 jobs and went to school in a sincere effort to provide for his 7 month old daughter, and that he is survived by four little brothers. Every other local channel couldn't have cared less, and the San Diego Lifeguard spokesman is definitely on my radar. My best friend was at the beach when they found Brian, and she made it very clear to him that what he was doing was wrong and painful, but he is just so excited to have the cameras on him, he didn't care. I have every intention of having a meeting with him and his boss to let them know exactly how much they hurt my family with their lies and lack of compassion. I'm so sorry that any of us have to belong to this club -- I read elsewhere that the Bereaved Mother's Club is one that all women avoid because the dues are much too high. I'd give everything I have (that is not living), even give my own life, if I could bring him back. I'm old, I lived my life and had the opportunity to raise my children, while his life was just beginning. It is just so incredibly wrong.
"Yes Brett. A bit of rough phase but coping up to do things as mentioned by Selv. To do work to earn and other things.
One thing which is driving me is my angel (my 4 months daughter). Her name is Kiana and her smile is my driving force to…"
"Avi, I feel like you are going through a rough time right now. You're not alone. One of the great things about a site like this is that you are a world away but I know who you are and I know that you are missing your mom just as much as I am.…"
"My mom worried about every detail of my life. There are some who would say that is intrusive. I felt that she was just being a mom. I miss that so much. I had the flu last year. I was laying in that bed and all I could hear was silence. My mom would…"
"Good morning Adams. It is 9:40 AM in India and I am at my job and trying to concentrate hard as my Mom always wanted.
I have almost stopped complaining of anything in life now as I have already lost my most precious gift. Now what ever I have…"
"Avi, the fact that you were close enough with your mother to share your negative feelings about your job shows real intimacy, which I think is what loving mothers treasure above all else. So hard accepting that we will not hear that beloved…"
"Even my mother always used to say that live your life fully but I was always complaining on some matters. She used to worry about me the most as I was not stable in my job and used to talk about quitting it often. She always used to say, love your…"
"Alice, I regret not getting it together to write on Dec 2nd as I recall that was your anniversary of your husbands death date. I have just been swimming upstream through the rapids. Each year during the "seasonal"…"
"You know what when my mom could not be resuscitated, her eyes were wide open and looking toward the right towards me as I walked in, she saw me I know it. I shut her eyes. I wanted the hospital staff to leave me alone. They were…"
"SelV, your mom would have had it no other way. She saw you take your first breath. You saw her take her last. I experienced that as well. If I had my way, I would have gone before my mom. Is that selfish of me? Yes. I don't care. Losing mom was…"
"Dear all...the thought "What if I had died due to unforeseen circumstances and my elderly widowed mother had to grief my death?" crossed my mind many times. Knowing my mother, her world (of me and her) would have collapsed and she would…"
"I think you're right, Theresa. We are a sad bunch. I think our moms would be touched that we love them so much, but they would probably also want us to be happy and move on. I just don't think that's possible, nor do I believe that my…"