Female who really enjoys life but occasionally these feelings hit me and it immobilizes me or I get sick. On those occasions it would be good to have someone who understands those feelings to chat with.
About my Loss:
I lost my 27 yr. old son by suicide. My other son, 35 yrs. was murdered. My husband died of a heart attack at 76 yrs. Had to put my dog down last month. My heart aches when I go by the anniversary of their death's and their birthdays. The first week of Feb. is the anniversary of my two sons. My heart is aching. Nothing seems to help.
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Hi Trudy! I see you haven't been on in awhile, but if you are I read your story and my heart goes out to you. You have been through so much pain! I have lost alot of ppl along the way (my mom, brother, dad), but the hardest has been loosing my husband of 28 yrs in 2011. He was there for strength when I lost the others, but now there is nobody that can take away the pain of loosing him. He was my soulmate and the best friend I have ever had. I feel like my life is over. From reading your posts it sounds like you have been through that pain also. God bless you and I hope we have a chance to meet on here.
I understand that "ache" inside and I pray for you a touch of love during those times. Love never dies and so it is always remembered as well. Our ache is a testimony to how much we loved and how deeply. blessings honey..
Trudy: On those difficult days be sure to plan in advance each hour of the day as to what you will do. Find a best friend who understands what is happening and will listen to whatever you have to say. Celebrate the lives of your loved ones in a way that is appropriate for you (light a candle, display a certain picture, play a certain song, visit a special place, go to church, etc.). Try not to isolate yourself. Lou
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