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Trudy F. Evans
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- Ventura, CA
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Trudy F. Evans's Groups
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mY sOuLmAtE, mY bEsTfRiE…
24 members
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Missing my Son or Daug…
72 members
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Multiple Losses Group
49 members
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It absolutely makes sense Cheryl. How long has it been since your brothers passed away? It's just so good to be where we can pour our heart out and I'm listening to you. I hear and feel your pain. I'm here for you.
Hi Cheryl, I'm a newby here too, just one day ahead of you. My heart goes out to you because I really do understand where your coming from. You just never know who the pain is for. Mine was a long time ago but the pain arises every year for the anni…
You can't imagine how good this makes me feel Gail. All I can say is "Just so glad to be here". Where have you guys been all my griefing life. Right now I'm in pain but I also want to be there for everyone else when they go through they're pain. May…
Julie I'm so sorry for your loss. Know what your feeling and want you to know I'm here for you. I've lost my two sons, my husband, my Mom and Dad and recently my little dog. When you need to talk I'm here for you. Sometimes counselors and spiritual…
Thank you so much Katherine. Your kind words are appreciated. It has been 21 yrs. since my son committed suicide and 10 since my other son was murdered and 9 since my husband died. I lost our beloved pet in December and am now totally alone. She was…
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- About Me:
- Female who really enjoys life but occasionally these feelings hit me and it immobilizes me or I get sick. On those occasions it would be good to have someone who understands those feelings to chat with.
- About my Loss:
- I lost my 27 yr. old son by suicide. My other son, 35 yrs. was murdered. My husband died of a heart attack at 76 yrs. Had to put my dog down last month. My heart aches when I go by the anniversary of their death's and their birthdays. The first week of Feb. is the anniversary of my two sons. My heart is aching. Nothing seems to help.
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Comment Wall (6 comments)
- At 12:30pm on May 16, 2010,
Dr. Rev. Jenine Marie McCune said… - I understand that "ache" inside and I pray for you a touch of love during those times. Love never dies and so it is always remembered as well. Our ache is a testimony to how much we loved and how deeply. blessings honey..
- At 12:27am on January 29, 2010,
Trudy F. Evans said…
- Thank you, Lou, for your thoughtful help. I'm trying to do all those things. It sometimes gets very difficult to function.
- At 6:42pm on January 28, 2010,
Lou LaGrand, Ph.D. said…
- Trudy: On those difficult days be sure to plan in advance each hour of the day as to what you will do. Find a best friend who understands what is happening and will listen to whatever you have to say. Celebrate the lives of your loved ones in a way that is appropriate for you (light a candle, display a certain picture, play a certain song, visit a special place, go to church, etc.). Try not to isolate yourself. Lou
- At 5:07pm on January 28, 2010,
Trudy F. Evans said…
- Thanks for being my friend, Diana. It's good to be here. ((((HUGS))))
- At 5:01pm on January 28, 2010,
Diana Young said…
- Thanks for adding me as a friend. Sending you virtual (((((hugs))))) ~ Diana
- At 4:35pm on January 28, 2010, Gail Richardson gave Trudy F. Evans a gift…
Groups
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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
112 members
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I love my Dad.
98 members
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Losing Someone to Cancer
83 members
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Missing my Son or Daug…
72 members
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I miss my Mom!
72 members
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Multiple Losses Group
49 members
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I Miss My Parent(s)
33 members
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Tattoo Memorial
33 members
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Lost Without My Mom
25 members
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mY sOuLmAtE, mY bEsTfRiE…
24 members
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Caylee Marie Anthony
19 members
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for loved ones who have…
16 members
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Orphaned Adults
16 members
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Losing a Sister
11 members
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When will the ache subsi…
9 members
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Dear Connie: My heart goes out to you. I lost my Daddy May 7, 2010, just 8 weeks after my younger brother died unexpectedly. My Daddy & I also had some bumps in our relationship through the years. He was 84 years old, but I wasn't ready yet. I won't…
It's only been 2 weeks for me so I may not be going about this in the "right" way but if it is just a cashier or waitress or somone I dont know and will probably never see again I just say "Fine.. thank you". because I dont know them and if I try to…
Dear Connie, what you are feeling is typical. you are covered in grief and a million thoughts and emotions are drowning you. You don't know what end is up and total confusion is normal. I was in the same boat, my father passed away March 4 unexpecte…
Hello Everyone, I just found and joined this website earlier tonight in the middle of a bad crying spell that went on most of this afternoon. My father passed away a month ago yesterday from a heart attack. He went into the bedroom to change into…
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To One In Sorrow
Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
-Grace Noll Crowell
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.
-Grace Noll Crowell
The Light Beyond
The Gift That Freed Me To Give
A significant lesson for me has been understanding and accepting that our greatest gains often come through experiences in our lives that may be extremely painful. My father, Raphel Orval Beason, died less than four months before I was born at the age of 19 in an explosion at the Port Chicago U.S. Navy arsenal near Oakland, Calif. He was among 320 men killed on July 17, 1944, when two merchant ships blew next to...The loss of a son
Mother's Day will always be the anniversary of my son's death, no matter what date it falls on. May 9, 2010, the day I lost a piece of my heart. I have vivid memories of that day but they are brief glimpses only. He called that morning to tell me Happy Mother's Day Mom! I love you! I remember being 250 miles away from my home, my other child and my family. I don't know...Try tapping, it works wonders...
I don't often recommend specific methods to help with grief. But the self-help method I'm going to tell you about - EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques - is well worth making an exception for. Basically, it involves tapping on the acupuncture points to tap into your body's own energy and healing power. If you think that sounds a little far-fetched and woo-woo, so did I. In fact, I starting doing EFT on myself for chronic...Daughter of Suicide
It has been 22 and a half years since my mother’s suicide in October 1987. I look at that number – 22 – and it startles me. It’s hard to believe that I have lived more of my life without my mother, than with her. During those first 10 years after her death I carried the heavy load of her suicide every waking moment. I struggled with my own depression and feelings of abandonment and...8 practical ways to help a grieving family
When a friend or family member experiences the death of a loved one, we quickly offer our condolences and help. Listed here are eight practical suggestions for helping a friend or family member that has just suffered a loss. 1. Offer to answer the telephone or answer emails at the family's home. Telephone calls and email can take up a considerable amount of time. Take messages and give information to friends and family. 2. Volunteer...Badge
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