Trudy F. Evans
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About Me:
Female who really enjoys life but occasionally these feelings hit me and it immobilizes me or I get sick. On those occasions it would be good to have someone who understands those feelings to chat with.
About my Loss:
I lost my 27 yr. old son by suicide. My other son, 35 yrs. was murdered. My husband died of a heart attack at 76 yrs. Had to put my dog down last month. My heart aches when I go by the anniversary of their death's and their birthdays. The first week of Feb. is the anniversary of my two sons. My heart is aching. Nothing seems to help.
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At 11:24am on November 12, 2012, Karen Casey said…

Hi Trudy!  I see you haven't been on in awhile, but if you are I read your story and my heart goes out to you.  You have been through so much pain!  I have lost alot of ppl along the way (my mom, brother, dad), but the hardest has been loosing my husband of 28 yrs in 2011.  He was there for strength when I lost the others, but now there is nobody that can take away the pain of loosing him.  He was my soulmate and the best friend I have ever had.  I feel like my life is over.  From reading your posts it sounds like you have been through that pain also.  God bless you and I hope we have a chance to meet on here.

Karen

At 12:30pm on May 16, 2010, Pastor Jenine Marie Mason said…
I understand that "ache" inside and I pray for you a touch of love during those times. Love never dies and so it is always remembered as well. Our ache is a testimony to how much we loved and how deeply. blessings honey..
At 12:27am on January 29, 2010, Trudy F. Evans said…
Thank you, Lou, for your thoughtful help. I'm trying to do all those things. It sometimes gets very difficult to function.
At 6:42pm on January 28, 2010, Lou LaGrand, Ph.D. said…
Trudy: On those difficult days be sure to plan in advance each hour of the day as to what you will do. Find a best friend who understands what is happening and will listen to whatever you have to say. Celebrate the lives of your loved ones in a way that is appropriate for you (light a candle, display a certain picture, play a certain song, visit a special place, go to church, etc.). Try not to isolate yourself. Lou
At 5:07pm on January 28, 2010, Trudy F. Evans said…
Thanks for being my friend, Diana. It's good to be here. ((((HUGS))))
At 5:01pm on January 28, 2010, Jarvis said…
Thanks for adding me as a friend. Sending you virtual (((((hugs))))) ~ Diana
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Dennis C. replied to Amy's discussion How do I get unstuck?
"Amy, I am so sorry for your loss. The journey of caregiving is extremely difficult. The loss of our especially loved dear ones is unspeakable. There are so many different ideas about what happens to us when we die. Religion teaches many different…"
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"I just feel like I am in a fog.  I have a little dog that is at least ten years old.  She adored my Mom & she has really grieved for her.  I know how you feel about your dog.  I worry about her.  She is all I have. …"
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Me too Brett, I sit here an look at my 12 year old Labrador and I know he is on borrowed time, and my heart breaks, losing him will be something that I am not looking forward to. As you said Brett, we have the live our lives until we are called…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brett so true she was my security blanket I feel like I have no one to lean on that understood me like her You know what keeps coming in my mind. How true it is and scary that everything has a beginning and an end."
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I hear it all the time you don’t know how lucky you were that your mother wasn’t sick and you didn’t have to take care of her I say to them lucky I was lucky that my mother died and I was not right by her side to tell her I love…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"M, the problem is that our security blankets were ripped away. Like you, sometimes I am glad to be sad. I feel like I am closer to my mom when I am crying. At least, her memory is fresher with me when I am in that zone. I feel like the hard reality…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Me too ...I was sitting marking a paper yesterday and suddenly realized that I can’t see or talk to my mother about this or anything else and the tears came.  But I’m glad to think of her, in a way I can be glad to be sad sometimes.…"
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I sometimes will just be sitting down and I start to cry because I keep thinking I miss my mom so much my whole world is just not the same I think that I’ve become a different person it will be four years and I still cry I can’t put into…"
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M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Definitely a colder world now.  I like the image of the security blanket — like, as we go forward, we will always keep it but eventually may be able to wash it, fold it nicely, and put it in some place of honour close at hand but without…"
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Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"It is such a traumatic event, especially when you have had a wonderful Mom.  It is so hard knowing she is gone.  Knowing this is permanent.  There is no one that can fill the void she left.  My brother was close to Mom, but he…"
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Amy replied to Amy's discussion How do I get unstuck?
"I am not a believer and nor was he. We covered the bases just incase though. We were both raised Catholic. That is all besides the point though. "
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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Sue Toler commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"My Mom also.  I could always talk to her about anything & knew she was someone I could totally trust.  I am constantly thinking of something I want to share with her & then I remember she is gone.  I loved spending time with…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"There is no doubt that it is anxiety. In fact, I think we are experiencing fight or flight. Since birth my mom had been my security blanket."
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