I am so sorry. My dad died of lung cancer. My father in law died OD Alzheimer's.
It is all just wrong. Death is such an enemy.
Here is a link to an article about grieving. It also has links within it that discuss the subject of death,…"
I am so sad for your heart being so broken. I know exactly what you are feeling. Take one hour at a time. Cry....let your feelings flow. We grieve as we love - deeply. How blessed you are to have a father who loves you and whom you love so…"
"I can't believe I have found myself here. My dad died Feb. 5th of lung cancer. Before 9 months ago, he was the healthiest 73 year old I have ever known. It is very hard to believe and accept that he is gone, as for the last 9 months it has been…"
This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.See More
I am so sad for your heart being so broken. I know exactly what you are feeling. Take one hour at a time. Cry....let your feelings flow. We grieve as we love - deeply. How blessed you are to have a father who loves you and whom you love so much! Note I use present tense. He is still your dad. You are still his daughter. He is just in another place. Another part of his journey. Life does not just stop when we leave these bodies. Imagine where he is and perhaps that will help you process your missing his physical self. My mother has come and visted me and it was amazing!
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"I can relate with your situation, as mine is similar. The small gifts each day bring hope and happiness. Not that we did not realize that before. I guess there is more attention after loss in our lives.
Take care "
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