I too wish you didn't have to be here. I lost my wife on Jan.21, 2018 and wish I could say it gets better as time goes on, but for me it's just keeps getting worse. We were together since age 16, close to 52 years together and this Dec. 3rd, would had celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary. Counseling or bereavement groups didn't help me but you might give that a go when the grief really sets in. You are still in shock at this early time. Join our group "lost a spouse". Just know that he's really not gone. He is still with you and someday you will be reunited with him in the spiritual realm for eternity.
I am so sorry you have had to join our grieving group. Each of us know your sorrow and we all grapple with how to deal with the worst thing we could ever have to deal with. On January 21st 2013 my husband doc 35 years (knew him for 55) died and I am functioning better at doing the basics of life but the need to have a reason for making my life worthwhile again still evade me. I have done what I have had to do to what I call "pay bills" but the cost of living has gotten incredibly heavy. I long for my own death and at 67 I can hope it will be sooner rather than later.
There are so many things I could impart but the best thing I could do is encourage you to read here and find others who grieve. They will understand your pain. It helps to know others suffer just like you are. It is about the only and best thing that may give you a way to understand what has happened. Nothing for me has done much more.
Best I can say is take it a moment at a time. For the early years of your sorrow that will be about all you can do. Just know that is normal. Nothing compares to this and you will hurt. Like you never imagined. Do the best you can. We understand.......
Morgan
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I too wish you didn't have to be here. I lost my wife on Jan.21, 2018 and wish I could say it gets better as time goes on, but for me it's just keeps getting worse. We were together since age 16, close to 52 years together and this Dec. 3rd, would had celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary. Counseling or bereavement groups didn't help me but you might give that a go when the grief really sets in. You are still in shock at this early time. Join our group "lost a spouse". Just know that he's really not gone. He is still with you and someday you will be reunited with him in the spiritual realm for eternity.
Prayers for you,
Joe
Linda,
I am so sorry you have had to join our grieving group. Each of us know your sorrow and we all grapple with how to deal with the worst thing we could ever have to deal with. On January 21st 2013 my husband doc 35 years (knew him for 55) died and I am functioning better at doing the basics of life but the need to have a reason for making my life worthwhile again still evade me. I have done what I have had to do to what I call "pay bills" but the cost of living has gotten incredibly heavy. I long for my own death and at 67 I can hope it will be sooner rather than later.
There are so many things I could impart but the best thing I could do is encourage you to read here and find others who grieve. They will understand your pain. It helps to know others suffer just like you are. It is about the only and best thing that may give you a way to understand what has happened. Nothing for me has done much more.
Best I can say is take it a moment at a time. For the early years of your sorrow that will be about all you can do. Just know that is normal. Nothing compares to this and you will hurt. Like you never imagined. Do the best you can. We understand.......
Morgan
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