Michael
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  • Woburn, MA
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Michael commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"John, I have a similar memory that keeps replaying in my mind. Every day, many times a day. I think we have PTSD."
Feb 23
Michael commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"John, Glad to hear of your experience. Im so alone i think daily of ending it all (no plan.) i think people who care for me near me might prevent that. I also fear that this incrdible stress will activate a small cancer and kill me. Id be ok with…"
Jan 26
Michael commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I've been trying to go through the grief not "around" it as recommended. It sucks. Tonight i had 2 wines at dinner; im feeling almost human. A couple xanax and some pot and i'll be all set for the night."
Jan 25
Carl accomando left a comment for Michael
"Hi Michael I'll be in Roanoke tuesday,Wednesday, Thursday if you want t to get a beer or something. Let me know.Carl"
Jan 23
Michael replied to Angela's discussion Does it help to move? in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you Kathleen. This is just so very awful. Its hell. The definition of hell. Ive been cleaning out my place in anticipation of moving and after throwing out 12 bags of papers, three boxes of books (to book drop) ive maybe made a 20 percent dent…"
Jan 17
Michael replied to Angela's discussion Does it help to move? in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Kathleen I am also on an antidepressant but am still depressed. And i dont sleep. I am retired so i have little to do but think about my precious wife Roxanne. I am thinking about living with her son and his family - like a child, though id have my…"
Jan 17
Michael replied to Angela's discussion Does it help to move? in the group Lost My Spouse...
"John In the final analysis, do you think moving to be near family was better than staying alone? I have been facing the same choice. I hate being totally alone 90 percent of the time. As I am retired, i sit in my home alone most days thinking up…"
Jan 17
Michael replied to Angela's discussion Does it help to move? in the group Lost My Spouse...
"In anticipation of possibly moving I have been trying to clear my place of clutter. Today i attacked my office. Sfter several hours ive barely made a dent, throwing out stacks of papers, magazines, various crap that had piled up iver 20 years. The…"
Jan 16
Michael replied to Angela's discussion Does it help to move? in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Im not sure but i havent set foot in our place since my wife died three months ago - she died in the house in my arms - and im selling the place and buying another place nearby with her son and his family. Im sure the grief is not going to lessen…"
Jan 15
Michael and Kevin Bailey are now friends
Jan 14
Michael left a comment for Carl accomando
"Im in boston, carl."
Jan 14
Carl accomando left a comment for Michael
"Hi Michael we talked here several weeks ago my wife passed I'm November I'm visiting here in Roanoke this weekend with my kids,wondering if you wanted to get together .Leg me know it might be a good thing. CARL ACCOMANDO"
Jan 14
Carl accomando left a comment for Michael
"I'm here in roanoke wondering if you want to get together let me know .carl"
Jan 14
Michael commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Today it has been three months since my wife Roxanne died. It is still unbearable. To add to the pain, every day brings another thing i have to do to settle her estate, sell house, possibly move. It is all too much."
Jan 9
brenda mcintyre left a comment for Michael
"Hi Michael.....I lost my husband of 27 years in oct too. it was sudden unexpected and so very tragic. I am struggling to live day to day. I cry all the time and fall apart so much its hard to count. I thought me and my husband could get through…"
Jan 8
Michael replied to Richard Rivera's discussion MY BELOVED WIFE DIED DECEMBER 2ND in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Richard Perhaps you could start A GoFund Me campaign to raise rent money. Im not sure how to do it but ill bet a lot of us would donate."
Jan 7

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About Me:
Am a semi-retired writer. Was married to Roxanne 26 years. I like golf and music when not grieving.
About my Loss:
My wife died Oct 9, of this year (2016)

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At 11:50am on February 1, 2017, John T. said…

I'm glad you are getting some help.  If you have the resources, take advantage of it.  Therapy and medication on the basis you describe is a real opportunity to get back on your feet.  There's no cure for what we're going through but at least we can try to learn to cope the best we can.  Let us know how it goes.

At 11:39pm on January 31, 2017, AnneJ said…

Hi, Michael. I think it's fantastic if you go for a two-week "tune up", as my husband would call it. :-) Little would he  know that this is really what happens when the one and only in the whole world we love the most is stolen in front of our eyes. I would have given anything to go for a two-week help setting in the first months of this devastation but I didn't even know it was available. Well, I probably knew it was available somewhere but I had zero human beings in my life who actually gave a sh** about my close-to-breakdown, and fewer than zero who could guide me. Go. If you want, of course. But I think you are a lucky guy to have the chance, and I wish for you the very, very best. I look forward to listening to you on this site and how you are doing. It's so good to see John T. here, too. All of us here, we are but sojourners. Bless us for what we're suffering through. Love from AnneJ.

At 5:48pm on January 31, 2017, Carl accomando said…
That's to bad I would like to have met you we both share a devastating loss only someone who is going through it understands .so you no longer live in Virginia?
At 4:53pm on January 31, 2017, Carl accomando said…
Hi Michael, Carl here I'm coming to Roanoke Wed, if you want to talk I'd like that and it might be good for both of us we are both grieving for our wives I know it's helpful to talk to someone in the same situation .please let me know it may help
At 9:43pm on January 30, 2017, Kevin Bailey said…

Hey Michael, as much as I try to hide my pain I just can't. It gets to the point at times where it feels like I'm gonna have a breakdown because I can't handle it. It truly helps to talk with other people who truly understand this pain. take care my friend.

At 8:37pm on January 25, 2017, John T. said…

A psychiatrist had me on so much Xanax the first 4 months that I wasn't even counting how many.  I think that's how managed to take care of what I had to and load up and move.  For over a year, I didn't drink at all.  I finally got off Xanax a year ago in January and started drinking too much beer.  I have lost 30 pounds, gained 40, and lost 30 over the past 18 months.  I'm healthy and feel I'm throwing that away by being so inactive.  It's not by choice.  This has been a rollercoaster ride through hell and I'm trapped most of the time.

At 4:30pm on January 23, 2017, Carl accomando said…
Hi Michael I'll be in Roanoke tuesday,Wednesday, Thursday if you want t to get a beer or something. Let me know.Carl
At 10:40am on January 14, 2017, Carl accomando said…
Hi Michael we talked here several weeks ago my wife passed I'm November I'm visiting here in Roanoke this weekend with my kids,wondering if you wanted to get together .Leg me know it might be a good thing. CARL ACCOMANDO
At 10:25am on January 14, 2017, Carl accomando said…
I'm here in roanoke wondering if you want to get together let me know .carl
At 5:55am on January 8, 2017, brenda mcintyre said…

Hi Michael.....I lost my husband of 27 years in oct too. it was sudden unexpected and so very tragic. I am struggling to live day to day. I cry all the time and fall apart so much its hard to count. I thought me and my husband could get through anything but I was wrong. now I live in agony everyday. just not wanting to do or go anywhere. I do have 2 fantastic kids both young adults and they struggle too. I feel like I let them down because I can hardly function let alone support them in their grief. looks like all of us are just struggling to survive and hoping not to..

 
 
 

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