"bluebird, I was visiting my sister today and she brought up a cat I had a dozen years ago. He was my best friend a very special little guy. All of the sudden, I started crying and she looked shocked. Next week is my wife's…"
"Richard, I identify with much of what you have written. The frustration that explodes as anger as you grow desperate to express your deepest feelings. The anger that hurts the one you love and you fear so profoundly that it's…"
"KIM, it's 2 years and 6 months or so since I lost my wife and in the last couple of weeks I've been finally tearing open boxes and trying to put things away where I live now. It's taken all that time to even begin to look at the…"
"Since last Christmas, I've been drinking far more than I should to get through the day. No one in the family cares because I'm pleasant, social, funny, and talkative. As long as I don't remind them of death, no problem.…"
"Another holiday coming up and my sister had to go to the emergency room with an infection. When I went to the information desk, I asked for my wife's room number and then couldn't think of my sister's name. I feel like the…"
"Thank you so much, M Adams. I hadn't thought of that and thank you for remembering her profession and thinking of how much she touched the lives of others. Honestly, that's a blessing to me. I don't think I would…"
"M Adams, I was touched by you writing that it helps when people say they miss your husband. I have never heard anyone say that about my wife. My family acts as if she never existed. At least that's my perception. They…"
"Jerry, I find some comfort knowing that my wife will never have to go through this incredible pain and bottomless sense of loss. I would hate to leave her alone and as devastated as I've been for so long."
"Jerry, the thing that's impossible for me to accept is my wife was beside me, alive and happy, and in a moment she was gone. That's just beyond comprehension even now, over two years later. How can she be gone? The…"
"I had the most horrific nightmare last night. I have only dreamed of my wife a few times but this has really shaken me. We were at work and I was looking into Diane's face and trying to tell her I can't remember your name.…"
"Yesterday was awful. I have no idea why but I kept having memories of my wife's last moments as I knelt beside her on the sidewalk and tried to perform CPR. The image of the light fading from her eyes is overwhelming. Thank…"
"Last night my sister was talking to me about finally unpacking and fixing up the place where I live a little. I just listened. I don't want to unpack all the memories right now and there are two boxes marked "Christmas" I…"
Wife died September, 2014, suddenly and unexpectedly, at age 52. We both were licensed child and family therapists and had a practice for 25 years together. The world fell apart that day and the last two years have been the most difficult time in my life. Although I have been around death a great deal through hospice work and losing my mother and father, I could never imagine anything like this. It's simply beyond description.
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"Her is an interesting resource. (just click or tap on the link)
It discusses the Bibles view of Death. Why we die, but especially the hope that the Bible gives us about the future.
I hope it helps with some hope and comfort.
When a Loved One Dies"
"Haha Trav, She won't let you lol. I've tried. They want Us to fulfill this life before chasing them to the next. I suggest cactus treatment. Maybe even microdosing psilocybin for the reoccurring pain that will never go away. You'll…"
Annette's been dead just under eight months. My grieving hasn't stopped. I try but I keep getting worse mentally and physically. My groin has swollen more and now due to the fluid build its reaching past my knees. Grotesque doesn't come close to the sight of my misshapen body. I am a freak who is stared at whenever I manage to find the slight strength to go out. So it got me to thinking. As homely as I am, as disgusting as I have become, I remember those three words my wife and I lived with…See More
"Hearing about people's cats makes me want to say the name of our dear little cat Spooky. She was one of those sweet cats that wait for you at the door, recognize the sound of your car approaching, and come when you call...so of course we were…"
NOTE: My blogs are not posted with the intention of promoting any organization or religion. The goal of these blogs are to provide the same comfort I received for the death of a loved one. Enjoy.Death is a fearsome enemy. We fight it with all our might. We may try to deny it when it strikes someone dear to us. Or, in the exuberance of youth, we may imagine that the enemy will never come to claim us—a delusion we cling to as long as we can.Few thought more about immortality than the ancient…See More
"I have been so lonely the past two days. Have no desire to do anything right now. Spent some time out in my garden, but that didn't help too much...just got a call from my son. Said he'll be back soon (30 minutes).…"
"I lost my son Dalton, June 16, 2017. He was riding his Motorcycle, lost control and hit a concrete light pole. He died instantly. He was quite a character, one of a kind. He was the warrior for the underdog, a sponge for any type of knowledge…"
"Jordan, there are some churches that have grief meetings. I have been considering it, but I thought I would wait a while. My grief is very new since my son died last month. This is something you have been carrying for years. The memory box from your…"
I understand. Aside from Summer and Benny, I still get sad about the loss of our dog Sandy, who we had when I was a kid and through my college years. She died when I was in college, and I still love and miss her. I don't…"
This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.See More