John T.
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  • Oceanside, CA
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John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"bluebird, I was visiting my sister today and she brought up a cat I had a dozen years ago.  He was my best friend a very special little guy.  All of the sudden, I started crying and she looked shocked.  Next week is my wife's…"
Sunday
John T. replied to Richard Rivera's discussion FIGHTING THE GUILT AND DEPTHS OF DEPRESSION in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Richard, I identify with much of what you have written.  The frustration that explodes as anger as you grow desperate to express your deepest feelings.  The anger that hurts the one you love and you fear so profoundly that it's…"
Jun 28
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"KIM, it's 2 years and 6 months or so since I lost my wife and in the last couple of weeks I've been finally tearing open boxes and trying to put things away where I live now.  It's taken all that time to even begin to look at the…"
Jun 11
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Since last Christmas, I've been drinking far more than I should to get through the day.  No one in the family cares because I'm pleasant, social, funny, and talkative.  As long as I don't remind them of death, no problem.…"
May 21
M Adams left a comment for John T.
"Hi John, belated thanks for accepting my friend request, best wishes, M. Adams"
May 16
John T. and M Adams are now friends
May 6
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Another holiday coming up and my sister had to go to the emergency room with an infection.  When I went to the information desk, I asked for my wife's room number and then couldn't think of my sister's name.  I feel like the…"
Apr 12
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you so much, M Adams.  I hadn't thought of that and thank you for remembering her profession and thinking of how much she touched the lives of others.  Honestly, that's a blessing to me.  I don't think I would…"
Apr 9
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"M Adams, I was touched by you writing that it helps when people say they miss your husband.  I have never heard anyone say that about my wife.  My family acts as if she never existed.  At least that's my perception.  They…"
Apr 9
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jerry, I find some comfort knowing that my wife will never have to go through this incredible pain and bottomless sense of loss.  I would hate to leave her alone and as devastated as I've been for so long."
Apr 7
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jerry, the thing that's impossible for me to accept is my wife was beside me, alive and happy, and in a moment she was gone.  That's just beyond comprehension even now, over two years later.  How can she be gone?  The…"
Apr 7
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I had the most horrific nightmare last night.  I have only dreamed of my wife a few times but this has really shaken me.  We were at work and I was looking into Diane's face and trying to tell her I can't remember your name.…"
Mar 12
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Mel and Michael, While I'm glad I'm not alone in this experience, I sincerely wish we didn't share such memories.  Thanks."
Feb 23
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Feb 23
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Yesterday was awful.  I have no idea why but I kept having memories of my wife's last moments as I knelt beside her on the sidewalk and tried to perform CPR.  The image of the light fading from her eyes is overwhelming.  Thank…"
Feb 21
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Last night my sister was talking to me about finally unpacking and fixing up the place where I live a little.  I just listened.  I don't want to unpack all the memories right now and there are two boxes marked "Christmas" I…"
Feb 18

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About my Loss:
Wife died September, 2014, suddenly and unexpectedly, at age 52. We both were licensed child and family therapists and had a practice for 25 years together. The world fell apart that day and the last two years have been the most difficult time in my life. Although I have been around death a great deal through hospice work and losing my mother and father, I could never imagine anything like this. It's simply beyond description.

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At 3:51pm on May 16, 2017, M Adams said…
Hi John, belated thanks for accepting my friend request, best wishes,

M. Adams
At 8:40pm on December 24, 2016, AnneJ said…

Hi, John. It's good to see you again. I've thought about you often and I know the others have, too. Best wishes, AnneJ

 
 
 

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Linda Engberg replied to Linda Engberg's discussion No one cares after spouses death.
"That was beautifully said Jon-Paull"
6 hours ago
Dennis C. replied to Trina H's discussion Coping with the death of my baby girl
"Her is an interesting resource. (just click or tap on the link) It discusses the Bibles view of Death. Why we die, but especially the hope that the Bible gives us about the future. I hope it helps with some hope and comfort. When a Loved One Dies"
7 hours ago
Jon-Paul Ackerman replied to trav's discussion Death of a soulmate(spouse) : Single, Suicide or moving on in life?
"Haha Trav, She won't let you lol. I've tried. They want Us to fulfill this life before chasing them to the next. I suggest cactus treatment. Maybe even microdosing psilocybin for the reoccurring pain that will never go away. You'll…"
15 hours ago
Jon-Paul Ackerman replied to Linda Engberg's discussion No one cares after spouses death.
"No. Nobody cares. We have nobody. All we have is Our decisions. The One we love most never leaves Us. We have become One. Is the beauty of true marriage. Not even death can do Us part."
15 hours ago
Richard Rivera added a discussion to the group Lost My Spouse...
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THOSE THREE WORDS: "I LOVE YOU"

Annette's been dead just under eight months. My grieving hasn't stopped. I try but I keep getting worse mentally and physically. My groin has swollen more and now due to the fluid build its reaching past my knees. Grotesque doesn't come close to the sight of my misshapen body. I am a freak who is stared at whenever I manage to find the slight strength to go out. So it got me to thinking. As homely as I am, as disgusting as I have become, I remember those three words my wife and I lived with…See More
16 hours ago
M Adams commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hearing about people's cats makes me want to say the name of our dear little cat Spooky. She was one of those sweet cats that wait for you at the door, recognize the sound of your car approaching, and come when you call...so of course we were…"
yesterday
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hi Irina, I have over 20 diferent types of shirts with missing my Husband quotes They show the different ones on the advertisments on Facebook Linda"
yesterday
Mike H. posted a blog post

Mankind’s Fight Against Mortality

NOTE: My blogs are not posted with the intention of promoting any organization or religion. The goal of these blogs are to provide the same comfort I received for the death of a loved one. Enjoy.Death is a fearsome enemy. We fight it with all our might. We may try to deny it when it strikes someone dear to us. Or, in the exuberance of youth, we may imagine that the enemy will never come to claim us—a delusion we cling to as long as we can.Few thought more about immortality than the ancient…See More
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Mike H. updated their profile
yesterday
irina s joined kimberly rowe's group
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mY sOuLmAtE, mY bEsTfRiEnD,mY sUpErMaN,mY eVeRyThInG

this is ment for the people who have lost the closest thing to them it doesnt matter if its a person or an animal it's stilla lost and they all hurt
yesterday
Elynn m commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I have been so lonely the past two days.   Have no desire to do anything right now.  Spent some time out in my garden, but that didn't help too much...just got a call from my son.  Said he'll be back soon (30 minutes).…"
yesterday
Pearl Irene replied to Karen's discussion Please share your Story = the Loss of your Son or Daughter in the group Missing my Son or Daughter
"I lost my son Dalton, June 16, 2017. He was riding his Motorcycle, lost control and hit a concrete light pole. He died instantly. He was quite a character, one of a kind. He was the warrior for the underdog, a sponge for any type of knowledge…"
yesterday
Pearl Irene joined Karen's group
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Missing my Son or Daughter

For all of us that are suffering the loss a son or daughter.
yesterday
Pearl Irene replied to jordan's discussion I don't no what to do anymore
"Jordan, there are some churches that have grief meetings. I have been considering it, but I thought I would wait a while. My grief is very new since my son died last month. This is something you have been carrying for years. The memory box from your…"
yesterday
Lost with out him posted a status
"I am now suffering PTSD about the actual "death". I cannot get that vision out of my head. I tried to save him.."
yesterday
bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"John, I understand.  Aside from Summer and Benny, I still get sad about the loss of our dog Sandy, who we had when I was a kid and through my college years.  She died when I was in college, and I still love and miss her.  I don't…"
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Wednesday
KIM Montgomery commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"Cancer sucks.  My husband didn't even last 6 months."
Wednesday
KIM Montgomery joined Katherine Ellis's group
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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.See More
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