"A few days ago, our old car blew a head gasket on the freeway as I was on the way for a consultation with a doctor about skin cancer. I am a baby about it even though it's not life-threatening. Another of those times when I feel so…"
"It was when they sang "Stand By Me" that I turned it off. I never heard that song presented in that way and suddenly the words had profound meaning. Then I started thinking how much my wife would have loved watching the wedding…"
"Today was the Kentucky Derby and my wife loved it. On no other day was she interested in horse racing but on this Saturday, she would sit for hours and watch the story of the horses and be entranced. Lord, such a silly thing for such an…"
"There are times when it's just overwhelming and the pain is intense. Today, for no reason at all, I keep muttering "how could you just die?" If there had been a choice, I know she wouldn't have left me on my…"
"All the family went different directions tonight and left me to hand out candy to the kids. Unfortunately, they have a huge liquor cabinet. Year three and even Halloween pulls the rug out from under my feet."
Wife died September, 2014, suddenly and unexpectedly, at age 52. We both were licensed child and family therapists and had a practice for 25 years together. The world fell apart that day and the last two years have been the most difficult time in my life. Although I have been around death a great deal through hospice work and losing my mother and father, I could never imagine anything like this. It's simply beyond description.
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"Avi, I feel like you are going through a rough time right now. You're not alone. One of the great things about a site like this is that you are a world away but I know who you are and I know that you are missing your mom just as much as I am.…"
"My mom worried about every detail of my life. There are some who would say that is intrusive. I felt that she was just being a mom. I miss that so much. I had the flu last year. I was laying in that bed and all I could hear was silence. My mom would…"
"Good morning Adams. It is 9:40 AM in India and I am at my job and trying to concentrate hard as my Mom always wanted.
I have almost stopped complaining of anything in life now as I have already lost my most precious gift. Now what ever I have…"
"Avi, the fact that you were close enough with your mother to share your negative feelings about your job shows real intimacy, which I think is what loving mothers treasure above all else. So hard accepting that we will not hear that beloved…"
"Even my mother always used to say that live your life fully but I was always complaining on some matters. She used to worry about me the most as I was not stable in my job and used to talk about quitting it often. She always used to say, love your…"
"Alice, I regret not getting it together to write on Dec 2nd as I recall that was your anniversary of your husbands death date. I have just been swimming upstream through the rapids. Each year during the "seasonal"…"
"You know what when my mom could not be resuscitated, her eyes were wide open and looking toward the right towards me as I walked in, she saw me I know it. I shut her eyes. I wanted the hospital staff to leave me alone. They were…"
"SelV, your mom would have had it no other way. She saw you take your first breath. You saw her take her last. I experienced that as well. If I had my way, I would have gone before my mom. Is that selfish of me? Yes. I don't care. Losing mom was…"
"Dear all...the thought "What if I had died due to unforeseen circumstances and my elderly widowed mother had to grief my death?" crossed my mind many times. Knowing my mother, her world (of me and her) would have collapsed and she would…"
"I think you're right, Theresa. We are a sad bunch. I think our moms would be touched that we love them so much, but they would probably also want us to be happy and move on. I just don't think that's possible, nor do I believe that my…"
"So I have been really busy at work and with moving, but of course at night when I get in bed I cry and cry.
I finally have come to realize this will be the new normal I guess, I do not think I will every stop missing my mom ever..."
Cancer is indeed a plague. Death from cancer is only part of the story. The journey from diagnosis to death is horrific and overwhelming. Even though cancer effects a lot of people, there are so many that just don't understand how…"