John T.
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  • Oceanside, CA
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John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Since last Christmas, I've been drinking far more than I should to get through the day.  No one in the family cares because I'm pleasant, social, funny, and talkative.  As long as I don't remind them of death, no problem.…"
May 21
M Adams left a comment for John T.
"Hi John, belated thanks for accepting my friend request, best wishes, M. Adams"
May 16
John T. and M Adams are now friends
May 6
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Another holiday coming up and my sister had to go to the emergency room with an infection.  When I went to the information desk, I asked for my wife's room number and then couldn't think of my sister's name.  I feel like the…"
Apr 12
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you so much, M Adams.  I hadn't thought of that and thank you for remembering her profession and thinking of how much she touched the lives of others.  Honestly, that's a blessing to me.  I don't think I would…"
Apr 9
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"M Adams, I was touched by you writing that it helps when people say they miss your husband.  I have never heard anyone say that about my wife.  My family acts as if she never existed.  At least that's my perception.  They…"
Apr 9
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jerry, I find some comfort knowing that my wife will never have to go through this incredible pain and bottomless sense of loss.  I would hate to leave her alone and as devastated as I've been for so long."
Apr 7
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jerry, the thing that's impossible for me to accept is my wife was beside me, alive and happy, and in a moment she was gone.  That's just beyond comprehension even now, over two years later.  How can she be gone?  The…"
Apr 7
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I had the most horrific nightmare last night.  I have only dreamed of my wife a few times but this has really shaken me.  We were at work and I was looking into Diane's face and trying to tell her I can't remember your name.…"
Mar 12
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Mel and Michael, While I'm glad I'm not alone in this experience, I sincerely wish we didn't share such memories.  Thanks."
Feb 23
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Feb 23
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Yesterday was awful.  I have no idea why but I kept having memories of my wife's last moments as I knelt beside her on the sidewalk and tried to perform CPR.  The image of the light fading from her eyes is overwhelming.  Thank…"
Feb 21
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Last night my sister was talking to me about finally unpacking and fixing up the place where I live a little.  I just listened.  I don't want to unpack all the memories right now and there are two boxes marked "Christmas" I…"
Feb 18
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Linda, as depressing as that thought is, I have been thinking that for the past couple of months.  It's as if I'm just waiting for it to happen around me.  After my father's death when I was 10, I had nightmares all through…"
Feb 12
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Elynn, I have never regretted it.  It has worked out well and I can see it was for the best."
Jan 27
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Bluebird, I think I know what you mean.  I get exhausted trying to chit chat.  It just seems superficial and pointless.  I figured out right away that my family would rather I didn't bring up what's really going on with me…"
Jan 25

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About my Loss:
Wife died September, 2014, suddenly and unexpectedly, at age 52. We both were licensed child and family therapists and had a practice for 25 years together. The world fell apart that day and the last two years have been the most difficult time in my life. Although I have been around death a great deal through hospice work and losing my mother and father, I could never imagine anything like this. It's simply beyond description.

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At 3:51pm on May 16, 2017, M Adams said…
Hi John, belated thanks for accepting my friend request, best wishes,

M. Adams
At 8:40pm on December 24, 2016, AnneJ said…

Hi, John. It's good to see you again. I've thought about you often and I know the others have, too. Best wishes, AnneJ

 
 
 

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Bethany posted a blog post

Rise of the Machines...

I was just finishing typing a long entry about how upset I am about my laptop dying and the potential loss of all of my files, including all of my mom's photos and many other important things, when my browser crashed and I lost my draft. Technology is out to get me this weekend. I give up.See More
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lorna bass posted a status
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joanne replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"Thankyou Dennis xx"
6 hours ago
Lesley Woolfstein commented on Tonya's group Adult Daughters grieving the death of her Mother
"My mum passed away on the 20th of April I was so close to my mum as I lived with my mum all of my life my mum passed away shortly before her 85th birthday im 56 how do u cope with this all im doing is crying all the time I would do anything to spend…"
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Lesley Woolfstein joined Tonya's group
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Adult Daughters grieving the death of her Mother

This group is for adult daughters trying to cope with losing her Mother
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BLUEBELL and Lesley Woolfstein are now friends
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BLUEBELL commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Lesley. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom in February. When I think back over the past few months, I have seen white feathers on the ground were I live. I had no idea of the significance until I looked it up just now.  How are you…"
8 hours ago
Dennis C. replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"Joanne The brain is an amazing thing. I have known cases where it just felt like there was no way the patient could hear, but when they recovered it was clear that they did hear. I ALWAYS proceed with the confidence that the patient can hear what…"
9 hours ago
Lesley Woolfstein commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"My mum passed away on the 20th of April ive lived with my mum all of my life im constant crying all of the time what are you suppose to do when you have lost your mum any body else out there received a white feather "
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Lesley Woolfstein joined Karen's group
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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
14 hours ago
Lynda replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"Thanks Richard, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. I'm quite open minded which is why I asked the question. I really do want to know what others think/feel. I guess I'm still just trying to decide what I believe. I'm just not…"
20 hours ago
Richard Rivera replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"Explanations. Yet many of NDE 's recount seeing dead relatives who died before them as well as seeing those relatives and family who died whom they've never met or Relatives who only later after they were resuscitated that they discovered…"
yesterday
Richard Rivera replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"Dennis: I'm not a religious person by no means. It doesn't mean that I can't be a spiritual person. I have spoken to many people regarding their experience of life after death and they cannot explain it. Oh sure the "lack of…"
yesterday
silvia maria posted a blog post

When life doesn´t go MY WAY

Ok that´s odd. I have 3 fractured ribs. My drs and I had a hard time to grap the motive, a simple fall from my own height for a medicine peak of low blood pressure. What is even more amazing is how the people around us react when we don´t know what´s wrong but know there is suffering and pain. You know the type....the types of people who think she must be exagerating, or pitiful for a second or regretting their own attitude. What does it say about them? I think that´s why we feel like wild…See More
yesterday
Lynda replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"Thanks for the comforting words Dennis, I sure hope you are right."
yesterday
Lynda replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"AnneJ, what a well written and thoughtful reply to my question.  I will be borrowing your words if you don't mind: "We die...it's nature , it's normal if we didn't have such feelings of dependence on each other which is…"
yesterday
rachel_micele replied to Mel Royer's discussion Signs from the other side
"Thank you for posting Mel. That's wonderful Nancy visited and made clear her presence to you."
yesterday
joanne replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"I don't think anybody has the answer to this question , but I choose to believe that there is something else.Before Andy died I used to think when you die it's the end, there's nothing, but now I've had many vivid dreams,…"
Friday
joanne replied to Lynda's discussion For the non- religious- where do we go when we die?
"Dennis, I just wanted to ask you your opinion because you say you spent lots of times visiting people in hospital and say that patients of all conditions can hear us, do you think that my husband could hear me, he suffered a cardiac arrest, but was…"
Friday

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