"Since last Christmas, I've been drinking far more than I should to get through the day. No one in the family cares because I'm pleasant, social, funny, and talkative. As long as I don't remind them of death, no problem.…"
"Another holiday coming up and my sister had to go to the emergency room with an infection. When I went to the information desk, I asked for my wife's room number and then couldn't think of my sister's name. I feel like the…"
"Thank you so much, M Adams. I hadn't thought of that and thank you for remembering her profession and thinking of how much she touched the lives of others. Honestly, that's a blessing to me. I don't think I would…"
"M Adams, I was touched by you writing that it helps when people say they miss your husband. I have never heard anyone say that about my wife. My family acts as if she never existed. At least that's my perception. They…"
"Jerry, I find some comfort knowing that my wife will never have to go through this incredible pain and bottomless sense of loss. I would hate to leave her alone and as devastated as I've been for so long."
"Jerry, the thing that's impossible for me to accept is my wife was beside me, alive and happy, and in a moment she was gone. That's just beyond comprehension even now, over two years later. How can she be gone? The…"
"I had the most horrific nightmare last night. I have only dreamed of my wife a few times but this has really shaken me. We were at work and I was looking into Diane's face and trying to tell her I can't remember your name.…"
"Yesterday was awful. I have no idea why but I kept having memories of my wife's last moments as I knelt beside her on the sidewalk and tried to perform CPR. The image of the light fading from her eyes is overwhelming. Thank…"
"Last night my sister was talking to me about finally unpacking and fixing up the place where I live a little. I just listened. I don't want to unpack all the memories right now and there are two boxes marked "Christmas" I…"
"Linda, as depressing as that thought is, I have been thinking that for the past couple of months. It's as if I'm just waiting for it to happen around me. After my father's death when I was 10, I had nightmares all through…"
"Bluebird, I think I know what you mean. I get exhausted trying to chit chat. It just seems superficial and pointless. I figured out right away that my family would rather I didn't bring up what's really going on with me…"
Wife died September, 2014, suddenly and unexpectedly, at age 52. We both were licensed child and family therapists and had a practice for 25 years together. The world fell apart that day and the last two years have been the most difficult time in my life. Although I have been around death a great deal through hospice work and losing my mother and father, I could never imagine anything like this. It's simply beyond description.
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I was just finishing typing a long entry about how upset I am about my laptop dying and the potential loss of all of my files, including all of my mom's photos and many other important things, when my browser crashed and I lost my draft. Technology is out to get me this weekend. I give up.See More
"My mum passed away on the 20th of April I was so close to my mum as I lived with my mum all of my life my mum passed away shortly before her 85th birthday im 56 how do u cope with this all im doing is crying all the time I would do anything to spend…"
"Lesley. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom in February. When I think back over the past few months, I have seen white feathers on the ground were I live. I had no idea of the significance until I looked it up just now.
How are you…"
The brain is an amazing thing. I have known cases where it just felt like there was no way the patient could hear, but when they recovered it was clear that they did hear.
I ALWAYS proceed with the confidence that the patient can hear what…"
"My mum passed away on the 20th of April ive lived with my mum all of my life im constant crying all of the time what are you suppose to do when you have lost your mum any body else out there received a white feather "
"Thanks Richard, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. I'm quite open minded which is why I asked the question. I really do want to know what others think/feel. I guess I'm still just trying to decide what I believe. I'm just not…"
"Explanations. Yet many of
NDE 's recount seeing dead relatives who died before them as well as seeing those relatives and family who died whom they've never met or Relatives who only later after they were resuscitated that they discovered…"
I'm not a religious person by no means. It doesn't mean that I can't be a spiritual person.
I have spoken to many people regarding their experience of life after death and they cannot explain it. Oh sure the "lack of…"
Ok that´s odd. I have 3 fractured ribs. My drs and I had a hard time to grap the motive, a simple fall from my own height for a medicine peak of low blood pressure. What is even more amazing is how the people around us react when we don´t know what´s wrong but know there is suffering and pain. You know the type....the types of people who think she must be exagerating, or pitiful for a second or regretting their own attitude. What does it say about them? I think that´s why we feel like wild…See More
"AnneJ, what a well written and thoughtful reply to my question. I will be borrowing your words if you don't mind:
"We die...it's nature , it's normal if we didn't have such feelings of dependence on each other which is…"
"I don't think anybody has the answer to this question , but I choose to believe that there is something else.Before Andy died I used to think when you die it's the end, there's nothing, but now I've had many vivid dreams,…"
"Dennis, I just wanted to ask you your opinion because you say you spent lots of times visiting people in hospital and say that patients of all conditions can hear us, do you think that my husband could hear me, he suffered a cardiac arrest, but was…"