John T.
  • Male
  • Oceanside, CA
  • United States
Share

John T.'s Friends

  • M Adams
  • George H
  • morgan

John T.'s Groups

Gifts Received

Gift

John T. has not received any gifts yet

Give a Gift

 

Welcome, John T.

Latest Activity

John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"It's amazing the power of food shared together has.  I have broken down in the grocery store many times, almost every time I went during the first year.  Some things I can't go near and others give me great comfort.  I…"
yesterday
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Three years ago today I lost Diane and all I can think today is it's been that long since I've talked to her.  I'm not sure how I made it to this point or the point to me having made it.  It's so very long and yet it…"
Sep 6
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Two months.  You're still feeling it simply isn't possible she's gone.  I don't even like to try and remember what that feeling was like.  It was beyond any pain I ever felt.  So many times during those first…"
Sep 3
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hello AnneJ and everyone,  In a couple of weeks it will be 3 years since I lost all that mattered to me.  Six months ago I started unpacking and hung some pictures where I live now.  I did it out of embarrassment rather than a desire…"
Aug 17
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"bluebird, I was visiting my sister today and she brought up a cat I had a dozen years ago.  He was my best friend a very special little guy.  All of the sudden, I started crying and she looked shocked.  Next week is my wife's…"
Jul 16
John T. replied to Richard Rivera's discussion FIGHTING THE GUILT AND DEPTHS OF DEPRESSION in the group Lost My Spouse...
"Richard, I identify with much of what you have written.  The frustration that explodes as anger as you grow desperate to express your deepest feelings.  The anger that hurts the one you love and you fear so profoundly that it's…"
Jun 28
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"KIM, it's 2 years and 6 months or so since I lost my wife and in the last couple of weeks I've been finally tearing open boxes and trying to put things away where I live now.  It's taken all that time to even begin to look at the…"
Jun 11
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Since last Christmas, I've been drinking far more than I should to get through the day.  No one in the family cares because I'm pleasant, social, funny, and talkative.  As long as I don't remind them of death, no problem.…"
May 21
M Adams left a comment for John T.
"Hi John, belated thanks for accepting my friend request, best wishes, M. Adams"
May 16
John T. and M Adams are now friends
May 6
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Another holiday coming up and my sister had to go to the emergency room with an infection.  When I went to the information desk, I asked for my wife's room number and then couldn't think of my sister's name.  I feel like the…"
Apr 12
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thank you so much, M Adams.  I hadn't thought of that and thank you for remembering her profession and thinking of how much she touched the lives of others.  Honestly, that's a blessing to me.  I don't think I would…"
Apr 9
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"M Adams, I was touched by you writing that it helps when people say they miss your husband.  I have never heard anyone say that about my wife.  My family acts as if she never existed.  At least that's my perception.  They…"
Apr 9
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jerry, I find some comfort knowing that my wife will never have to go through this incredible pain and bottomless sense of loss.  I would hate to leave her alone and as devastated as I've been for so long."
Apr 7
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Jerry, the thing that's impossible for me to accept is my wife was beside me, alive and happy, and in a moment she was gone.  That's just beyond comprehension even now, over two years later.  How can she be gone?  The…"
Apr 7
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I had the most horrific nightmare last night.  I have only dreamed of my wife a few times but this has really shaken me.  We were at work and I was looking into Diane's face and trying to tell her I can't remember your name.…"
Mar 12

Profile Information

About my Loss:
Wife died September, 2014, suddenly and unexpectedly, at age 52. We both were licensed child and family therapists and had a practice for 25 years together. The world fell apart that day and the last two years have been the most difficult time in my life. Although I have been around death a great deal through hospice work and losing my mother and father, I could never imagine anything like this. It's simply beyond description.

Comment Wall (1 comment)

You need to be a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community to add comments!

Join Online Grief Support - A Social Community

At 3:51pm on May 16, 2017, M Adams said…
Hi John, belated thanks for accepting my friend request, best wishes,

M. Adams
 
 
 

Latest Activity

Trina Mamoon commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Dear bluebird, There are no words to offer you as you mark the fifth anniversary of your beloved husband's passing. I can only say that I feel deeply for you, and my heart aches at your pain. I know the feeling you are describing only too well.…"
9 hours ago
Amy Cowan joined Karen's group
Thumbnail

I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
10 hours ago
MIchael Ortiz commented on Bethany's blog post Drowning...
"Its been 3 months since I lost my love. I had to do it alone. I hope you have family or someone you can just vent and they just listen.I still feel pain and ups and downs.One second I think I am better and boom.Have no clue what sets it off. Do what…"
11 hours ago
bluebird commented on Bethany's blog post Drowning...
"You aren't doing it to yourself -- your grief and your loss are doing it to you.  It sucks, but that's what grief and loss do.  It's quite common to feel that things are getting better for a while, and then find yourself…"
11 hours ago
Alice Thompson commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I'm so sorry, Bluebird. The mornings are a nightmare, I agree, but the late evenings, that prospect of slipping into unconsciousness (if only it could be permanent)can be such a relief. Your steadfast, committed love for your husband shines out…"
11 hours ago
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Crystal, you know that you are not being the least bit irrational. My mom died on Christmas Eve. We all knew that it would be mom's last Christmas. She called him and asked him when he was coming. He said, "I'm not. My roommate is…"
13 hours ago
Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Exactly bluebird."
14 hours ago
bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I have to say, Nancy, I envy you the 43 years. My husband and I were together for nearly 13 years, but married for only one week when he died (massive, unexpected heart attack).  But no matter how long a couple is together, when they are truly…"
14 hours ago
Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I'm exactly where you are bluebird. Only it's only been 4 months. We were married 43 years. Got married young. I know no other life."
14 hours ago
bluebird commented on Mike H.'s blog post Repost: Is It Wrong to Grieve?
"No, of course it is not wrong to grieve.  My husband died 5 years ago today, and I will never stop grieving.  The course of grief and the response(s) to it are different for each person, and no one should ever tell another that…"
15 hours ago
bluebird commented on Beckie Preston's blog post Lost
"Do you have family and/or friends you can turn to for help?  Do you intend to continue with your pregnancy, and, if so, do you plan to keep and raise the baby? I think the emotional support of loved ones would be very helpful to you right now,…"
15 hours ago
bluebird replied to Gabby Freeland's discussion I gave up before everyone else did
"I don't think you should feel bad.  When someone is ill for a long time, it's natural to start grieving quite a long time before that person actually dies.  Besides, you felt that way in part because you didn't want your mum…"
15 hours ago
bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Today marks exactly five years since my husband died.  I still wish I had died when he did. For me, it's not the nights that are the worst part, it's the mornings.  Of course I do miss him at night -- I miss cuddling with him, I…"
15 hours ago
Crystal K commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Had better days than today.  My sister decides to move to my mom's native home for six months with her kids to renovate the house and in my head I'm yelling at her 'what's the use now. she's dead.'  My mom…"
16 hours ago
Patty replied to Karen's discussion STUPID things people say... " Vent Here " in the group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Wow, that is one of the stupidest things I have ever heard.    "
yesterday
Patty commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"I just passed 7 years.  Everything Karen said below is ditto for me :'("
yesterday
Karen commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Sadly I seldom come to this page... I am so sorry about that ---  -I just hit a wall at some point where I realized I had nothing helpful to share & did not want to add to anyones pain.  -Brad's 10 year anniversary is drawing…"
yesterday
Karen replied to Karen's discussion STUPID things people say... " Vent Here " in the group Missing my Son or Daughter
"All these years later ... And when I do leave my house (as I have become so recluse) ---- I still hear insensitive comments just last week - I was told that not only was this gods plan I agreed to it before I was ever born.   ---- Where do…"
yesterday
Karen is now friends with Judith Borenin and Rita Estes
yesterday
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"It's amazing the power of food shared together has.  I have broken down in the grocery store many times, almost every time I went during the first year.  Some things I can't go near and others give me great comfort.  I…"
yesterday

© 2017   Created by Diana, Grief Counselor.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service