John T.
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  • Oceanside, CA
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John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"I went to a family gathering for the 4th and was surprised with a birthday party.  My sister died the day before my birthday so it was a heartfelt effort.  I felt sick through the whole experience and I'm sure I didn't hide my…"
Jul 6
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"It's been a while and I don't remember exactly how this works.  It's coming up on 5 years that my wife collapsed and died in front of me.  Yesterday I watched my 85-year-old sister die in agony.  I thought she should…"
Jun 26
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"A few days ago, our old car blew a head gasket on the freeway as I was on the way for a consultation with a doctor about skin cancer.  I am a baby about it even though it's not life-threatening.  Another of those times when I feel so…"
Nov 12, 2018
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"It was when they sang "Stand By Me" that I turned it off.  I never heard that song presented in that way and suddenly the words had profound meaning.  Then I started thinking how much my wife would have loved watching the wedding…"
May 19, 2018
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Today was the Kentucky Derby and my wife loved it.  On no other day was she interested in horse racing but on this Saturday, she would sit for hours and watch the story of the horses and be entranced.  Lord, such a silly thing for such an…"
May 5, 2018
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Thanks, M Adams.  When half the team is gone, it's devastating.  When half of who you are is gone, there seems to be no way to deal with it.  "
Nov 12, 2017
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"There are times when it's just overwhelming and the pain is intense.  Today, for no reason at all, I keep muttering "how could you just die?"  If there had been a choice, I know she wouldn't have left me on my…"
Nov 12, 2017
John T. commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"All the family went different directions tonight and left me to hand out candy to the kids.  Unfortunately, they have a huge liquor cabinet.  Year three and even Halloween pulls the rug out from under my feet."
Oct 31, 2017

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About my Loss:
Wife died September, 2014, suddenly and unexpectedly, at age 52. We both were licensed child and family therapists and had a practice for 25 years together. The world fell apart that day and the last two years have been the most difficult time in my life. Although I have been around death a great deal through hospice work and losing my mother and father, I could never imagine anything like this. It's simply beyond description.

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At 3:51pm on May 16, 2017, M Adams said…
Hi John, belated thanks for accepting my friend request, best wishes,

M. Adams
 
 
 

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Dolly commented on Kar's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Do we ever stop having those days that seem just like the day it all happened? when nothing else seems real and all we feel is the pain again? does it ever just not happen any more? "
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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Part 2Linda, yes and yes, I "laugh on the outside and cry on the inside".  And the laugh (or just plain conversation) is just part of how I cope for when I have to be around others.  But it means nothing.  It’s like we…"
6 hours ago
morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Part 1 Bless you and thanks to each one of you who keep writing about how you feel and how you cope.  I always feel support knowing I am not alone.  What I don't get (and not that any one of us can give it) is the answer to how I can…"
6 hours ago
Joe Kelly commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"It's a Catch 22, impossible to solve.  I accept Her body isn't alive anymore, but I HAVE TO HAVE HER BODY ALIVE AND STILL WITH ME and I want that to be forever.  I know that's impossible, but I STILL HAVE TO HAVE IT!!! …"
12 hours ago
Teresa D. commented on Kar's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Connie I'm sorry but just know your words do stay in my head. Keven's mom...I'm so sorry that phone came.  There's nothing I can say or do to make this easier on you.  Just know we know exactly how you feel.  Your…"
12 hours ago
Linda Engberg commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Hello Friends, As all of you have stated, I too fake my happiness. I laugh on the outside and am crying for him on the inside. I ache so bad that my Julian is not in my life. I just don't understand why God won't take me. Until he does, I…"
16 hours ago
Nancy commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Morgan.  I wish I had answers but I am in the very same place.  Lost, fake and hollow.  I feel worse than I did a year ago I think because I thought I would feel better and don't. Empty and apathetic.  I'm tired all the…"
23 hours ago
bluebird commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"morgan, I don't know why this has happened to us, our soulmates being torn from us, but it fucking sucks. Have you considered not acting happy and normal, since that isn't how you feel? Especially if acting that way isn't helping…"
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morgan commented on Jon-Paul Ackerman's group Lost My Spouse...
"Please somebody, tell me how I can continue to do this.  I am so depressed.  I get up every day and pretend.  It's what is making me so depressed.  It looks like I am functioning so normally.  Now that I have learned…"
yesterday
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hi Danny. Surviving is art which we all need to practice. Today I met a friend whose father is witnessing the similar illness as my mother i.e. late stage cancer. He is also going through the same emotional turmoil as I went in 2018. After this…"
Saturday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Danny. I hear you.  December will be 4 years "
Saturday
Danny replied to Carla Rose's discussion Lost my Mom a Few Days Ago in the group Lost Without My Mom
"Great reply Sandra"
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Danny commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Its been 5 years and here I am back on the site. Surviving and functioning but just about. "
Saturday
Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Wonderful Avi!!!  "
Saturday
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Amen, Avi."
Saturday
Avi commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Thanks all. This group is my extended family. "
Saturday
M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Avi, that is so lovely to hear — best wishes to her and your family!"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"That's wonderful, Avi. Congratulations. And I wish you another 100 years with her."
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