Brenda Ann
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Angela commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"I understand how someone could struggle with their faith when someone you love has died. I don't personally struggle with it myself because I trust God and know that his thoughts are higher than my thoughts and he always wants what is best for…"
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Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?

This group was started because many are hurting so bad that their faith has been effected.  This is a place you can vent or even ask questions that brother you. Can the Bible or God help you through your grief?  Who is the cause of death? See More
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Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?

This group was started because many are hurting so bad that their faith has been effected.  This is a place you can vent or even ask questions that brother you. Can the Bible or God help you through your grief?  Who is the cause of death? See More
Aug 12
Elynn m commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"Quoting Scripture is really encouraging my faith, and helps with the grief.  Thank you for posting!"
Aug 11
Elynn m commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"I do agree, Trials do not come from God.  That does not mean we won't have trials. I agree with James 1:13 and 1corinthians :10:13 Jesus helps me adjust my views.  As most of us know, when I am weak, then He is strong (2corinthians…"
Aug 11
Brenda Ann left a comment for Moira Lynch
"Dear Moria, Please follow this LINK to "Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?" and a comment I made to you yesterday... Hope you will accept my friendship, Brenda"
Aug 11
Dennis C. commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"Moira Something comforting to me is to remember that our trials do not come from God. He is NEVER the one that puts us to the test, or takes something good away from us. James 1:13 — When under trial, let no one say: “I am being tried…"
Aug 11
Elynn m commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"Well-meaning people may say, “Jesus took your loved one away,” but that can cause people – especially children – to be angry at God. 1 Corinthians 15:26 says death is our last enemy. Therefore, we can say, “Death took…"
Aug 11
Elynn m commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"Just a few thoughts regarding faith; Ecclesiastes 3:1,4 says “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven: a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance. That doesn't mean that we…"
Aug 11
Brenda Ann left a comment for Mary Ann Troxell
"Welcome to online grief support. Sorry for your loses. I send you a (((((hug))))). Wish I could meet you face to face but I really think the Bible is the best source of comfort and would be available to talk anytime. Brenda"
Aug 11
Brenda Ann and Marla are now friends
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Brenda Ann left a comment for Abigail Noell
"I am so so sorry Abigail! (((((Hugs))))) I am so glad you found this website so you have many people who you can talk to... Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies,…"
Aug 10
Brenda Ann commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"You are not alone in feeling like this... Let me, however, asure you that God would never cause your suffering. I sent you a scripture in my friend request found at Isaiah 41:10. It says, "Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be anxious,…"
Aug 10
Brenda Ann left a comment for Moira Lynch
"Dear Moira, I wish I was meeting you to face today so I could give you a (((((HUG))))) but we will have to settle for a cyber one for now. You asked a question that I really want to give you an answer I have benefited from. You asked, "how do…"
Aug 10
Moira Lynch commented on Brenda Ann's group Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?
"After losing my job in June, my brother in July and best friend in August, my faith is surely tested. I have PTSD from dysfunctional upbringing and early losses (brother died at 10 after living with cancer since he was 2 yrs old).  Mom died 5…"
Aug 10

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About Me:
I am disabled, 65 years old, wife, mother of 3 and grandmother(maw maw)to 8. Being disabled and unable to walk, the only way I can give comfort is on line. My family was helped and we want to "pay it forward" by helping others.
About my Loss:
My family lost my father in law to a fall and brain bleed in July of 2010. The grief we have experienced has made us aware the need for comfort.

My brother in law, Roger age 63 passed away Sept 5th 2012 due to a very short but horrifically painful pancreatic cancer.

Tragically Saturday July 5th we lost two of our closest friends. Jill broke her leg, only to find out that her body was riddled with cancer. She passed away 10 days latter. Then we recieved a message on Facebook that another friend had had a massive heart attack and died the same day as Jill. Her name is JoAnn.

(Ecclesiastes 7:1) "A good name is better than good oil, and the day of death is better than the day of birth." For the first time, I think I understand this scripture, and I feel it is so important to tell everyone who JoAnn was and what she meant to us. So few people truly "get" what being a true friend really is. . . but JoAnn . . . so much more than just a friend. She was the definition of empathy - the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. She thought ahead to consider what her friends would need and then made it happen. The sound of her voice was so soothing that as soon as you heard hello you felt comfortable and at home. No matter how long between visits, the friendship and love was instant. JoAnn's love of God drew us to her but who she was inside is why we feel she was the personification of Proverbs 17: 17 - "A true friend shows love at all times, And is a brother who is born for times of distress," a true gift from Jehovah.

November 1, 2016 My husband's mother passed away in her sleep. Esther "mom" was an excellent baker and cook. She canned the vegetables and fruits they grew in their garden and made jellies, wines and baked pies with their produce. Esther was an accomplished seamstresses making all of her very stylish clothes and many of her children's clothes. She crocheted afghans and made beautiful quilts and was the bookkeeper for the Family Plumbing business.

She studied the Bible and loved telling people of the wonderful promises God has recorded in the Bible and why those promises are as sure to be fulfilled as if they were already a reality. [Why Study the Bible? video link = https://www.jw.org/en/publications/videos/#mediaitems/VODMinistryTo...
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Another Nightmare

Friends of ours set out on a three month missionary trip to Costa Rica leaving February 7th 2013. Received a call late February 10th that Tom had passed away that day of a heart attack. His wife, Linda, will be home with him soon. Two of his children flew to Costa Rica to be with their mother.

There are no words to express my sadness. It is Normal to Feel This Way because God did not create man to die or get sick. Thankfully we are comforted by the hope Jesus mentions at (John 5:28,…

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Posted on February 12, 2013 at 4:30pm

Sometimes the best way of helping ourselves is to help others. . .

There is just so much grief - caused by many events in our lives - unfortunately death may well be the worst but many other happenings rank right up there. This is 15 yr old Brandon Parra. He is not my blood grandson but he calls me grandma and it sure feels like he is mine. He has been in the hospital off…

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Posted on February 11, 2013 at 11:55am — 1 Comment

My brother in law

Sad to report that pancreatic cancer claimed my brother in law's life early this morning.  Over the last 2 years he has cared for my mother in law.  She has Alzheimer and is 90 years old. Roger, my brother in law worked with mom to get her muscles toned and made sure she drank enough etc so that today she is in far better condition than 2 years ago when my father in law passed away.  They were in assisted living - which now I feel was no assistance at all.  Roger was a wonderful son and a…

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Posted on September 5, 2012 at 1:11pm — 3 Comments

Closing Chapters

It is so difficult to see another piece of history end. Waves of the past keep flowing over me. Memories. . . such good times. . . our friend Jackie will be missed as is her sister Paula each and every day.  Thank you, Jackie for remembering everything about me and all your smiles and hugs and always putting Jehovah first. It will be wonderful seeing you and Paula and making new forever memories together.

Posted on January 17, 2012 at 1:13am

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At 10:11pm on April 27, 2016, Janet Shores Hoogendyk said…

 Hello. Nice to meet you and thank you for the kind request.

At 11:10pm on January 29, 2016, Felicia said…

 Thanks for being my friend, Brenda Ann. Its nice to have a "sister in the faith" to talk to.  I see your from my home state. I am originally from El Paso, Tx.  Hope you and your family are well!  Agape...

At 6:30pm on February 13, 2015, JLL said…

I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart and apologize for not doing so earlier for the kindness you showed me in your comment to me last year. Thank You Sooo Very Much for taking your time to write what you did and share what you did with me and for me..it means A LOT! Warmest Regards~J

At 11:13am on January 12, 2015, Karen W. said…

thank you Brenda, I can really relate to the Shakespeare quote, it feels like I will bust open from grief if I don't talk about it.

At 5:15pm on December 25, 2014, Jesse's Mom said…

Brenda, thank you for posting some verses from Job, you had left a comment that included Job chapter 10. Just totally described where I am at today after two child losses.

At 4:46pm on November 17, 2014, Julie Prakoon said…

Hi Brenda

Thank you for you kind and comforting words

Im trying my hardest to move on with my daily routine, but sometime it not easy.  Have a good week

 

At 2:19pm on November 17, 2014, Milica said…

Dear Brenda Ann,

Thank you very much for your kind words. I am not a very haring person o I find it quite hard to talk about my emotions. I am going through a very hard time right now so any kind of help and support is more than welcome. I am sure that I will be able to find it here.

I will look through brochures you suggested. Thank you again for your kind words.

Milica

At 9:19pm on November 16, 2014, sandra said…

Brenda,

Thank you for your very kind and thoughtful words. The link to the article is almost like deja vu. A few days or maybe a week after my husband passed, two young men who were Jehovah Witnesses knocked on the front door. I opened the door but immediately told them I wasn't interested. Not wanting to come across as impolite, I accepted their magazine/booklet. The cover article was "When Someone You Love Dies". I thought it was strange and timely. Here you are sending me a link to the same article! 

At 5:47am on November 11, 2014, Lilliana said…
Hi Brenda,
I'm really sorry to read about your losses.
Thank you so much for your kind and comforting words.
I'm still trying to live day by day, it's hard but I try to leave everything in Gods hands.
At 12:15pm on October 24, 2014, Britt said…

Hi Brenda, Thank you for your friend request. I read your blog above, and agree that Our Heavenly Father did not create mankind to die that he gave us a provision by means of Jesus. I know that one day as Rev. 21:4 states "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” I just pray that I will be able to be part of that wonderful blessing so I may see my son, husband, parents, aunts, uncles & friends I miss so much. It is so hard to be strong after all this loss, and feel alone most of the time. The pain is so unbearable after my son died. I only wish he did not push me away, so I could have told him how much I love him. Thank you again for extending your arms to me.

 
 
 

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They don't understand.

How do you deal with well meaning family/friends who just don't understand what you're going through? 2 of my sisters-in-law still have their husbands.  One does not have a good marriage, she talks about her husband dying flippantly she says things like "I know if _____ died I would use the insurance money to go on that vacation he never wants to go on."  Then in the next breath "Are you still going on your cruise next year?  I could take (my husband's) place if you want so you're not alone."…See More
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Janie m Snitko commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Today was a good day! I love you and thank you so very much Mama! I think of you everyday while cleaning up your home and getting it ready for sale. It is still hard for me to go there and not seeing you watching Dr.Phil and judge Judy! I have not…"
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