Im single mum with 2 adult children working 2 jobs, 7 days per weeks. I met my soulmate, best friend & a lover before christmas 2012. It break my heart & very hard to deal with, knowing he told me a day before his death, "he never going to leave & love me".
About my Loss:
Losing my partner of 22months on 1 September 2014, his death unknown, his family wont disclose any details to me. My head & my heart hurts of losing him, even harder to deal his mum & brother didn't acknowledge our relationship. They wont let me in the house to collect my belonging. I lost all belonging but most of all I dont have anything of his belonging to keep as a memory. But I know they cannot take my memories we shared and pictures Ive got.
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Julie, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have not lost my spouse or loved one like that, but I lost my son. I did separate from someone who I loved with all my heart. I cried every day. In a situation like yours, it must be really hard! Try to remember that your partner's family are all going through their own pain and dealing the best they can. Try to remember the times you shared and think of what he would want for you. I bet he would want you to go on, cherish his memory but make new ones with your kids and eventually your grandkids. I wish you peace and love, try to just keep going forward....someday things will get easier for both of us. I believe that with all my heart. xoxoox
So sorry to hear about you loss, but you have found a group that cares about each other and will listen anytime you need to talk. Grief is a journey that everyone travels in their own way and in their own time.
Still the best medicine is to talk to a trusted friend. Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break. Please message me anytime. . .
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